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Boyfriend knows I’ve been faking in bed and wants to break up

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user1471511063 · 16/03/2019 02:36

Hi, I’ve been faking orgasm and he has noticed. I feel like such an idiot. He walked out a week ago after sex, accused me of pretending about climaxing and just pretending in general. I haven’t seen him since. Ive had a couple of messages, but only after I’ve sent him one first. I admitted to it, and tried my best to explain what I can, why I’ve been doing this. Thing is I don’t really know myself! He is really sexy, I’m really attracted to him but Ive just never been that orgasmic for lack of better term. I come, I think, but it’s just not that mind blowing! He’s the best man I’ve ever been with, creative, kind, a unique person and other than this our relationship is strong. He says he still loves me, but doesn’t know if he can’t get past this. I understand this, and as painful as it is, think I’ve done the wrong thing, time to take responsibility for my actions and pay the price. I’m just writing to see if anyone has by wise words of how it might be possible to save this relationship? We’ve been together for about 2 years, but have spent some time apart due to work. I’m so devastated, I was so happy, I really wanted to be with him long term.

OP posts:
mathanxiety · 17/03/2019 22:18

Some men are egotistical shits. Some men are not. In these circumstances, there is no proof either way.

Au contraire, the proof is in the fact that he flounced off and wouldn't discuss the matter, throwing away two years of a relationship.

mathanxiety · 17/03/2019 22:19

*the proof that he is an egotistical shit, that is.

mathanxiety · 17/03/2019 22:27

Hopoindown
The BF only noticed recently, after she had faked it a few times over the two years they have been together.

This speaks volumes about his level of engagement with her body while having sex.

It also points to a man whose self esteem is wrapped up in what he sees as his 'performance' in bed.

He has apparently complained about deception in general on the part of the OP, so presumably he has a few other gripes, or maybe he is as others have pointed out, a man who can't sustain a relationship beyond about two years.

Some people are like that. They become disenchanted or bored or they start to see flaws in their DP - the shine wears off the whole thing - and they leap at any chance to end it.

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