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Dating thread 153- The adventures of... [Title edited at OP's request]

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30somethingandsingle · 04/04/2019 15:10

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

OP posts:
Marlboroandmalbec34 · 04/04/2019 15:12

Is this dating thread 152 mark 2? 😂

Original poster
30somethingandsingle · 04/04/2019 15:13

Yes! Haha not sure I can change it! Doh!

OP posts:
Marlboroandmalbec34 · 04/04/2019 15:13

Sure everyone will find us!

Sunshineandflipflops · 04/04/2019 15:14

Missed the new thread so am re-posting here!

I'm still undecided as whether to take my guy up on his offer to stay at his on saturday night after we go out for drinks. He lives nearby and my last train home is at 10.15pm. Been on 2 dates so far (will have been 3 by the potential sleepover). I fancy him, we had a kiss at the end of date two...I just don't want to risk the 'got what he wanted and lost interest' thing happening.

I did just go out and buy a big tote bag though so that i can potentially carry overnight essentials with me if I do decided to grin

Sunshineandflipflops · 04/04/2019 15:17

*sorry, if I do decide to stay over!

JeSuisPrest · 04/04/2019 15:17

Checking in... I've been swiping on Tinder. Some beardy tall guy is ringing me later for a chat Blush I'll call this one MrSmiley.

I will ask MrBridge out - I promise.

Marlboroandmalbec34 · 04/04/2019 15:21

sunshine new tote bag? You are soooo staying over Wink

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30somethingandsingle · 04/04/2019 15:22

@Sunshineandflipflops it's difficult but if you want to stay at his then I would, but I gets it's hard not to worry that he will have got what he wanted. I would potentially just see how you feel on the night.

Can someone report this thread so HQ change the title to 153? I can't do it on my phone.

OP posts:
Sunshineandflipflops · 04/04/2019 15:24

sunshine new tote bag? You are soooo staying over

Haha! Just want to be prepared Wink

I guess whenever we were to potentially dtd, he could still feel he got what he wanted so if he's like that maybe better to find out early!

Ant330 · 04/04/2019 15:25

Sunshine if he's somebody that will disappear when he's got what he wanted, then he's also going to disappear if he doesn't. In which case good riddance.
Make the choice based on what you want, not because of something he may or may not do ;)

LilyRose88 · 04/04/2019 15:29

Sunshine take the tote bag and see how the evening pans out. You can always leave in time for the last train if you aren't sure.

I have invited Mr Outdoors round to my house on Sunday afternoon for pizza. I am unable to walk at the moment due to my dating injury (a fall down the pub stairs on Tuesday for those who didn't read my post about it) so I cannot meet him anywhere else right now. I thought an afternoon date was better as I certainly don't want to sleep with him yet (and not sure if I do at all, to be honest). Saturday night would have been awkward as he might have assumed that I wanted him to stay over.

Jesuis that was quick - I never get results that quickly after swiping on Tinder. And do ask Mr Bridge out.

Still18atheart · 04/04/2019 15:33

Marking place
sunshine what does the new tote look like? As it got some sassy slogan about sex or catching the train on it? Smile

MrDrummer · 04/04/2019 15:36

@Sunshine*

I just don't want to risk the 'got what he wanted and lost interest' thing happening.

Isn't there always going to be that risk of that, though?

HairyArsedMan · 04/04/2019 15:38

StealthNinjaMum > I think I'll join pof because my house is also a mess.

There is a NinjaMum already on there (near my place of work)

I have my Tinder range set to quite short (10 miles) because I travel 35 miles to work so I figure between the two locations that will catch anyone I'm likely to be able to meet. Does this seem like a sensible strategy ? Or would I have to be swiping at work in the disabled loo to trigger the second location ?

Marlboroandmalbec34 · 04/04/2019 15:53

On tinder I have my distance set as 15 miles but 90% of the people it shows me are 30 miles away! Why?

LilyRose88 · 04/04/2019 15:55

Marboro my Tinder is the same. Mr Outdoors lives one hour's drive away and he was one of my closer swipes! I'm sure there must be some decent guys closer to home.

Eesha · 04/04/2019 16:05

placemarking!

Ant330 · 04/04/2019 16:08

Hairy yes you need to be swiping at work to pick up anybody 10 miles from that location as well as home. But that will also bring up people 10 miles in the opposite direction to home ;)

shitwithsugaron · 04/04/2019 16:17

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Marlboroandmalbec34 · 04/04/2019 16:23

lillyrose I don’t get it, I live in a city!!

HairyArsedMan · 04/04/2019 16:31

@marlboro I think they pick you up by virtue of their range prefs and then end up in your swipeable list.

Wonder if it does the same thing with age ranges as I see youngsters in my list (who presumably have their upper age higher than mine)

shitwithsugaron · 04/04/2019 16:33

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MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 04/04/2019 16:42

I decided to try the Bumble challenge. Swiped right on everyone within 15miles. Got 5 matches, all are ok except 3 of them are men I've messaged on POF who have ignored me.
I've messaged all 5, lets see what happens.

shitwithsugaron · 04/04/2019 17:03

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LilyRose88 · 04/04/2019 17:08

Spent 5 minutes on Tinder and got two matches within 10 km. That's about as good as it gets Grin