Dating thread 152: onwards and upwards

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

I got such a great dress for my date tonight. Anyone else shop at monki?..i love the prints and the cuts they have are really flattering.

No it's fine stealth some it was for comic effect on here, apologies.
Your comment may make me consider future replies as I'd never want to intentionally upset anybody ;)

I'm on my way to 'interview' a potential FWB (Mr FABF seems to have disappeared). Traffic is awful ...

Will look at Monki super (am on a bus!)

I worry that at some point I'll say something outing and somebody will say "oy that's me" however, as conversation starters go...
Me: "what kind of dog have you got, it looks like you're walking a lion"
Her: "it's an Alpaca"
I think I'm officially a moron!
However we're still talking...

Haha ant !

Lol Ant

@BatshitCrazyWoman Why have I got a image of you turning up in sexy specs, with a clipboard and a tape measure?

@Ant330 it's an Alpaca 😂

Must remember rules 3 and 4

Mr Far and I are heading towards meeting soon. We are both keen and seem to have a lot in common. Have messaged lots and spoken on the phone. But he lives quite far away (hence the name). He is not put off by my numerous annoying traits and stubbornness.
Is a bit of a distance a massive hurdle, do you think? I'm talking 40miles ish, I usually search within 20 because I'm a terrible driver who doesn't do motorways

@WarlsPeace I usually set my limit to 30 miles max as I think if things progress I wouldn’t want to not feel like I can see them in the week due to distance and I personally wouldn’t want to drive more than 30 miles to do so if I have work the next day. Even 30 seems a bit far now I think about it but I’ve found setting my distance too low brings up much fewer matches!

Sunshine he was 8 miles away when I swiped but turned out he was visiting the area. He's not bothered, travelling doesn't bother him and he lives alone etc.

Rich your team sent down Huddersfield today, I’m eagerly awaiting your update on how things went on the non-date today! I hope you both had an amazing time!

@WarlsPeace Ah...that’s a PITA. I’ve done that before and now turn off my location settings when I’m not using the app!

Shitwithsugaron It had to be done didn't it! The first thing I thought when I saw Palace had a pen was that I hope it's at Rich's end 😂

WarIsPeace My now girlfriend when we met lived about 15 miles away, but when we actually met in person ten months on and both very single she had relocated to 37 miles away and a 50 minute journey in good traffic. It works for us - it's about 40 minutes from work, I start early, finish at 4 and miss the traffic and leave about 10.30pm if I'm not staying there. So it can work, if you want it to. The distance is fine, I get my thinking time and I think I actually prefer it! It's definitely doable in the evenings and weekends and we see each other about four times a week. I wouldn't give up on yours due to distance, ours has showed it really can work!

shitwithsugar can't you use the "it looks like a penis, only smaller..."

Also, I was speaking with someone similar this week who after about 3 messages asked me how often I like to have sex. I asked why the hell he thought he could ask that and he replied because he has a high sex drive. I asked why I would need to know that and he said something about he could only be with someone who has a high drive like him. I unmatched

Sex drive could be in some proples’ Non negotiables like why be with someone who not compatible with. Kind of get that. Obvs if they continue going on is odd

Still no response which actually makes me sad 😂😥😂. Plus annoyed that we've matched, so he swiped right too!!

Also, chatting to another guy who had just told me he just wants 'casual fun'. Respect the fact he's said that but I'm kind of looking for the 'see how it goes' rather than just sex 🤷. I am tempted though 😂😂.

Good luck to all those on dates tonight!!

shitwith I love that response!

Just back from my interview. Blimey. Was like a date. We were supposed to just be having coffee - met at 3 had coffee, then drinks, then dinner. No sex. Was like an actual date Kept looking up to find him looking at me. He's funny and smart and kind. Will see him again for sex definitely but am slightly nonplussed how much we actually like each other ...

I wouldn’t be happy with being asked about how often I like to have sex pre-meeting. Apart from anything it very much depends on who I’d be having sex with. Sex drive might be someone’s dealbreaker but a stranger asking me to quantify mine would be a dealbreaker for me.

I found the distance thing weird. I started at 10 miles but there was hardly anyone. So I expanded but then realised that I wasn’t interested in a relationship with someone who lived an hour’s drive away. So I narrowed it back down. I ended up with MrSG who works very close to my house but lives slightly further away than I’d like really. But not ridiculously so.

Tbh, though, most of the OLD pickings were so crap that I found myself unwilling to do more than walk to my local high street or get the train into town (a 10 minute journey) to meet anyone. It was all a bit, ‘40 minute drive? Nope, not interested enough’. And they mostly lived in spectacularly crap places too, which I found immensely off-putting for some reason.

Met Mr Russian tonight.
He basically told me he can't see me for the next two to three weeks.
Work and finance reasons..
I said I prob don't think we can progress if that is the case always.
I even said how Easter isn't that far off and if he couldn't manage one day or eve then then that would be it.
. Said it reminds me of past bad unreliable guys. Or people not prioritising me.
Oh and I declined kissing him goodbye for my own personal reasons self preservation.
I said may be we can next week, if you work something out and meet me sooner but why should I with this uncertainty.
He also asked for a photo of me which annoyed me as I hate taking pics lol