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37 weeks and my boyfriend just said

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brexitisamare · 24/03/2019 00:46

He will "smash my face in".

He's playing a game online downstairs, fine. But he was screaming at it and it woke me up so I text him asking him to please keep it down.

He text me back telling me to "fuck off".

So I turned the WiFi off (it's in our bedroom). Quite childish of me now I look back but I was absolutely furious at being woken up and told to fuck off when I hadn't actually done anything wrong.

He came banging up the stairs, punched the bedroom door and said "if you ever do that again I will smash this whole house up and I'll smash your face in".

And he turned it back on, slammed the door, said something about wishing we weren't having our baby and now he's back downstairs playing whatever he's playing and I'm sat in bed shaking.

I realise my behaviour here was a bit childish but surely nothing warrants that? I don't think he will come back up or do anything providing I don't touch the internet (I'm not going to move now at all).

He's quite a calm person and I guess I've seen him angry before but nothing like this and he's never threatened me before. I cannot believe that's just happened. I don't even know why I'm posting I just don't know what to do now I'm sat here shaking and trying to calm myself down as I am heavily pregnant with this horrible mans child.

I can't leave because I don't have anywhere to go at this hour and to be honest the thought of having to go downstairs right now petrifies me.

I guess I just need a handhold here 😞

OP posts:
MrsMozartMkII · 27/03/2019 06:20

A good update lass.

Heed the advice on here and stay safe.

Soon you'll have your little one and she'll make it all worthwhile xxx

Harvey3 · 27/03/2019 06:22

Good luck today OP - glad you are being taken care of

GetStrongKeepFighting · 27/03/2019 06:30

Him appearing to be being respectful to your mother means nothing. Ignore. He just either wouldn't dare be awful to her or he's shitting himself that he won't get his play thing back and is back tracking.

You've got this and you can do this.

trulybadlydeeply · 27/03/2019 06:33

Lovely to hear from you OP. Wishing you a safe and stress free induction. So pleased to hear that your mum is on board now, and that you can go back and stay with them for a while after you leave hospital. Your ex (going to call him that, as that's what he is now) will be on his best behaviour, and will try and get you back. Use this thread to remind yourself exactly what he is like, and to stay strong. Do put the money concerns to the back of your mins whilst you concentrate on delivering your beautiful baby. They can and will be sorted once forward ready.

TheSassyAssassin · 27/03/2019 06:40

Been following your thread. Very pleased to hear you've told your mum and you'll now have family support. Hope your induction goes smoothly today and give your gorgeous baby girl a kiss from me and everyone else on this thread when you get to meet her! Today is the first day of the rest of your lives together, you're going to be a great mum and do your little girl proud SmileFlowers

Chimchar · 27/03/2019 06:43

Thanks for the update. So glad you're doing ok and that your Mum is supporting you.
Good luck for today... you get to meet your little girl!
Thinking of you. X

AnotherEmma · 27/03/2019 06:50

Phew, what a relief to read your update!
Really glad your mum is with you.
Best of luck with the birth!

Tilikum · 27/03/2019 06:56

Great update!

Just to say, if he's being kind and respectful now (the cowardly twat) it may be an idea for your mum to text him "brexitisamare needs some things for the hospital. Please transfer over that £XXX you owe her." And he may be much more likely to do it because of the pressure of the situation.

Mrsmummy90 · 27/03/2019 07:02

❤️❤️❤️

ZeldaPrincessOfHyrule · 27/03/2019 07:10

So pleased you've got your mum with you and you're doing ok. I hope today goes well - you've got this, OP! Thanks

LizziesTwin · 27/03/2019 07:11

Hope all goes well today, thinking of you

deadsexy · 27/03/2019 07:13

Today's the day you meet your daughter. You and her against the world. Well done for being so strong x

EarlyBird39 · 27/03/2019 07:18

I'm really glad to hear your update and that all is well with you and your baby! ThanksI was induced on both of my labours and to be honest is no big deal, it's fine and you all be ok 😊 take care xx

Rufftumbles · 27/03/2019 07:43

Wonderful update! I’m so pleased to hear that you and the baby are well and I hope everything goes smoothly today. You are so very strong and already a fantastic mother to your little girl, putting her as your number one priority. Flowers

Dragongirl10 · 27/03/2019 07:48

So glad you and baby are OK op...please just focus on you and nothing else for the next couple of days, you are safe now.
I second the poster who said,

Don't put him on the Birth certificate.
Give your baby your surname, not his.
Breastfeed (or say you are) so he cannot apply for overnight contact.

Lastly, do not feel sorry for him and be persuaded to forgive and forget

Enjoy meeting you baby!

ScrimshawTheSecond · 27/03/2019 07:49

I am so happy to hear you got to hospital and your mum's looking after you, OP. I'm so impressed with how strong and brave you are. All the best for the birth, soon you'll meet your baby! Flowers

Abusive men can be at their most loving and contrite after an outbreak of aggression. Any relationship in which a man threatened and endangered his pregnant partner and baby is probably irretrievable. You and your daughter deserve so much better. Xxx

ohfourfoxache · 27/03/2019 07:52

So pleased to see your update, hope today goes well x

MrsJDornan · 27/03/2019 07:57

So glad you went in and will hopefully have your little girl this morning Thanks it's nice you have your mums support too

RestingBitchFaced · 27/03/2019 08:07

So glad you have told your mum. Please go back home with her after the baby is born. He doesn't deserve you, he really doesn't

KindleAndCake · 27/03/2019 08:17

Wishing you well OP Thanks

cindersrella · 27/03/2019 08:21

Good luck today. Thank you for updating. Best wishes x

Pinkybutterfly · 27/03/2019 08:21

All the best!!! Soon you are going to have your sweet baby next to you, you are going to see her face hear her voice ,:) so proud of you

SamStephens · 27/03/2019 08:23

Good luck OP, hope you’ve got baby snuggles soon xx

DuckPancake · 27/03/2019 08:24

Good luck OP, I'm so horrified reading this thread and will be thinking of you. Stay strong, you sound very sensible Thanks

Moralitym1n1 · 27/03/2019 08:34

Just to say, if he's being kind and respectful now (the cowardly twat) it may be an idea for your mum to text him "brexitisamare needs some things for the hospital. Please transfer over that £XXX you owe her." And he may be much more likely to do it because of the pressure of the situation.

This is an excellent idea. Say you need your money back now for baby things you haven't bought to date.

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