Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Thanks Notcool, he has just sent me a message saying he’s meeting his mate for lunch in London today”. I will send the message after lunch when he’s driving back. I’m stuck indoors today waiting for someone to collect something, I will try and keep busy by doing some gardening and house work.

love good luck. I can see how shit he is making you feel. My guess is he will answer with something you want to hear,that he also loves spending time with you.
I've come across similar men and they have no idea. And they're not doing anything wrong,it just leaves us women very frustrated. I think you need to chat face to face and ask where he see's you both in a year...and that will say it all. He sounds a floater but I hope he steps up.

Being Diddy, I'm not too bothered about height but really like 5 ft 10/11".

My thing is bushy beards. Cannot bear them. Must be clipped close for me. I often ask "Is the beard negotiable?" Often it's a no and it's game over.

love once you change your behavior re texting, having to time them, the tit for tat routine, you know it's getting unhealthy for you.
Hope you sort it out soon.

Sorting I have - it was excellent.

Not read whole thread - Mr Curry has confirmed the date so I'm in the cafe waiting for him (I'm early and still not 100% he'll turn up but enjoying my latte 😂)

As for kissing on the first date I like a little kiss if I'm attracted. Not necessarily a full on snog!

Off to read the thread while I wait ...

Has anyone found the text messages get less ? I find it hard to think what am I going to text ...

Thanks User I really hope so, was talking to my friend last night and telling her how he messaged me yesterday morning at 6.30am, I was moaning at how early it was and she said “it shows he thinks about you when he wakes up”. I am probably guilty of sending him the wrong messages about what I want, on our first date I kind of said I didn’t want anything too serious and didn’t want anyone staying at my house so maybe he thinks this is all I do want? He messaged me last night and this morning asking how my back is (I have hurt my back). He just really confuses me.

Azziz I'm the same on beards. No Father Christmases need apply ...

lovemusic yes send the message-he may be offline but it will be delivered at some point. Send it and then do something nice for yourself and/or with the kids to focus on something else

Batshit good luck with Mr Curry hope it goes well!

Love you can change your mind about what you want, so send the text, get it over with

batshit have a great date. You are on fire 🔥

lovemusic there is something about his behaviour that is making you anxious. Have you agreed exclusivity? Is it that you need a label to know where you stand? Or is it because your dates are just spent in bed? I’d send the text. Then assuming he replies he’s on the same page you get him to put his money where his mouth is and ask him what you should do on Tuesday and make it clear you expect a date. How long have you been dating? I think it’s imoortant to have meals out, go to the cinema/gigs whatever floats your boat. Good way to see if you have similar interests and enjoy time together outside of great sex. Even someone’s film choices are a good indicator of whether you have things in common.

Ha ha. My iron is short and has a big beard. It seems that he has found his niche audience in me 😂

@Lovemusic33 why can't you send the message now? Not actually a bad thing if he can't text back straight away and has some time to think about it properly before responding

And good luck @BatshitCrazyWoman!

Well he's late, not messaged me to say he might be. It's a pink flag - I fucking hate lateness without someone letting me know. I'll be here for another 20 minutes or so (have messaged him that) then I'm going to the cinema on my own.

Have a few I'm chatting to on Fab now .... can't find anyone I like on Tinder 😕

And now he's texted with a good reason why he won't be coming but I'm already here! It's a darker pink flag now and such a waste of a totally free day 😠 He wants to rearrange but I'm not sure.

leonasa mainly because I don’t want him discussing it with his mate over lunch (if he reads it).

I’d. It be impressed batshit. You did say you had a feeling he might not turn up. What made you think that?

How reasonable is his excuse? Is it something he couldn’t have messaged you before you left. I’m not sure I’d give him a second chance unless I really liked our chats and i genuinely believed his reasons.

Batshit pink flags just changed to red, what a twat. Go and watch the film on your own.

batshit if it was me.i'd be all sweet and cool,but if there was to be another,he would have to put himself out and come to my neck of the woods so I wasn't putting myself out at all.
enthusiasm as soon as I have a date booked,i tend to hardly txt at all. Its weird,it's like I don't want to overinvest. Men probably wonder what's going on!

Oh batshit what a shit thing to do! I'd completely ignore him and see what happens, how keen he is to make it up to you?

@Azzizam I'm the opposite! No beard/stubble no deal 😁

The guy I was dating til recently had a lovely beard on his photos. I met him and he'd had a full totally clean shave esp for our date. We did manage to have a laugh about it and he grew it back. Just in time for me to dump him🙄

peanut - Cruel, lol