Dating thread 152: onwards and upwards

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Lily That’s got you off the hook. Although at the fact he thinks you have a great connection whereas you don’t.

Hi all, i'm back on online dating again and i'm not getting much interest besides time wasters or men after one thing. When I was on last in 2017 I had loads of interest and went on few nice dates. I'm on match and POF and have had one date on match, which went very well and was texting me as soon as I was home, but since then he seems to have gone cold and it's been a week. Not sure what i'm doing wrong or how I go about meeting someone in the real world (last time I did that it was 2008).

Still18 I thought he may have been being polite actually! But maybe he was being honest, who knows. The wording was good though, and I am going to pinch it for future use, maybe with some tweaking.

Mum POF can be slow sometimes. A few guys on here have offered to review our profile wording and photos via PM which you might want to think about, as it can be useful to get unbiased feedback from a guy.

@LilyRose88 I wouldn't mind someone taking a look at my profile.. can you remember who it was? @richdeniro @MrDrummer possibly? I'm 46 so maybe you fellas will just see me as grandma fodder

Yes please if anyone wants to review my profile that would be great. I do think it could do with some work if i'm honest, it's pretty basic.

@mumhasanicebum
I'm female so you'd probably prefer a mans input but if you want I could take a look

OMG!!!

Just walking along the pavement, got a Happn notification saying I've crossed paths with a match, turn around. And. There he is!!! I'm currently hiding in a dry cleaners empty-handed!!!!

midcentury - Haha! Don't you like the look of him? My worst one from Happn was the guy who worked at the co-op, can never go there again, lol

midcentury how did you react? Did he realise. Never had an interaction like this or heard of one tbh

Mid & Mum Happy to provide a 48 year old bloke's point of view. PM first to disclose region - wouldn't want to break rule 10 :smile:

@midcenturylegs 😂!! Was he as good in the flesh?!

He looked better in real life than his pics (clear he didn't make much of an effort!) from the brief glimpse I saw of his face! Nice bum though.. but I panicked!

Haha on the Co-Op happn. It's totally bizarre isn't it?

A remember seeing I'd bumped into someone on badoo while walking my dog in the woods alone once. No sign of anyone around, freaked me out thinking he was hiding in the bushes!

@midcenturylegs I've not even heard of this app, i'm intrigued

How many of you do video chat before meeting someone? Several irons have asked to do this or to talk on the phone but I hate talking on the phone, I hate my voice and have no confidence talking on the phone at all. Mr Army wants to video call me tonight and I’m petrified. He tried to call me last night but I didn’t answer.

@mumhasanicebum take a look just for the comedy value. You will get plenty of bus drivers if you live on a bus route..
you can sign up for free you just don't have the full functionality. I am having a coffee date with someone early next week who cycles past my house to get to work (I work from home a lot).

lovemusic33 there was a thread a couple of days ago - think it was style and beauty - where loads of people were saying how apple seems to make them really ugly in selfies. I am fairly attractive in real life but look dreadful in photos and selfies so I would never do a video chat as I would never hear from them again. But I had a long phone call with Mr Enthusiastic last week and it was surprisingly comfortable. I didn't really struggle with things to say but you could just write a list of his interests, ask him questions and make sure he does all the talking, most people love talking about themselves.

A male freind of mine met his lady through OLD but beforehand he always video called or called the ladies he was going to meet. I took that to heart and always called or had them call me....saves a lot of time. I've ditched a few dates because of a bad call...i mean really bad nothing to tall about/shit sense of humour etc

stealth I agree....if at a loss just ask questions. So much easier to keep it running like that

But don't ask them in a way that makes it sound like you're bombarding them with questions. It should be subtle so he doesn't know that he's doing all the talking, you just need to pick his interests well. Work is a good one and / or children if he has any. (If he can't say lots of nice things about his children that would be a red flag to me).

stealth I look awful in video chat and in most selfies yet I look fine when I look in the mirror, selfies make my face look long or give me a double chin, my skin always looks awful too. Mr Army looked pretty good on the video message he sent me last night and he’s 11 years older than me. I’m too scared to let him see me on video chat let alone hear my voice. I might need to make an excuse.

I don't mind Skyping but normally a voice call is enough for me. Don't have an iphone ...

Would any men on the thread look at my POF profile, please? I've reactivated it and tweaked it a bit.

I'm 54 so probably grandma territory!

@midcenturylegs @mumhasanicebum and anybody else....

Happy to review anybody's profile... just send straight to pm, no need for formalities :D

I am 48. I am not sure I am looking anymore, thinking of upgrading my FWB, if she's up for it.

& @BatshitCrazyWoman ^