Dating thread 152: onwards and upwards

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

He's got a poker night with friends that he forgot about? Maybe just don't go to the poker night? Nah I'd be out.

After some juggling, I’m seeing Mr Surgeon tomorrow and then Mr PhD on Monday. I’m not sure whether to see Mr Surgeon or not as he will be moving just over an hour away for six months or so next week he seems sweet, though. If nothing else I think we will have a nice evening.

Mr PhD, on the other hand, is definitely up my street so far. Again, if nothing else, I am pretty sure that I could be friends with him.

The slightly weird thing is that they both have very similar names, so I’m really, really hoping that I don’t mix them up!

@ItsAMiracle2015 well thats what has thrown me because we both knew he was married.

Just dawned on me this is odd... but yeah think I shall just ask because I am nosey and if that's the case will give him a bollocking.

I just thought is was a free chat thing where you could have a cool name 🤣🤣 I told my mum to get it... gonna have to back track. Only suggested it as we both find WhatsApp annoying. The beg her not to tell my dad....

Just a shame i appriciated his bluntness and being direct. But can't be any part of that.

@ant what no chips.... oh man was never going to end well...

Just because there's nothing sinister going on doesn't mean he wants his wife to know? Maybe his wife wouldn't approve even though nothing is going on? Obviously I can't speak for him and could be completely wrong but Kik is the biggest red flag for me with OLD.

Eesha is this a new iron? Sounds like date has been set and all going ahead so just try and relax. I know it's hard. He may have seen you on pof too and thinking the same!

So I matched on Tinder with a 41 year old this morning (I'm 32 but increased my age requirements 😂). He must be above 5'9 as it's in my tinder profile so that's 1 tick. However, he hasn't messaged and there's no text in his profile to bring up in a first message to him? I want to message but what do I say? Help! 🙈🙈😂😂.

ItsAMiracle thanks just used that reply, she replied "no worries". Onwards and upwards...
WarriorPrincess chips, I know, you did tell me! Lesson learned ;)

ItsAMiracle what about "please tell me your lack of profile doesn't mean you have nothing interesting to say about yourself" :)

What Ant said 😂

Sent. Thank you!! And 🤞.

Swapped numbers with mr army and he started going on about all sorts of strange BDSM stuff so I've had to block now. Getting a lot more messages now I figured out my profile was hidden

Pof doesn't have s curvy option it's just few extra pounds.
Which is funny as you could be 2 stone overweight or 5.
Only huge people put the big tall build option. Like 20-30 stone

May I join?

I'm 27 and a late starter, however have decided that it's time to get my arse in gear as I badly want a family. Haven't a clue how to date so would love some friendly advice.

Met a bloke on Tinder and he seemed lovely, we share a hobby and were talking about that. We've been chatting about a week and for the last few days he's texted me every morning- usually just morning and a happy face. Is that normal?! We're supposed to be meeting sometime next week.

Internally freaking out and feel like I've inadvertently got engaged.

@user1466783975 brand new iron, only communicating for a week, I know I'm being ridiculous, this last seen option or green dot thing makes for huge anxiety.

I’ve been chatting to someone from Tinder for a couple of weeks and we had a first date last weekend. He messages me most nights/mornings with “night/morning gorgeous”, which makes me smile but I’m not reading too much into it!
Second and potentially third date arranged for next week. If nothing else he is hot and I can’t say I’ve ever dated anyone that good looking before so just appreciating it for what it is 😄

You're not being ridiculous,sometimes before a meet I can't sleep! totally overinvest

thouArt well done for getting out there. Try and follow the rules and also get a date in as soon as you can,ie Monday,not Friday!

ItsAMiracle hope it works ;)
For me that would tell me you've got a bit of cheekiness about you and I'd take it as a personal challenge to try and impress. Wouldn't be able to stop myself replying :)
If he doesn't reply then he has nothing interesting to say so you've dodged a boring date

Let's hope so Ant had a message on Tinder;
Him: I want to sing that song to you
Me: Clearly something you've said more than once, but I'm curious... What song?
Him: I had that “sugar, oh honey honey” song in my head 😂
Me: Well that's cringe 😂
Him: Well I'll take this as a loss then. Do you know what makes me cringe?
Me: What's that?
Him: 👍👍👍👍

Seriously losing all hope 🙈😂😂😂

Not the same guy btw, someone else! No reply to my message yet 😂

Advice please: Date tonight, only chatting a week and he was on one of the sites so I knew still looking. I hinted today about him finding new irons and he said there was one more local who was 'really pretty. I think he might have only messaged her or maybe just met her last night. He said I was chatting to loads too so he didn't think I minded. I wasn't really....anyway, he still wanted to meet for date and is flirty etc. Do I go?

Date is Saturday night I mean, I'm wondering whether to back out now I've been told there is someone more local etc. Makes me think why am I bothering?

@Eesha why did you hint at him having other irons, if you didn't want to know about them?

@Eesha I would still go Saturday if you haven't yet met him. Just because he's talking to someone else more local doesn't really mean anything.