37 weeks and my boyfriend just said

[brexitisamare]

He will "smash my face in".

He's playing a game online downstairs, fine. But he was screaming at it and it woke me up so I text him asking him to please keep it down.

He text me back telling me to "fuck off".

So I turned the WiFi off (it's in our bedroom). Quite childish of me now I look back but I was absolutely furious at being woken up and told to fuck off when I hadn't actually done anything wrong.

He came banging up the stairs, punched the bedroom door and said "if you ever do that again I will smash this whole house up and I'll smash your face in".

And he turned it back on, slammed the door, said something about wishing we weren't having our baby and now he's back downstairs playing whatever he's playing and I'm sat in bed shaking.

I realise my behaviour here was a bit childish but surely nothing warrants that? I don't think he will come back up or do anything providing I don't touch the internet (I'm not going to move now at all).

He's quite a calm person and I guess I've seen him angry before but nothing like this and he's never threatened me before. I cannot believe that's just happened. I don't even know why I'm posting I just don't know what to do now I'm sat here shaking and trying to calm myself down as I am heavily pregnant with this horrible mans child.

I can't leave because I don't have anywhere to go at this hour and to be honest the thought of having to go downstairs right now petrifies me.

I guess I just need a handhold here 😞

Good luck today, hen.

More love and good vibes for your birth. And admiration and respect for how you have made your and your daughter safer and happier by making difficult decisions.
But for now, it is for hospital and mum to look after you and you to rest before meeting your baby. Despite the situation, it's a beautiful and exciting time.

Great idea from @Tilikum - strike while the wanker iron is hot

Really really pleased to hear your update - loads of us have been thinking of you and hoping all was ok.

Lovely to hear you're feeling excited about your little one arriving - we are all rooting for you!

Hope the induction goes well today OP. Thinking of you.

Well done on being so strong. You amazing Mummy you.

Thank you for taking time to come back to us Brexit .. at Brexit finally being delivered! poundoflard at 5.36 today

Another one here thinking it would be an excellent for your mum to strike while the iron is hot, and put it to him that there are many things you’ve forgotten to buy for the baby and you need money to do so .. believe me the contrition/emotion will not last so don’t hesitate to use the time to get back what you’re due.

Your mum sounds lovely..there were so many of us feeling protective towards you and thinking “if her mum only knew ..”

Wishing you all the very best. Your little girl is lucky to have such a strong mother.

I'm so pleased to hear you and baby are ok op. Glad you told your Mum and you have plans in place. Stay strong and enjoy your baby girl x

So glad to hear your update OP, I hope everything goes well and you're cuddling your gorgeous girl really soon!

I’m so glad you’ve got out OP. Don’t go back. Rooting for you.

Good luck with everything. Please don't go back to him.

Oh thank you for coming back and updating us. Best wishes for to-day - I'll say a prayer that all goes well for you. Imagine, 3 generations of lovely girls in your room this evening!!!

You are incredibly strong and you can do this.

Hope everything goes well today. A little shocked though that your DP wasn’t concerned enough to come with you to the hospital or turn up to support you ( appreciate you don’t want to see him) however to simple message your mum kind of rubber stamps where he is. Probably sat gaming ..... all sad but onwards and upwards with your little baba and great your mum and dad are there for you...

So pleased to here you're safe in hospital and your mum is with you and on your side - lots of luck wither induction, how exciting you get to meet your baby girl soon

Thank you for updating. I have been reading since the beginning but can’t add to the excellent advice you have received.
I hope the induction goes smoothly and that your next update will be with your lovely new daughter.
Please leave your ex in his gamer fantasyland.

Glad you came back to tell us you were OK & your Mum is supporting you.
Of course he is lying low now, he should be thoroughly ashamed. He was drunk, gaming & threatening to smash your face in, as you got ill & had to organise your own taxi to get yourself alone to hospital at midnight, This could have been a life threatening situation, & he didn't even look up from the screen.
He may say you should have asked for help, told him etc, but in view of his reaction when you simply asked him to keep the noise down. That's a joke.
He may now say he will quit gaming forever.... however I fear hope the horse has bolted from that stable.
Good Luck with induction, Your new baby is what counts now.

Also so happy to hear you are safe and have told your mum. You are dealing with so much but today I’m sure you’ll be focused on bringing your wee girl here, you can think about next steps with him soon. You’ll probably not read this beforehand but if you do, remember your body is made for this and you are so strong, you can do it.

@DeRigueurMortis - if someone did this to me whether in the wrong or not I would be taking both bags & leaving regardless as OP is not his mother.

Great update and congrats on upcoming delivery of your little one!

You may want to consider sending in your 28 day notice to the landlord of the flat now and writing off whatever the arse owes you towards rent for that month? That way you can walk away clean?

Good luck! x

So good to hear from you OP and what a fantastic update. It's lovely to hear your parents have your back and that little one may be in your arms soon! Thinking of you

hope everything went well - quite a disturbing thread to read in so many ways

Best wishes for the birth, I hope everything goes o.k for you and your daughter. Don't go back to him whatever you do.Tell him very clearly where to go. I'm glad your Mum is being supportive.

Just RTFT and wishing you all the best OP

Just read your update OP, so glad you told your mum what has happened; as you say you can go there while you get sorted out.
Hope all goes well with the birth and lots of love and luck for you and your little girl.

So pleased to read your update, hope all goes well

Thinking of you today, wishing you strength. I hope it's all going well.

I wonder if little Brexiteers has arrived, or if you’re still waiting like the rest of the country?!

I hope you are ok. I think you should tell someone at the hospital what your situation is, that you are currently homeless due to abusive boyfriend and that although you are relieved not to be in that bad situation, relieved does not mean ok.

You still need help, and I don’t think you should leave the hospital without telling someone what is happening. It may sound like a big deal and something that you can always do at a later date, but to be honest, unless there is proper evidence at the time, you’ll find it SO much harder to get helpwhen you need it later on, and by then it’s too late. And by ‘proper evidence’ I mean it being in your hospital notes etc, it doesn’t have to be a full blown police enquiry.

I know it’s the last thing you want to think about, and I’m sorry to go on about it, but it will make your life so much easier going forwards.

By the way, I wonder if that stinking abusive man is behaving all meek and quiet because, well firstly, he’s keeping his head down in case anyone comes a knocking about what he did. But secondly, he’s got what he wanted right? At the end all he wanted was for his beloved partner and baby to fuck off so he could not have any head space devoted to to anything that isn’t gaming and drinking. This vile vile man literally has everything his disgusting soul desires, his game console, cans and apart from a two second polite text to the mil, 24/7 peace to play.

So, his behaviour paid off, no wonder he’s not kicking up a fuss now. And my concern would be that he’s learnt he can behave disgustingly, and it works. He left his heavily pregnant partner terrified, isolated and trapped upstairs with her health declining for days without a care in the world... and he’s got away with it.

So, what will he do next time he wants something you’re in the way of giving him?

For that reason I’d definitely ask your mum to get the money he owes you direct through her.