Dating thread 152: onwards and upwards

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Mr Young sent me a photo of him hanging a towel of his manhood the other day when I was at work, Iuckily no one was looking over my shoulder, I think he found it funny and it did make me chuckle. I find it a bit odd when someone I haven’t ever met sends me one though, I mean who would send a photo of their genitals to a total stranger? That person could share that photo with anyone?

Anyone else hate it when someone says I've got something to tell you and then leaves at that?
I always think the worst and I think it's personal or I think they don't want to see me again or they don't want to be friends.
You know I'm not going to go out my way and meet someone for them to tell me that they're no longer interested or whatever.

I’ve never received a dick pic. And I’m not sad about it in the least.

@StealthNinjaMum I was also talking about weird formality from someone you spent a decade sharing a bed with and who has seen you in childbirth. And weird exchanges that go:
Him: ‘Hi Crustaceans. DS2’s jumper was left in my car. Presumably he has a spare one at yours? Wanker Ex.’
Me: ‘Yes. Obviously I have more than one set of school uniform for him’
Him: ‘Hi Crustaceans. OK. I’ll put it in his bag on Thursday. Wanker Ex’.

Or
Him: ‘Hi Crustaceans. This is to remind you that I will be away in from . Wanker Ex.
Me: Yes. I know.
Him: ‘Hi Crustaceans. Also please confirm that you would prefer me to have DS2 for . Wanker Ex’
Me: Yes. That’s what we agreed.
Him: ‘Hi Crustaceans. I have added this to my diary. Wanker Ex’

My response to this shit is usually ‘oh FFS’.

On kisses, I only started putting kisses on messages to MrSG after we’d met and decided it was a thing. He only ever puts kisses on messages to me (no one else) and clearly does read into the presence or absence of them.

But, I have loads of friends who put kisses on everything. One of my colleagues puts kisses on his work emails. 😆

Anyone else hate it when someone says I've got something to tell you and then leaves at that?

I hate passive aggressive bullshit like that. I have at least one nightmare PA colleague who always sends messages asking if I could meet for a chat. No information and you just know it’s so she can have a go (passive aggressively) about something. Just say what the problem is so I can be prepared for whatever shit you’re going to pull!

My wanker Ex is also incredibly passive aggressive. I do not respond well to it. At all. I just have no tolerance for it any more.

Annoyingly, the PA people I know insist on interpretating any assertiveness as aggression. You can’t win with them. No matter how reasonable you are anything resembling standing your ground is interpreted as aggression. I’m not aggressive. They are. But if I’m going to be aggressive, I’ll be straight-up aggressive. None of this PA crap.

Crustaceans you see I don't do that with stbexh (although maybe I will if it pisses him off) but I do sign off messages to close friends.

A colleague who puts kisses on emails is just weird.

unique1986 yes that would annoy me. Do you think it's attention seeking like hoping you'll ask what? I would be inclined to ignore someone who did that.

I’m in awe of your ability to accumulate irons @Lovemusic33. I can’t imagine that I’d ever have required a spreadsheet. At best, one of those tiny page marker post it notes would have done. 😂

I hope it does go well with Mr Outdoors @LilyRose88.

I bet many of the 45 year olds will not think you’re too young, @ItsAMiracle2015. It’s weird that al the 28-35 year old men in your area area are so rubbish.

Dick pics.... honestly after being on fab I think I have seen every length and width possible. However, I can now appreciate there are ugly dicks and some that are better looking (not based on size). They still do nothing for me, I'm sure the men that send them think that it is going to make us women jump right on....nope!

I have never been sent a dick pick, but I have seen plenty on Fab profiles. I would be quite amused to receive one, but it would be a red flag if I was chatting to someone and they suddenly sent me one. I really don't need to see what their dick looks like, I'm happy to wait and see it in real life. And of course, the pick may not be their actual dick, they may have downloaded it.

@StealthNinjaMum My ex’s messages are like a master class in how to get someone’s blood boiling. He’s remarkable: Weird formality. Passive aggression. Weird passive voice to avoid taking any responsibility for anything. Implied blame and moralising. Treating me like I’m really thick. Over explaining everything.

I don’t even know if he realizes how aggravating he’s being. I think he does (because he’s not this much of a shit with people he likes). His own mother describes him as ‘the most aggravating person she’s ever met’. And she’s not exaggerating. He’s awful.

But, if you’re looking to piss off your ex, then I can supply hints and tips based on his communication style.

Ive only recieved one dic pick to date - he was away in a hotel room and took what I presume he felt was an arty black and white photo of his ..... flacid dick 🤦‍♀️😂

You could ask for a newspaper with today’s date in the photo to help verify the dick pic. Like in hostage situations in movies. 😂

Personally I don’t really care what someone’s penis looks like. If I’ve gotten to the point where I’m seeing it, then I’m more interested in what’s being done with it/how it all feels. I really don’t give much thought to the aesthetics of male genitalia.

Did everyone see the ‘do you like your partner’s penis?’ thread from yesterday?

@Neverexpected2 Eurgh. Flaccid penis pics. Why? It doesn’t even convey sexual desire (quite the opposite actually). Here: see how not excited I am!

You may as well send a photo of your knee cap or elbow for all that would achieve.

I've gone right off dicks at the moment. Have no idea what was going on with mr garden gate back in January, I couldn't even find it? I had a good rummage. He seemed to fancy me and was passionate? Maybe it was his age?

Pof seems to have some newbies in my area so i'm getting in there quick.

Thing is,the ones I find attractive don't seem to work so hard and have lack of questions and the ones I think hmmm,maybe, are very full on and intense. And that puts me off!

I'm on Fab so I've seen a gazillion dick pics!! The only time I take notice is if it's enormous, as it makes me think 'ouch'!!! I think I've only ever had one full length naked pic sent to me when OLD.

Thanks to MrDrummer and Hairy for looking at my profile - I'm going to tweak it a bit. I wanted to ask here about the body description. If I was to describe my body I'd say slim - on POF I have to choose between thin, athletic or average. I've gone for average as I don't think of myself as athletic 😂 It was suggested I could be ruling myself out for some men ...?

Indeed crustaceans Im not sure he understood how it's usually done 😂

batshit wouldn't you just put thin then if you're slim?

Go for slim. Everyone assumes you’re being optimistic about it. So they read ‘average’ as ‘a bit portly’.

Sorry. Go for thin. Slim and thin are the same thing anyway.

I'm a stone over weight at the moment and have put average on mine (though I am very tall) so i'd say put athletic? Thin doesn't sound too healthy in my opinion

would anyone be kind enough to look at my profile

I've changed it to athletic. I'm not thin! I have boobs and a bum and hips!

user sure, feel free to pm me.

Thanks Man..I've never sent a message on here so bare with me,let me know if you don't receive! Will just type usename for pof?

Just to clarify, I don't get turned on by the dick pics or ask for them either. I just must have a face that invites them .

I don't do a spreadsheet but I write a few notes down on a list, e.g. age, height, hair, distance from home, kids, job etc. It helps when you are chatting to a few. But I'm so not going to do that again, nope yeah, right!.

Batshit I have average as body shape, I am a size 10-12 which I know is below average but I don’t see myself as slim or athletic (despite gong to the gym every day). I think I put average in hope men will be surprised that I’m not fat rather than put thin and them think “oh she’s not that thin”.