Dating thread 155 - Spring lovin'

[supercali77]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

I don't worry too much about my wrinkly mum tum because there's not a lot I can do about it. It's wasted energy. Also, I have good parts of my body (cracking set of legs). No one is perfect.

conversation from men (or rather the manner of a first message)

"You are stunning" always gets my goat. I've written a detailed profile and my looks are what they comment on. Most of the time when a man opens with such a superficial comment I do not reply. Do men honestly think this is the best way to introduce themselves? I'm gobsmacked by the amount that do it [/rant over]

This is what I meant by it what @StarryUnicorn says.

it seemed to mean something other than body shape, more like football shirt bedecked starchy brained oaf with a case of generalised misogyny. The beer belly is typical but not the defining feature iyswim.

You can tell this from a picture, yes. There's usually a clue. It's not really about appearance per se.

@Peanuthedz

You can't tell someone's intelligence from the way they look, can you???

Drummers have a reputation as being thick as pig shit (maybe just muso banter, IDK). If I have a picture of me playing drums on my website, do people actually assume I am thick as pig shit? guess I will be taking that picture down

*picture on my profile, not website

@MrDrummer I am ridiculously attracted to musicians and it seems, particularly drummers, so a photo with a guy playing an instrument would immediately grab my attention but I guess we’re all different!

A muscle-bound guy at the gym with his top of would be an instant left swipe, whereas I imagine other women might be attracted to that.

I don't do practice dates as I don't have the time and tbh I wouldn't want to lead someone on. Last year I would have gone on dates with someone if I thought they could become a good friend but weren't dating potential but I don't need that now anymore so I wouldn't do that either

Drummers have good coordination and are good with their hands.

Drummer clearly I'm not your target audience however I'd leave it on there, think it indicates a number of positive traits.
Is it a photo of you at a gig?

@MrDrummer I have a drummer friend who is one of the most intelligent and interesting men I know. I also fancy him but he’s married so that’s a non starter.

Also, Dave Grohl. I don’t need to say any more.

New iron: Mr BMW.

He's right on the edge of my preferred age range (old) but my God I want to jump his bones. We've had one date and I felt very attracted.

So ladies, I need ideas for Date #2. Can't simply sit in a pub and get drunk like I did last time. But don't want something that will last hours and hours as I get fatigued.

Ideas please! What dates have you really enjoyed in the past?

Also, I feel shy and awkward eating around men I've just met cause I'm a fast eater so no restaurants just yet.

loo I'm a super fast eater - just means I can talk more .

Art gallery? Gig? Walk in the park? I would probably do a meal for a second date if I really liked them

@Sunshineandflipflops

Actually the picture is very old, like when I was 19 maybe. It is a great action shot of someone clearly playing with passion and energy. On reviews, it has gotten a mixed reaction, probably because it is really old.

Been trying to get a more recent one on a kit, but my kit is in storage, and it's going to look so contrived anyway. There is an open mic session run in a local pub, which I was going to try to go to but I have no mates to take a picture of me.

just means I can talk more

haha!

I'm thinking comedy club...

@Sunshineandflipflops

You need to google Thomas Lang, world renowned technician and looks a lot like Arnold Schwarzenegger in his hay-day. He is my drummer man-crush.

Why the hell is Mr Author interested in me now just after I gave up on him? He had a window of opportunity right after the second date but his chronic apathy at the time crushed any attraction.

Drummer- old pic prob could be a put off as might assume you’ve changed a lot and wonder why not a recent

loo file him under men who like the chase!

Is it better to have a fee dates over the Easter weekend or just one...

@MrDrummerI just googled him and I approve of your man crush

If it’s a very old pic then I would say no and definitely try and get a more recent one. I love live music so would offer to come and take it for you but I’m midlands based!

Loo I enjoy a country or beach walk with a coffee at the end. You can really chat and it's a great to hold hands if you like them. Did I miss the details of date 1?
MrDrummer potato men are that particular brand of man that look like unhealthy thugs, given away by footy tops, photos of them giving the finger or swilling tinnies. They often don't reveal their profession "ask" "I work" or "yeah" and they went to "the university of life". Hobbies include "going out with the lads", "having a drink and a laugh" and "footy". If they have children they are "my princess" or "my little champ" and are always their world, despite only seeing them one afternoon a month. They try to look like hard men and message women 20 years younger and with well thought out insightful profiles with gems like "wow, I would darlin" or "gorjus". They all have a look, but they don't all look the same. It isn't an aesthetic description.

Few*
Finally it's the weekend and I'm just thinking about next week already!

@ccgirr Pretty sure I have changed since I was 19. It does clearly state that it is from a long time ago and all my other pics are less than a month old. It's to try to capture who I am, rather than what I look like. I think I will get rid of it though, just to avoid confusion!

No to David Grohl!