Dating thread 153- The adventures of... [Title edited at OP's request]

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

Haha peanut! That is literally my dilemma 😂😂. I think I will if he asks but he's brand spanking new to tinder so don't think he's in any rush to ask. He sends me a WhatsApp and I'm actually excited to read it 😂😂.

I'm quite nervous about seeing mr Unsuitable tonight. Ive got a thing with friends first and I'm going to try to get him to meet me there. But after I put my feelings out there who knows what he'll say. And if he's leaving the country. But reading the thread is such a comfort. It reminds me that there are so many other potentials out there if he does go, once I've been sad for a bit.

Married, house and kids already all in my head lifegoes 😂. Like full on. I actually dreamed about our perfect life together last night. I don't know how to stop 🤷.

Oh enjoy it @ItsAMiracle2015. At least you know it's daft. Even if you're hoping it's not... what's the worst that will happen? Disappointment? Or a messy divorce in 10 years?

Good luck tonight peanut. When is he planning to leave the country? And for how long? Forever?

End of May. Maybe. If it goes it's forever. Or it is as far as I'm concerned. I'm not waiting for him to come back in s year or so when he misses London.

Well MrLocal showed. Had a pleasant afternoon. He was even better looking in flesh and definitely the best looking I've been out with to date. No akward silences and stuff in common - but not sure if I'll hear from him again. Just couldn't work out if he was interested or just being nice. He messaged when we got back but just pleasantries and we haven't messaged much before meeting anyway. But my gut feeling is this was a one off. So will have to see how Thursday goes (if it does) with MrNorth 😊

Last night I sent MrStone a picture of a glorious sunset with the the following message:

"See, play your cards right and this time next year we could be sat together outside with a view like this, drinking a bottle of wine whilst the kids play football reminiscing about how gagging for it you were and how restrained I was. Or we might never see each other again🤷🏻‍♀. The fun of online dating 😂 x"

His reply: "Lol fuck me you are harsh🤣x"

And we're still chatting today so it didn't scare him off 😁

@Peanuthedz All options are open! Bumble is working out well with matches now all the women are swiping on everyone and messaging going on. Hopefully I can break out the bunting soon like @MyOldBrainStoppedWorking

@supercali77 +1 here for Fleabag!

Jesuis sounds like you have quite the rapport going with MrStone

@Still18atheart He's just after getting his leg over. I'm playing hard to get. To give him his dues, he's calmed down a lot since I told him I wouldn't be sleeping with him on date 2 next week (if it actually happens...🙄) I was convinced once I said that he'd ghost me, but he didn't 🤷‍♀️

Just a brief update 😁

1. I shouldn't have been nervous
2. We didn't get as far as ordering the food or watching the film
3. We are definitely compatible

☺️😳😁

@30somethingandsingle go you! Glad you had a good night

So, I was looking back at some old photos from about a year ago. Now, despite losing about a 1.5 in weight since then, I am wondering if I actually looked better back then. I had been a regular weight trainer until about a year ago but then switched to running and dropped the weights altogether. Now, this is definitely fat loss (I have body composition analysis info going back 2 years), but I can tell I have lost a lot of definition around my shoulders and neck too, which is some muscle.

I am just scratching my head that maybe I actually looked better back then, despite the subsequent weight loss. Might have to be via whatsapp unless you can do private attachments, but would anybody be willing to look at a few comparison photos? Won't be a review on the quality of the pics, or suitability for profile - they will be bathroom shots!

Please and thank-you in advance.

Yes MrDrunner I'll have a look.

Nitey nite All

MrDrummer please sent me your pics, lol. I will review in the morning.x

Yay 30. This makes me happy! And a little envious 😂😂.

Drummer how come you dropped the weights? Running will make you leaner...

Yay!!! Sounds like a great night 30something

Mr Scouse has ditched our booty call later as he forgot he’s with the kids. I sent him some drunk texts last night but we both agreed we really liked each other and whilst it was scary it was worth seeing where this goes.

30 so so jealous!

Last night was really good, he was a real gentleman (until I made it clear I wanted more )
We are going out again on Thursday and he's offered I stay at his afterwards (which I will).

Should we have an exclusivity chat? Or too soon? Or not bother at all and just assume?I'm fairly certain he's not dating/chatting to others.
I don't have any interest in seeing others, I'd like to concentrate on this to see where it goes but I don't want to do that if we aren't on the same page.
I'm such an amateur at proper dating 🙈

drummer happy to have a look

I had the same thing. Lost a lot of weight but toned up doing weights as I had an injury and couldn't run. Then started running and my shape completely changed. I think running is great for weight loss but not any good for definition/tone! I can see the movement on the tracking machine at gym and it's quite fascinating!

30 is this a first date, if so I wouldn't have the exclusivity chat just yet! Glad you had a good time though!

Yey 3O!

People I think I have an iron!!!!
My latest stint of unsuccessful dating has been three months on GSO and Bumble with no interest at all.
I put the profile up on PoF really only to ask advice of wiser daters here and ... I am chatting with someone who is local and seems interested - at least he tells me what he is up to and wants to chat this evening when he gets back.
I know this does not sound much - but for me it is amazing!
If the chat goes well this evening, I will think of something to call him.