Dating thread 152: onwards and upwards

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

I never put kisses on messages ever. To anyone. Ever. I actually cringe when I get messages with kisses on the end 😂.

Also, I'm a size 8-10 and put average on pof. Didn't want to put thin and they think I'm really really skinny or athletic because, well, I'm definitely not athletic. I've had a couple guys say I'm definitely not average on meeting but the other 2 options just didn't fit.

The bitter and/or entitled men that think we should jump at the chance of spending time with them 🖕.

myold don't even question yourself on that. The man's a prick.

Big date tomorrow at a fancy restaurant. Bought a killer dress today. The 'him still being online on tinder' drama has died down after last week. His location hasn't updated at all so I'm keeping it in my back pocket. It's been a stressful week so I just want to go Out, get nice eats and have fun sex

Well I can honestly say I feel like an absolute after sending that message to MsBathLegs!
This is clearly the shit part of OLD :(

Trying not to get my hopes up for the football date tomorrow, she's been messaging all day about it saying how excited she is - she has even finished work early so she can go to the club shop and buy herself one of the ladies tops.

On another note I see that Bumble has introduced a daily swipe limit similar to Tinder.

Strangely my asterixes denoting what an arse (wasn't the word I was thinking of) I feel were deleted?

Daily swipe limit? I don't know what that is 🤔

@ant what happened...... i need to know

@richdeniro that's just so you put your hand in your pocket and fork out for the "limited swiping" edition. Gin is probably responsible for much of that

Have fun super

Ant it is horrible when you just don't fancy them and have to say no thanks

There's a daily swipe limit on Tinder? I find it so rubbish I don't bother with it anymore!

I meant "unlimited" edition!

@Ant330 - I feel your pain - I completely over-invested in someone when I first started this whole OLD thing. 30+ messages per day for about 5,6 weeks (our diaries clashed) - when we met in person he wasn't the cool hip muso fanatic he'd portrayed himself, more like Dell-Boy. We were supposed to have drinks, dinner and go to a gig but I had to leave after half an hour. I cried! #pathetic

warriorprincess
She was lovely but with the benefit of hindsight her photos were taken from a very flattering angle, and I'm pretty confident the most attractive photos were not recent ones.
Don't get me wrong I had a nice lunch, glad I met her, but disappointed because as you know she was top of my list.
Just feel a bit of a git as she's now trying to convince me we should go for a 2nd date to check for any spark.
The cheeky bum squeeze made me smile though!

Just googled and you're limited to 100 right swipes per day on tinder apparently. How much are you swiping right rich 😉😂😂

What did your message to her say ant?

@ant330 did you like her personality? I’ve been on second dates with people that I didn’t totally physically fancy if they’ve been intriguing or very kind. There has to be an element of attraction but honestly, the last couple of people that I’ve had a few dates haven’t been my physical type as such - just was interested in finding out more about them.

Along the lines of "I had a nice time but felt no spark/chemistry, sorry" but less blunt than that.

@ant damm sorry about that. What did you have for lunch 🤣🤣🤣 extra chips??? Lol sorry for you but yeah lied with pics feel no guilt....

Right advise please. I have a friend.... he is male. Nothing sinister at all infact he said me and hubby were sickeningly in love with a mixture of piss take and we were lucky to have what we had.....

Any way been emailing on and off. . And he said email is slow.... do you have kik? Said it would be easier....

Now I joined... been chatting on and off mainly about life and crap. He has been that blunt friend I have needed... He is upset about hubby and it's all completely friend based....

Then it dawned on me... Some of you have mentioned kik... is he up to no good??? Not with me would rather boil in oil and roll down a hill and fall in donkey shit.... but he is married with kids.... what's your opinion. None of my business really and does not affect me. But in the back of my mind has creeped me out.....

Oh no ant shame I thought that was going to be a good one.
My Old- what a psycho.
30 - love the wave
Rich- I think there’s still hope
Make school friend always puts a kiss to me and I try not but if I ever do he notices and says I knew I’d get eventually!
As an alternative view I quite like a dick pic especially for fb or fwb but all really to check I won’t be disappointed!! Don’t want a worm 😜

Wotcher she was nice enough but for me there was no physical attraction not even a little bit. And I haven't had sex in over a year so that should tell you something lol.

Personally @warriorprincessandwidowed if he's using Kik whilst married I'd say he doesn't want his wife to know. In fact, I never message anyone that asks me to do so on Kik for that exact reason 🤷.

@Ant330 oh no, what a bummer. Are you sure a second date might not be worth going on given you had great chemistry initially. I have also been burnt in the past, talked for ages but the guy had weird rat like teeth which obviously was disguised well in pics.

Now I try and limit chatting, do a few pic swaps during the week to see who they really are and meet asap. Definitely stops me wasting my time.

My date with MrTradesman is tomorrow, I've seen he has been online on POF so just going through that anxiety period. It's completely his right, and he has mentioned he was online but I have no other irons and couldn't be bothered when I know a date was soon. How should I combat this anxiety?

Catching up with thread! Sorry to hear it wasn't a goer @Ant330 good that you were honest though.

@MyOldBrainStoppedWorking What a twat! Definitely the reddest of red flags.

Mr Tall, after being super keen, cancelled tonight's date saying he's got a poker night with his friends. Not sure I believe it though - when I texted last night to say were we still on he said yes and then came out with that about half an hour later! Seems like you wouldn't just forget that? He is apologetic and has asked me when I am free again but I've been a bit elusive and just said let's chat at the beginning of the week. Can't help but feel he may have what he considers a better offer. Oh well, his loss! (And I'm shattered anyway so happy to have a night in tbh )

@Ant330 and she's replied to that message asking for a 2nd date to see? Personally if you felt zero attraction to her I would simply say that it wouldn't be fair to waste either of your time by going on a 2nd date.

@Ant330 sounds like you made the right call, then! Onwards and upwards!

Oh and he was online on OkC today too.

warriorprincess spaghetti carbonara for her, seafood linguine for me.
Food was nice :)