Dating thread 152: onwards and upwards

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

@shitwithsugaron
I laughed

a few of my fist kisses seem to have been in pub car parks

I hope that is a typo, @Sunshineandflipflops !!!

I think I have had it with multi dating/ chatting. I feel no connection to any of my irons because I get them all confused in my head.
In fact I contacted them all last night and told them I was dealing with some personal stuff and would be offline for a week. I need a break!

I told Mr Big I was done with multi chatting and had got rid of all my other irons he asked why, I told him I felt no connection to them. He told me he only messages 1 or 2 at a time. I would love to know what he thinks of me. Am I an iron to him? A FWB? Does he like me? Am I someone he has dtd a few times with who won’t stop messaging him?
We then messaged a bit about what we had each done that day. Oh bloody hell I am so overinvested!

shitwith a big unmumsnetty hug from me. I think we are the same person. Why are we falling for Fab shaggers!! Hope you hear from Mr Rugby. I thought your joke was great!

30something no good comes of fb stalking..I did the same last night and it always makes me feel like crap

lilyrose good luck with the date and the blisters

I laughed too @shitwithsugar on. I think a chat with MrRugby is much needed.

With the looking for an LTR thing, I would have thought that people might have an idea that the ultimate aim could be an LTR. But obviously these things are person-specific, so you wouldn't want to start out with something like: 'I'm looking to spend the rest of my life with someone' because that sounds terrifying - actually from both ends: there's no way you want to in any way imply any level of commitment to the potential iron you've just started messaging and has reached the 'so what are you looking for?' bit of the conversation.

if it's any consolation, I always fall for the good shaggers. It's because in my many years I have learned that there are a lot more shit shaggers than good shaggers so when a good shagger comes along I suddenly get all OMFG DO NOT PASS GO

someone at work sent me an article in the Sun about grannies going to Gambia and letting the locals grind against them. If I ever behave in this manner, I hope you all take me out to the garden and shoot me.

@Crustaceans I'm seeing this more on Bumble, unanswered 1st messages but I chatted to some male friends who said they just swipe on everyone and decide later. It's a shame as Bumble was meant to be one of the better ones.

I was chatting to a lady today who was saying her mum was slightly vulnerable /maybe SEN but has been on dating apps and been taken advantage of. I wondered if there are sites specifically for people like this?

I might need someone to review my Bumble but how do I send my profile to anyone? Is it possible?

daffo when I said fab shaggers I meant the guys we had met via fab. Although I didn’t meet Mr Big on there he is on there and is really into the swinging bit (brill shag too)

wow yes please shoot me if you ever hear me talking about moving to Gambia for a grinding

@shitwithsugaron I laughed too.He's a weirdo And I like lilyrose's idea of meeting up with him. Hot and cold is not a turn on - do you think that's what you're getting or a blip?

@Crustaceans I'm a bit like you in that respect. Until you get to know someone, how can you know what you want from them? Apart from fun, getting on, chemistry... and see where that goes. OTOH I know what I don't want. I also had an abusive, manipulative ex. who played mind games and I hated it.

The ball is in my guy's court... I'm not mentioning the weekend again (although I was quite happy with the kisses last night and the morning texts).

I can't possibly expect to be a priority after a week of knowing him, I suppose, and this trip has been in his diary for ages now, but the finer details can be tweaked to get him home for Saturday night - and me - if that's what he wants.

Thanks @richdeniro for your advice, I really appreciate it.

And I like lilyrose's idea of meeting up with him Mr Rugby that is

I will try to do a loo update later tonight if I can get a signal - sometimes my 4g doesn't work indoors.

Khaleesi I had a manipulative abusive ex who I spent six years with, so I am very much of the opinion that I want chemistry, a bit of fun and good sex! I have adult children so I am not after a family and I do not need financial security so you would think that they would be queuing up at my door .

@LilyRose88 Same! although one child still at high school but I'm good on paper I think

Have fun tonight!!

thanks shit

marlboro not often I get Fab shaggers mixed up with great shaggers - I will keep an eye out for any grinding activity

Busy day for me iron wise.

FWBMrPlumber is meeting me for a quick coffee after work, then I'm meeting MrStone for drinks at 7.45pm - we've been messaging this afternoon and he says he's really looking forward to it, though the conversation is now getting a little innuendo heavy, so I've tried my best to nip it in the bud and said I'm busy in work now and I'll see him tonight. Meeting in a pub so no first date shagging and it's a school night, though DD is at her dad's tonight...

I'll try and do a loo update.

@shitwithsugaron I think you should leave it now with MrRugby. He isnt giving you what you want, just let him chase you. You are the prize!

My date on Saturday went great. Thibk this is our ... 11th date or sommat. We went to a fancy restaurant and then I took him on a tour of dive bars. I got so razzled I fell into his expensive hand made drum kit when we got back to his. No idea how it happened and couldn't figure out how to get out. He had to drag me out of there haha. Drum kit was fine. I woke up looking like I'd been in a fight. Spent Sunday hanging with a hangover and then a quiet dinner together that night. We've exchanged some schmaltzy texts since then and I'm feeling less emotionally guarded. This is the longest I've taken to let my guard down with someone I like....its weird I normally lob myself in at the deep end. Anyway. Pretty smitten

I might delete that comment in a bit. It's pretty 'outing'

Haha @supercali77 you're not dating our mr drummer?? Sounds fun. I can't get pissed anymore. I miss it.

well done supercali that sounds wonderful!

Hmmmm, drum kits arnt cheap.....
Hand made even less cheap!!

Good luck on he dates jesuis. Who wants a really silly joke?

An English and Friench cat decided to have a race across the channel. The English cat was called one two three, the French cat un deux trios. The English cat won. Why?..........................................................

.........

The UN deux trois quatre cinq

Why did the scarecrow win an award?

He was outstanding in his field!

Glad the 11th date went so... spectacularly @supercali77. I guess you’d learn a lot about a guy from how he reacts when you fall into his handmade drum kit. 😆

I always take MrSG to all the diviest places. I guess I’m a cheap date.

A male friend of mine told me this this morning

Man: I once went out with twins

Woman: How did you tell them apart?

Man: Well Janice wore pink nail varnish and Bob had a cock