Dating Thread 158 - Don't wait until the iron is hot to strike

[Greenland55]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@Notcoolmum I didn't feel it before I went, during or after.

Yeah still off completely and I'm much better without them at the moment. Dating is just a mind Fuck and I just want to look after me for a bit.

Stopped smoking on Monday - 4 days in go me!!

Happy birthday bats

Well done lifegoes on the giving up smoking. I've never tried it (parents are smokers and put me off from early age) but I applaud anyone able to kick the habit.

Just passed the one month mark with MrCamper. Not sure how many dates now - maybe 6 or 7 - but second overnight stay at mine last night 😏

lifegoes well done for ditching the fags. Thankfully I’ve never smoked as I know how hard it is to stop. I wouldn’t want to date a smoker. Mr L had the odd one (not mentioned in his profile) and then moved to a usb vapey thing.

Sounds like it’s all going well neverexpected. I lost track of date counting at about 7 or 8. A good sign I think!

Thanks. I've moved to a vape to help for a few months. I've smoked since I was 13 🤦🏻‍♀️

Well done on the month @Neverexpected2 you positive about things

In other news, I've just an absolute hot guy at the shop. I actually stopped in my tracks and then followed him around the shop. But he took off his sunglasses and looked and me and I suddenly realised he wasn't that hot at all. So had to pretend I was looking at toothpaste 🙄

Really need to proofread my posts 🤦🏻‍♀️ but if you understood that, 👏🏻👏🏻

lifegoes just seeing how it goes really. We've agreed not sleeping with others and both hidden our profiles 🤷‍♀️ we're both out of longterm relationships and both have kids (he has his 50/50) so agreed taking things slowly but so far so good

lifegoes well done. 🙌🙌
I have been off the fags 4 weeks today!

happy birthday bat and well done coco on the chat!

That's a good sign @Neverexpected2

Well done @Marlboroandmalbec34 are you using a vape or have you just stopped?

Happy birthday 🥳 BAT

Well done Marlb and life! I'm going to give it a go Monday. It's the anniversary of my Dad dying tomz, so that's gonna be hard. I know there's always an excuse to not stop but I really need to do it.
Glad to hear you cleared the air coco. Congrats on the month mark never.

MrWow has kids and gets on well with my DS who doesn't normally take to anyone. Even when we split up last year he mentioned that he felt sorry for him as he wasn't my boyfriend anymore. He also told my Mum that MrGardener was OK but he'd rather have MrWow. Bless!
I just need him to see my DS in full meltdown mode and then I think he'll 'get it', lol.

Well done on giving up smoking @lifegoes. And @
Marlboroandmalbec34 too.

@Neverexpected2: I agree with @Notcoolmum that losing track of the number of dates is a good sign. MrSG stays at mine so often that I’ve found myself waking up confused and briefly wondering where he’d gone when he’s not here a couple of times. Apparently he woke up in the middle of the night last night and started telling me that I should remember to ask to have the brakes on my car checked (it’s getting a service and mot today). Then he realised that he was talking to himself because I wasn’t there and was a bit embarrassed. 😂

TooOld sorry to hear about your Dad.

It is my Dad's birthday later this month and he passed away two years ago so I always mark anniversaries by going for a run, as it helps me cope with my feelings. I even have a special running T shirt with a relevant themed picture on it that reminds me of him.

I got a text from my iron, all seems ok, though no set date for when we are meeting again (hopefully at the weekend). Have had a stressful day and bad new which is going to cost me lots of money, oh I wish I could find a rich man to help me out this hole 🤣🤣 (joke).

Sorry to hear about the bad news @Lovemusic33. Dealing with financial stuff is often so ridiculously stressful. You want to tell yourself ‘it’s only money’ but that’s so much easier to do when you have lots of it.

My car passed its mot but I need to buy new tires for both back wheels. The guy asked me what kind I wanted, and I said ‘the cheapest ones’. 😂 It’s a decade old diesel Ford Focus used mostly to take DS2 to swimming pools, not something requiring high performance tires.

So Mr Italian has been promoted and is moving to Switzerland. 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Mr Mystery popped up again earlier this week, made me realise how much I miss him but nothing has changed so that can’t go anywhere...

Have a lovely birthday and weekend away @BatshitCrazyWoman!

Hope things improve for you @Lovemusic33

Well done on giving up, smokers!

Thinking of you @Toooldforthis67. Anniversaries are tough. 💐💐

lifegoes I am eating loads of haribo! I have put on half a stone in the last 4 weeks but I put lost 2 stone last summer when split with stbxh and I really could do with a bit of weight gain (hoping it goes on the boobs) keep going!!

tooold

I have a Saturday afternoon walk, cake, tea date with Mr Manflu which is the perfect anecdote to Mr Big and threesomes and plans to go to a swingers club 🙈

Crust I always go for cheap tires on my car too (my cars a mess and used as a taxi for the kids). I have a Campervan which is what needs a lot of money spending in it 🙁 My Iron, lets call him Mr Dog is being nice and has texted me quite a bit this afternoon.

I have hidden my profile on POF mainly because I’m struggling to find any one remotely normal on there and partly because I like Mr Dog. Mr Teacher messaged me yesterday after not speaking for ages (I suspect he was dating someone) and I still have Mr Normal who wants a date next week but I’m trying to brush him off because he has too many amber/red flags.

Well done all the ex smokers - think of the money you'll save as well as being more healthy.

@StealthNinjaMum Thats great news and, even better, you've probably snagged the attention of those that read the profiles too!

Thanks @HairyArsedMan I have been asked out today by a lovely man who is only ONE YEAR YOUNGER than me and had a steady flurry of interest. Mr YoungEnoughToBeMySon made it clear he was very interested and I freaked out a bit and stopped replying.

@starryunicorn I'm a bodyworker who specialises in helping people who have been through trauma, gently helping them to feel safe in their bodies. I'm not suggesting you need that level of help, but there are certainly massage and myofascial release practitioners out there who could help you. Just a thought - please ignore if it doesn't feel helpful.

tooold

Well done stealth. Hope it’s okay too old. Coco that sounds promising.
Date no 2 with mr races went well. Was in a civilized pub so couldn’t touch much but a great snog in the pouring rain at the end. Definitely left us both wanting more lol. He was supposed to be busy all weekend but now today his Friday plans have postponed. My question to you guys is is this too quick? 3 dates in 5 days. I seem bad at taking it slowly?!? Help

ccgirr I think if you have time for dates close together then that’s fine, I’m hoping to have another date with Mr Dog on Sunday and if that’s ok I will probably see him Monday, in a way I would rather get to know him quite quickly so I can decide how much I like him, I often find after 3rd and 4th dates you start to see the real them so the sooner the better.