Dating Thread 158 - Don't wait until the iron is hot to strike

[Greenland55]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

That's a shame bythecooker but at least you know.

Good luck coco

I haven’t heard from MrCoward, I’m glad though. Back to the drawing board.

Hi StarryUnicorn, have you thought about ways of getting used to physical contact on the way to kissing your future dates? I’m thinking therapeutic massages (obviously not pervy ones...), head massage when you get a haircut, manicures etc. Some safe physical contact. You may already do this sort of thing of course.

Agree that you don’t need to tell your dates unless or until you want to. It’s nothing to be ashamed of but also it’s your personal information to share or not share. Good luck! Exciting times for you ahead I hope!!

jesuis oh my. I want a Mr Cornish!

Hope it goes ok coco

So I decided to completely ignore everyone on here’s good advice and ignore my own misgivings and had a threesome last night with Mr Big and Ms Cutie. It was AMAZING 😂
sooo my fade out of Mr Big didn’t work BUT as always after I have seen him I know he isn’t right for me and is only a FWB

Had to rearrange my date with Mr Manflu for the weekend but he seems nice. Messaging is not massively exciting but consistent and he is local and tall and seems friendly

Still talking to Mr Tatts and Mr Irish has reappeared so hopefully some nice warm irons for when I get back from my hols

OMG malbec I can barely get a snog and you are having a threesome! Congrats! And on the healthy selection of irons...

@Marlboroandmalbec34 I'm over the moon you did it. I think you would have always wondered if you hadn't. I'm so pleased it went well

Thanks emojina

lifegoes thanks 😁I just thought oh bugger it you only live once and it was such a fun evening!

@Marlboroandmalbec34

ooer! Fun evening, I bet it was!

Best way to be @Marlboroandmalbec34 I'm so excited for you. I want to know all the details hahaha but know you can't say. So I'm just going to sit in awe at your lovelife

lifegoes I desperately want to share details..it was brilliant but most of my real life friends would be very judgy. The one friend I can tell isn’t coming till the weekend...I am busting a gut to discuss it but my love life really is a shambles so don’t be in awe!

It really was simon!

@Marlboroandmalbec34 we all have friends like that 🙄. But I for one think it's great you did it. Bet you are dying to talk about it. I would be the same

Your love life is better than mine, so I'm living my excitement through you 😬

lifegoes last week I think you were hiding under a rock and I was coming to join you. At least we are both pushing forward 😁

Haha this is true. Might need to get myself back on fab for some fun 😉 Marlboro

I want to hear all the details too malboro and not in a sleazy way! I've got my first threesome lined up in June and I need tips! So glad you're moving forward though. Lovely to read happy posts on this thread recently, it does give me hope, especially as outside Fab I'm not getting any interest.

Haha putastraw I was googling for tips. Needn’t have bothered. It was grand!!!

Good for you malboro!

Glad you had a good time @Marlboroandmalbec34.

I hope the chat was OK, @CocoKoko123.

I’ve been dealing with a plumbing disaster tonight. It positively ruined my reading a book in the bath plans for the evening. That’s how exciting my life is tonight. 😆

That sounds like quite a move @JeSuisPrest.

MrSG is the same height as me (and I’m a very ordinary height). But he is very strong (and muscular) so he can (and does) just pick me up sometimes.

This thread really does move fast! For the first time in a year, I'm off all apps. Not sure how long for. Suppose I miss the man of my dreams while I'm sitting on the invisibility bench? 😂 I took more selfies today and eventually caught one that doesn't make me look like the love child of Iggy Pop and Jane McDonald.

A man I know has met someone online, however he has barely separated from his wife. I saw his profile on POF before she moved out...😠 She knows he's met someone.

Just to ask, how soon do you known if you want to kiss someone? Do you know quite quickly if you fancy them?

@Ash559 I think you just know that you think you’d like to kiss them. With MrSG, we were having a really nice date in a pub and had started being a bit flirty, finding excuses to sit closer to each other/lean in to each other/hold the same glass etc. So I (somewhat embarrassingly) kissed him on the cheek. He says he’d ‘like to do that’. So we kissed.

I had loo updated my friend that I definitely fancied him earlier. And I’d ascertained that he might feel similarly at that point.

Writing it down makes us sound like ridiculous teenagers, rather than nearly 40.

The last person I kissed before that was my ex more than a decade ago. And that was a debacle even from the beginning. What I learned from that was that you shouldn’t get into a relationship with someone you don’t even really fancy (at the start) just because it would be embarrassing to have gotten drunk and slept with someone at a (work related) conference. And that you shouldn’t just sleep with someone you don’t really fancy (and haven’t yet kissed) because you’re a bit drunk and it would be awkward to tell them that they need to find themselves another taxi (because they got out at your hotel when You got dropped off).

I mean, it should have been obvious really. I now have a policy of only kissing people I definitely fancy.

Well, currently I have a strict policy of only kissing MrSG. And no desire whatsoever to deviate from it.

But generally, I’m never going to be so bloody stupid again. If I’m not certain that I like and fancy someone, then they’re getting nowhere near my lips.

Re kissing, I think it's a very good indicator of whether you fancy someone or if they're right for you. I'm listening to my gut instinct (if that's a physical possibility!) these days. I had a couple of dates with someone last summer, and I thought he was lovely. By the end of the second, I just couldn't bring myself to kiss him. He was keen, but something wasn't right.

Anyway, I'm on Tinder now. Swiped a few but not completed the stack yet. I might also copy the profile onto Bumble. Please get me off the bench of invisibility! 😂

Anyone on here with ASD kids? I'm having a serious growl moment with MrWow. He can't see my son's issues and to be fair, he has spent a fair amount of time here. BUT my son acts differently in company.
I guess it's just what us Mum's with ASD kids get used to. Would that piss you off?

@TooOld my eldest has ASD, he is an adult now but still needs alot of support which people don't always realise as he looks quite capable. He also talks non stop which I guess people could find annoying where as I am used to it and filter it out. If I did meet someone and it became serious they would have to be accepting of this and show patience, otherwise it would never work. I do think it makes things more complicated, it's difficult isn't it.