Dating Thread 158 - Don't wait until the iron is hot to strike

[Greenland55]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

jesuis think you're confusing marl with lily with regards to bf feeling like a spare part.
lost hope you're ok.

@lostmykeys you can change your mind at any time. I hope you're ok.

Thanks @CocoKoko123 yes, sorry, I'm getting my 3 somes mixed up.

Thanks for your kindness all. I’m putting it down to experience. I don’t think it would stand up in a court of law for a minute and I can’t face going through the processes. He lured me in so naive of me. Just feel for the next victim. So pleased I posted. Feel better and moving on!

jesuis yep mixing up the 3ways 😂 nah ms cutie isn’t for me but feel I have made a friend!

Oh lost really hope you’re ok x

I am laughing at some of these messages. Especially the mixing up the threesomes haha. I'm new but going to try to keep up with who is who. Thanks for the welcomes :)

I haven’t heard from Mr No Hair, I have been out a few times so hopefully if he did drive past I wasn’t in. If he messages me later I will let him know I’m not interested in the rubbish sex, just a little worried because he knows where I live.

Mr Dog just called me, he wanted to come and see me today but I’m working later (he struggled to understand this). I’m pleased that he seems keen and I’m looking forward to seeing him in Sunday, he asked if my kids ever go to their dads for the night? They don’t as he lives in a b&b but there’s a chance he will look after the kids at mine so I can go out for a night, seems like Mr Dog wants a dirty (or romantic) night away.

noonoo I love it here. Such a good laugh. Welcome!

Lostmykeys what is fun with consent becomes sexual assault without consent even if that consent is withdrawn just prior to the violation. I think I would be included to just visit a police station and ask to speak to a WPC and explain exactly what happened. They may decide that they might wish to speak to the said man just to provide a little advice to him even if no further action is taken.

Lost I hope you are ok?people are right and ‘no’ does mean no. I have put myself in some pretty rubbish situations with men. Watching emerdale this week has made me resales how stupid I have been on many occasions (with their rape story), we can be way too trusting of strangers and we need to be more careful to keep ourselves safe.

Getting your threesomes mixed up may be one of my favourite lines on MN ever.

So good to read many happy daters at the moment. Spring is definitely in the air!

Mr N has been away this week. I may see him in June but am not overly bothered. He would make a great FWB as I know I wouldn't fall for him.

JeSuis yes I am the one who was more interested in the girl during my attempt at a threesome. The guy was not happy and in the end I left as he kept pawing at me while the girl and I were getting it on. She and I have exchanged a few WhatsApp messages since but she isn't interested in meeting me behind her OH's back, which is what would have to happen if we were to see each other again. It did make me realise that I am more 'bi' than I thought. Maybe I should start looking for a girlfriend rather than a boyfriend.

Tinder seems to have gone crazy as I had a mad swiping session last night but I have already deleted a load of conversations which started out okay and then turned very quickly into blatant sex talk. One charmer told me that we would get on well when we met as long as I was prepared to 'put out'.

LilyRose88 Although I would absolutely draw the line with another man, I would be fine with a girlfriend having sex with a woman, and I would not necessarily want to be involved, although it would be nice. As long as I was told beforehand I would say ok. I am sure there are other men with similar attitudes.

I have spoken to a few guys who have had threesoms and all said that they felt left out as the women seemed to be having more fun together.

I’m starting to crave sex, I haven’t really had any since Mr SA apart for the rubbish sex with My no hair which doesn’t really count. I think I will have to try hard to control myself on Sunday 😐

Lovemusic33 its probably because they are cockcentric and if they are not using it they think it isnt fun

@vwman the guy in question certainly didn't share your views unfortunately. He was a bit of a perv actually and she was far too good for him. Shame, as I would love to have had a relationship with her and told her that recently, but they have been together for 18 years and live together and it isn't easy to just end that sort of arrangement on a whim.

@LilyRose88 I can say this because it is anonymous, I enjoy more of a Karezza style of sex rather than a wham bam Mr No Hair style. Some people now heading to google.

@vwman had to google that. I actually prefer it is the finale is reached by both parties, but each to their own . And I'm not into really long sessions as I get bored easily!

I agree vwman , a meaningless quickie just doesn’t do it for me. I don’t mind long sessions if it’s done correctly.

yes, goodness, nothing worse than long drawn out sex

I had a few experiences last year where the blokes could have gone for an oscar they put on such a performance

@LilyRose88 dont get me wrong I can do both, but a slow build up over a couple of hours and you can end up with a brain orgasm which is 10 times better than just a quick ejaculation

@ vwman and @Lovemusic33 maybe I have just been unlucky in the past but the guys I have slept with who have lasted a long time just banged away like a barn door, and I ended up getting bored and sore!

vwman have you read up on Tantric sex?
I guess people like different things, if it’s slow and sensual then I like it to last obviously if it’s a bit more vigorous then I don’t want it to be lasting as long. I guess it also depends what mood your in, I quickie can be fun if there a lot of sexual tension built up before hand or if it’s in a risky place but over all I like it to last a lot longer.

Lily I have had guys like that too, felt like I wanted to fall asleep, they were obviously having fun and I wasn’t. I have only been with a couple guys that have made long sex really good and that probably because of the connection between us and the fact they didn’t just bang away.

vwman - Ah, Karezza sex is when you've both had a few drinks and can't 'get' there, lol. It's still good sex but without the finale.

So, today was OK. Visited the cemetery and went for lunch with my Mum and Bro. No tears.