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Dating thread 153- The adventures of... [Title edited at OP's request]

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30somethingandsingle · 04/04/2019 15:10

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

OP posts:
HairyArsedMan · 04/04/2019 18:53

@shitwithsugaron oh yeah, I have to then match those in my queue then wait 24hrs for them to message unmatch. I am guessing those profiles are catfish. I didn't know such things existed until my sister explained the concept so now I forward all the gorgeous ones to her for advice on whether to go-ahead and make a fool out of myself

shitwithsugaron · 04/04/2019 18:56

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ItsAMiracle2015 · 04/04/2019 18:57

Just swiped right on someone who's 6'8 ❤️❤️❤️. However his profile says he will not date someone who smokes yet my profile shows I definitely smoke and we've matched 😂😂.

Still18atheart · 04/04/2019 18:59

Started chatting with a guy on tinder last night. Think I swiped by mistake tbh. Anyway v boring convo he likes drinking tea as he kept saying he was having a cuppa. And he likes comedies I’ve never heard of. Work in similar fields though.

ItsAMiracle2015 · 04/04/2019 19:01

Proper laughed Still18atheart. Keeps saying he's having a cuppa 😂😂😂.

MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 04/04/2019 19:03

Trying to arrange a date with Mr tattoo
Him: fancy doing something one evening
Me: a drink next week would be good
Him: let me know what evening you are free
Me: any evening except Monday
Him: ok. Sounds good

Tempted to just say let's not bother. Am I being too fussy? Last time I was asked on a date I was called a self centered c* for daring to suggest an exact time and place. This is too laid back for me. I need to know where and when.

Focus2019 · 04/04/2019 19:04

@MyOldBrainStoppedWorking I hate that too one of my pet hates! I usually just go back with well you let me know when you are free!

MrDrummer · 04/04/2019 19:04

@Still18atheart

Work in similar fields though.

Are you both farmers? Wink

Focus2019 · 04/04/2019 19:07

On Tinder you will find if you set your miles then the people showing at a bigger mileage may have swiped on you. If you set your distance to 2 miles you get to see people who've swiped on you 😉😉😉

Lovemusic33 · 04/04/2019 19:08

Marking my place. Not sure what’s wrong with all my iron, they all seem to be sending me suggestive messages today, even Mr Teacher is getting in on the act and he’s usually sensible.

user1466783975 · 04/04/2019 19:09

myold, i'm having that too. I just want to say is Saturday on without coming across as desperate and bossy.
mrdrummer are you in relationship territory now? Hope all going well :)

ItsAMiracle2015 · 04/04/2019 19:09

Now then Focus2019 that's useful to know, although am I brave enough?! Maybe later after a glass of wine 😂.

Marlboroandmalbec34 · 04/04/2019 19:10

shitwith 6.5....pleeeeasecan I have him?

itsamiracle I could be persuaded to give up smoking for 6.8 swooooon

ItsAMiracle2015 · 04/04/2019 19:10

*myold' I would literally say well let me know which day's best for you before I make other plans 🤷.

ItsAMiracle2015 · 04/04/2019 19:11

marlboro literally spent 5 minutes wondering how long I can go without a cigarette and would that be enough 😂😂😂.

Still18atheart · 04/04/2019 19:13

itsamiracle what got me is that his profile says he likes coffee but nothing about liking tea.
MrDrummer no Grin

MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 04/04/2019 19:14

user1466783975 have you agreed a time and place? I would probably wait til tomorrow evening then just ask "are you still ok to meet tomorrow"

user1466783975 · 04/04/2019 19:24

No time and place yet myoldbrain. He's one of these that is leaving lots of kisses but a man of few words. Looks a bit of a bad boy,cute, full of tats and loads of piercings, also much younger. sigh

I really should be going for someone more suitable,i know

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30somethingandsingle · 04/04/2019 19:25

Just arrived at the venue of my date... spilt my drink all down my new top! Ffs!

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StealthNinjaMum · 04/04/2019 19:25

Still18atheart someone put they liked coffee on their profile?

Myoldbrain that level of indecisiveness would annoy me if it continues throughout the relationship.

Still18atheart · 04/04/2019 19:30

StealthNinjaMum yes Blush amongst other things incl wine craft beer and the chemistry of meeting other people or some pompous shit like that

Marlboroandmalbec34 · 04/04/2019 19:35

30something ah crap. Can it be saved?

itsamaracle seriously I would make it work 😂.

MrDrummer · 04/04/2019 19:39

@user1466783975

No, definitely not that.

shitwithsugaron · 04/04/2019 19:39

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Still18atheart · 04/04/2019 19:41

30something oh no! Is it obvious? On a scale of red wine on white too to white wine black top, how bad is it?