Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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I'm replying as I work through...

@BatshitCrazyWoman well as we're both in London and a similar age that at least means we won't be dating the same men 🤣

I mean the beard thing

The texting was ridiculously over the top before we met

I think just a few texts is fine as I don’t know what to keep saying ....

He is away for a few days and wants to definitely meet up when he gets back if that is ok and I want to.

Yes I absolutely want to he is all testosterone 😈😈😈 amazing kisser

And have a nice beard trimmed neatly but not too looking too styled ...

Ah @BatshitCrazyWoman that's is really irritating. Don't think I'd give him another chance. Although I agree with you re tinder in London at the moment. It's a desert. Whatever your facial hair preference. Not sure whew they've all gone and hoping it's not just that I've dated all the good ones already...

Current iron who I'm "seeing" Mr can't remember what I called him! Is very bald very beardy and my height. I'll call him Mr Unsuitable fromnow on.

MrHun has been messaging telling me actually he is hairy after all 🤣 he does have a lovely beard.

@Lovemusic33 send it, leave him to it. I think you know what he's like it's just hearing it from the horses mouth

Bathshit I tend to have zero tolerance for being stood up at short notice, but I guess it depends on the reason. Car breaking down or medical emergency is fine, but anything else and they don't get a second chance.

My threesome went quite well last night. It was a bit awkward (on my part at first) but then I relaxed and it was very nice. I preferred the woman to the man, and they were both very respectful about what went on. They said that I could stay the night but I decided to drive home as I hadn't been drinking. I will see them again, and it may end up being a once a month or so treat for us all unless/until I meet someone that I want a one-to-one relationship with.

My two irons, Mr Tennis and Mr Eco Warrior are still texting me and hopefully I will meet both of them this week.

Mr Much Younger and Mr Even Younger have both ghosted me. Mr Much Younger has read my WhatsApp message but not replied, having backed out of the date on Friday due to 'illness' and Mr Even Younger hasn't even read my message. I am a bit annoyed about Mr Much Younger as we have had 3 dates and he said on the last date that he really wanted to see me again and we made plans to go to the comedy show together, and I bought the tickets. I wish people would just have the decency to be honest rather than just ghosting someone (sorry, rant over).

Ooh well done on going for it lilyrose. Is it weird being with an established couple? I can’t imagine being able to cope seeing my partner with another woman. I’m glad it went well for you. And shame about being ghosted. Im still cross Mr Teacher ghosted me after he was so chatty and remembered me for years ago. A no thanks message would have been so much better. So after 3 dates and knowing you had spent money on tickets to a gig... just unnecessarily rude.

No messages from MrPlumber. I know exactly why he's stopped and it's really not very palatable - it was a sexual thing I wasn't comfortable with and I told him outright it wouldn't be happening and rather than just agreeing not to do this thing I suspect he'd rather not meet at all hence the radio silence. His loss, not mine because... I've just arranged a date for tonight with a new iron MrWoods - go me 👍👍.

Had a few messages, 20 minute phone call - we live 10 minutes away from each other, he sounds 'normal' - a bit older than I would like at 51 (I'm 43), but I'll cast my net a bit wider on the upper age limit and see what happens. He's a bit scrummy in his pics - tall, salt and pepper beardy type.

@LilyRose88 glad your threesome went well, agreed on the ghosting, that is not on after three dates I don't think. He should have the decency to just say if he doesn't want to continue things. How much courage does it take to send a bloody text??

@BatshitCrazyWoman sorry to hear that, that is really not on. What's his excuse, roughly if you don't want to be specific? I don't think I'd be giving him a second chance unless it was serious injury to himself or a loved one tbh!

@BatshitCrazyWoman It would have to be a really plausible and amazing reason for me to arrange another date if he cancelled once you were there. Before is flaky enough, but to let you get there 😡??

Je Suis Mr Plumber sounds like a loser, and well done for making it clear what your boundaries are sexually. Some guys try to push the boundaries by saying things like 'all my exes did it' but I refuse to be guilt tripped or made to feel prudish about not wanting to do something. Good luck with Mr Woods, so glad you have found a new iron.

I discovered that my search settings on POF were excluding loads of guys - I had ticked that I only wanted to meet guys who said 'prefer not to say' in the box about whether they had children! I have no idea how that happened but now that I have amended it I have discovered loads of guys who live near me. Hopefully it will lead to some new irons. .

@LilyRose88 He's had the snip so didn't want to wear a condom!!! You couldn't make it up - yes, please do let me sleep with every other person you've slept with, what an offer, how could I say no?? Next!

Lily - from your prev msgs it sounded like you were more into her than him. I salute you though, it's something we all think about but most never do!

I have a date with MrGardener on Tues.
MrWow and I are messaging again. I'd like to see him again but we are both being cautious.
I sent MrRY a Happy St Patrick's day msg and he just replied - Thanks, [no x's] so I guess he's history. Tbh, I can't date someone that canx with an hours notice and only after I had to ask. I would have understood if he had to canx if his ex was ill etc but it was just because his son didn't want to leave. That could happen a lot. I'm not a total bitch but time is precious to me.
MrBE has tracked me down on FB, sent a wave and we are now messaging. My last msg was on the lines of girls like vanilla sex now and then or in my case, a lot as I don't want the full on Dom thing every time. Exciting as it was, I simply wouldn't survive!! Lol. He hasn't replied yet.

Wow tooold there’s a lot going on there!! How do you fit it all in 😂

jesuis wow. Well rid. Oh you’ve had the snip and want to shag a woman you’ve never met before bareback. Yes of course that’s fine.... we’ll done on finding another date. I’m totally failing on that front.

How do you change who can message you on the Pof app?

@ItsAMiracle2015 I don't think you can, but you can specify that first messages have to be over a certain number of characters which weeds out the "hey pretty lady" type ones. Just immediately block any that yoh get that you don't like - top right hand corner I think. Are you having problems?

It's like spam central on Pof 😂. I found I can at least specify ages which is something.

@LilyRose88 🙌🙌🙌 go you I was meant to meet my couple on Friday but it got cancelled he works away so won't happen till April now. I'm amazed you did it sober I'd need a drink lol but I guess from a safety point of view it's better. Did you go to theirs?? Was this your first time with women?? Sorry for all questions

@myoldbrain OMG. Speechless

@lovemusic33 go on and send it babe

@itsamiracle2015 I’m only 5’6 and I still can’t cope with short. You have some other good ones though

@30somethingsingle how disappointing

@tooold a FaceTime date is right up my street!

Peanut that's good - I'll have the clean shaven ones and you can have the beard-y ones 😂 If only there were loads to choose from!

JeSuis I would block him for that. Bloody idiot!

With Mr Curry it is sort of medical and I understand, it was more that he didn't let me know before the time the date was supposed to be. I sort of believe his reason for that. And he wants to rearrange. We are quite near each other but he definitely needs to come over this way next time. He hasn't actually said sorry either 😕

Batshit he stood you up and hasn't said sorry? Surely that is a no to next time?

Because of the circumstances I can understand why he hasn't (trying not to be outing). Will see what he says/does later ....

Mr Wow is coming round tonight, just for a catch up sigh. He's the best I've ever had and I'm his best ever . I sort of do and I don't want sex. We'll see, lol

MrBE has said he can do Vanilla sex - pmsl. Yeah, right! The thing is, he's got money, almost every other guy I've dated are struggling with renting and paying maintenance.

Hi everyone.
Wow everyone has had a busy weekend!!!
lillyrose 🙌 go you!
My 6 date weekend hasn’t really worked out, only actually managed 3 and only liked Mr Scouce!
Date next week with Mr Tooshortlawyer. I cannot sack him off due to height yet he gives me fizzy knickers so I think worth meeting.
Me Big has been messaging a lot asking about my dates and I have plans to meet him the week after next!