Dating thread 152: onwards and upwards

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Oh and mr Unsuitable messaged saying he missed me 😍😍

JeSuisPrest he sounds like the entitled idiot who told me he was too important to be 'fitted in' around the rest of my life (for a first date).

TooOldForThis67 I had to laugh as well. Sounds painful, though.
This thread has opened my eyes in many ways. That's a new one!

HairyArsedMan I've had chats with guys who are too far way away. I rarely 'reject' someone (unless they're obviously a twat) as I'm too kind and usually just say they're too far away and nothing will happen and often they just have a conversation. I have had a third year student offer to relocate to be near me, a lovely chat with a retired cabbie who's just a bit lonely, a guy in France...

You never know she might visit a friend in your area and want to hook up?

@Peanuthedz Can you tell a man is leery just by looking at his picture?!?

Pre tinder I hated being new on a dating site as you were inundated with messages as fresh meat. I much prefer the tinder style of only being contacted by people I have swiped an interest in.

Well tooold I never knew you could break a man’s penis whilst having sex!! Eye opening —watering— indeed!!

@MrDrummer yes! I think you can. Well mostly. I have only received one dick pic so my filtering is clearly good... but not foolproof 😁

Ha ha peanut nondick pics here either. I like to think I do savvy swiping 👌

@Peanuthedz Ha, ha... Can you look at my profile pics and tell me if I am leery or not?!?

I can of course @MrDrummer. But I don't do POF and my tinder is out of action while I'm Er in action with mr Unsuitable. But you can pm me

You can tell leeriness, yes

I like the idea of Tinder, and not being able to message unless you match, but there seem to be a way higher proportion of profiles which are no picture/no bio (what's the point??) Or a picture of a tree and no bio. Or just a picture, no distance, no bio. I swipe left on all of them but they irritate me!!

Since I changed my body type to 'athletic' (😂) on POF I'm getting less potato men in football shirts messaging me, so that worked! Have a couple I'm talking to but too early to name them as they haven't converted into irons yet!

Mr Fit as Bloody Fuck (Fab), last Monday evening's liaison, hasn't been in touch again, which is a shame as that was a nice way to spend a Monday evening ....

I have swiping rules :) real looking name, pictures, no children or women in main profile pic, no topless pics unless obvious holiday snaps, no negative comments in bio, and of course there has to be a pull too. So far most of the men I've met have been nice and interesting, even if they weren't for me, or me for them. And no dick pics!!

@TooOldForThis67 right angles? Christ

I can 100% confirm that @MrDrummer does not look in the least bit leery!

Since I changed my body type to 'athletic' (😂) on POF I'm getting less potato men in football shirts messaging me, so that worked

Wish that worked for me Batshit. All I get is potato men in football shirts trying to hide their beer guts.
They like to tell me I look stunning. My profile is clear (I think) that I'm sporty and I'm for someone who's a bit active.

Thank you @Peanuthedz and @shitwithsugaron for my endorsement of non-leeriness... I hide it well (only joking!)

I think it's safe to say there is at least one dick pic you are all curious about now. The worm has turned

BatshitCrazyWoman Glad it's working out. Those weird photo profiles are people just wanting to have a gander before they try it out properly I think. You can report them.

StealthNinjaMum I've matched, so will now bite my fingernails for 24 hours. We are both doing the same event end of April in the capital so I thought that would be something to gas on about.

MrDrummer my 3+ likes on Tinder in 7 or so weeks is now convincing me I'm leery !

I feel the need to point out that the word should be learing, by the way... leery is something entirely different. I can't hold my silence any longer!

@HairyArsedMan I only have 3+ likes on tinder, too and I am 100% certified non-learing / non-leery. Pretty sure it jumped to be exactly ten on Saturday, then back to +3.

I just got a Meetme from someone of body type athletic (google is your friend), so its not all bad.

@MrDrummer it is actually leer. And leery. Pedantic, moi??

Actually, @Peanuthedz, I think we are dialectically both right and wrong.

Leer, leering is correct...
leery is something different, though
writingexplained.org/leary-or-leery-spelling

I should have known lear was wrong because I am always trying that in Wordscapes (and computer says no!)

Laughing at Potato men in football shirts 🤣 I get a few of them but not many. I keep getting messages from old men with tattoos on their faces.

I have just sent a “not going to happen” message to Mr unemployed, I feel a bit guilty but explained that the lack of car thing won’t work for me as I don’t want to drive to his as I will be too far away if my dd’s need me, he thinks a hours drive is not far but for me it’s too far when he’s never going to be able to drive to see me or meet me.

Only really talking to one person (Mr Normal), I did have a conversation with someone on a POF at 4am this morning about how the clocks changing have messed up our sleep routine 🤣

Oh dear, message from MrRunner, he's just "remembered" he needs to do some training after work tomorrow and will have to cancel... my reply "Never mind, these things happen."

He's been online absolutely loads (which I suppose means I have as well if I've seen he's active), so I'm assuming he's had a better offer.

In better news, I've arranged a date with MrStone for next Thursday. I may ask him if he's free tomorrow instead...👍

@Notcoolmum MrFar is about an hour and a quarter away but he's not bothered. I have a stroke if I have to do a dual carriageway... He's coming to see me locally at the weekend

That’s doable waris especially if he’s ok to do the travelling. My iron is happy to come to me but as my kids are teens that don’t leave the house it’s useful to be able to go to his sometimes!! 😉

I suppose it's technically leer-y, as in one who tends to leer ...