Dating thread 153- The adventures of... [Title edited at OP's request]

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

@ItsAMiracle2015 I know!!

Whats the tinder distance thing?

Candace when I first OLD I entertained all the conversations. All of them. Even the 'hi how r u' messages. Now I very rarely meeting someone unless I thoroughly enjoy chatting to them. It's been 3 weeks since I had a date and I've spoken to maybe 20 guys since but only 1 I actually want to meet. Kind of. Mr Guitarist. Sigh 😂.

I would say I did try Match at first but found it way too intense. I prefer Tinder and Bumble now. But still get the sex chat (which I ignore).

@StealthNinjaMum Thanks. I don't care much about by neck, I care much more about the definition of my jaw. Definitely looks better before. I just didn't realise. I have a shoulder injury at the moment anyway, so will need advice from my physio as whether I can do weights with it. I am a good customer at the physio's (his words), what will my dodgy shoulder, dodgy foot and dodgy back. I never had any injuries when I was a coach potato!

@ItsAMiracle2015 that's exactly how I feel with Match it's all too intense & I'm finding it difficult to switch off.

The men are either I feel incompatible or way out of my league - no in between!

Welcome Candace. I agree with other posters that you shouldn't entertain any conversations where they are not making any effort (the 'how's you' type). And don't have a set number of dates before you dts in mind but if you want ton wait beyond the 2nd or 3rd then there's nothing wrong with that.

Excuse typos!

I met Mr Far today for lunch
He brought flowers (going old school) and had told his friends he was coming to meet me. He seemed quite nervous imho
He bought me lunch
We had a bit of a kiss in the car park.

So job's a goodun I think. Will update when there's news

Not sure how I feel about this.

The bloke I spoke about the other day switching his phone etc. Well, I've trying to not text as much to try and let things dwindle out. Failed 🤦🏻‍♀️

Text me last night saying enjoy your night out - I don't know how he knew I was out. But I asked he said my location changed on tinder.

Today we were texting, then he went i quiet. I noticed every time I logged on to WhatsApp he was online so sent him a friendly message. It read as it got delivered as if he was on our chat page.

Yet he also gives me vibes he's not interested. I'm confused and spooked out by the two above things.

Thoughts?

I'd try not to read too much into WhatsApp, lifegoes sometimes I'm sure I look like I'm just sitting on my phone waiting for messages when I'm really not.

lifegoes SACK HIM OFF!!! He is not worth your sanity.

Miracle he's driving me mental I'll be honest. I don't want to go back on tinder as he's obv watching my location updates and I'm not at home.

I tried not message but he was so nice. But I'm thinking it's more controlling.

WAR he's acting strange tbh though. He's never online like this and it freaked me out it read straight away.

lifegoes the hills are that way >>>>>

Monitoring your location on tinder, and then being on your chat when you sent that message is creepy as fuck.

lifegoes sounds like he's stalking you. Get rid! If he's making you anxious then he's not for you.

shitwith Mr Rugby isn't giving you what you want. Time to move on, I think.

Candace welcome. You have to learn to filter out the time wasters. You don't owe them a conversation.

BatshitCrazyWoman sounds fantastic!

Sunshineandflipflops good to hear it all went well

MIA I agree, he is totally my type but he's freaking me out. There's so many red flags even if I don't have any evidence.

Myold. He's making really anxious and suspicious of him.

Would you tell him or just delete his number and ignore if he texts.

Please listen to your gut life

I wouldn’t tell him, I’d just block his number.

Block him and unmatch on tinder lifegoes.

Thank you miracle and Mia I always pick nutjobs lately 🤦🏻‍♀️ why can't I just find a decent man.

Also has anyone else had issues caused by the locations on tinder. Mine only updates when I log in, so I'm not always on it.

Twice now The location part has caused an issue for me personally.

I unmatch once chatting elsewhere is established. Then you can't be seen any more, no issue

War that's what I need to do, once the number is swapped. Just remove.

lifegoes block and delete him. No explanation needed
Tinder and Bumble automatically update your location when you open the app. I generally only use it at home so my location rarely changes.
But if I open it somewhere else then I make sure I open it again at home to reset my location.
These things are there to make us paranoid!

MyOld

Awww I'm gutted I have to block him, but he's not right for me at all.

Twice I've been told I'm somewhere when once I wasn't and once I was, because of the app.

Don't be gutted. He was clearly stalking you if he was watching your location.
That's just creepy behaviour and wouldn't get any better if you started dating.

lifegoes he doesn't sound right for anyone! Not your fault. Although you do seem to attract the nutty ones 😉.