Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@MyOldBrainStoppedWorking ugh, that would put me off too. There's a time and a place and that clearly wasn't one of them!

30 - so disappointing for a sportsman too!
Myold- ugh. How you respond to that?!?
Like riding- congrats
Jesuis- oh no I was waiting to see how mini hol went
Shit with - really hoping for mr shop

Def quality over quantity. Mr old friend messaged me yesterday and it got bit saucy he knows I’m seeing mr engineer. If he wasn’t old friend I know we shouldn’t be messaging. Happens every couple of weeks. We have very unusual friendship. Nothing ever happened but messages are more full on than guy I’m with maybe because hE knows everything about me?!? Mind duck 🤯

So I had a Facetime date with MrGardener which was hilarious as we were both a bit drunk. It went on for hours and we got on great. Will defo be seeing him in rl. Think that's the way to go, Facetime.

jesuis i'm sorry about your bf too. I know it's the sensible thing to have some alone time,but sometimes it just helps take your mind off it and go looking for irons. Even if you don't meet up.

Looks like I have gone from bus pass oldie to a young 34yr old,got a date lined up for next weekend :) !

Lots of babes and hun from him but nothing sexual.
Do you all agree evening dates are more likely to end in a snog?

@JeSuisPrest ahhh I'm sorry to hear about Mr Abs. It sounded like such a thread success story and one I'd followed from the beginning.

I'm sort of struggling to remember who did what with whom and when on this thread as it moved so fast...

Oh @30somethingandsingle I'm not really getting why you don't go for it with Mr S. it sounds like you really like each other. I know you didn't want a relationship but...

I met my old friend Mr Red who I sniffed 🤣 32 years ago and had a great afternoon catching up. He's gone from iron to friend for life which is much better. ESP as he's aged rather badly.

I then went round to spend the night with MrBum I'm going to call him for obvious reasons! He's totally unsuitable in many many ways, 15 years younger than me, unusual job shall we say but he's lovely and very keen and sweet. He's obsessed with anal though which I'd never done before. I now have quite a lot and I can see it's going to get annoying.

Anyway I don't really do multi-dating once I've DTD. Well unless they're just FB. And I've been seeing him for a couple of weeks I guess. But irons keep popping up from matches made before I turned off my profile and I'm not sure what to do with them. I have the slight feels for MrBum but it's got another month or so in it max.

MrHon is being very persistent. Just got a WhatsApp from him. We were supposed to phone speak last night but I fell asleep. Might ring him now. Kids are both watching tv and means I can tick that box and tell him I'm not interested.

I'm too nice. I'm fine at telling men clearly that I'm not going on a second date/not interested but if they're persistent I feel guilty and cave.

Anyway

@shitwithsugaron you're not being stalkerish no!

How good are your acting skills? Could you pick up your stuff and do a good job at surprise?

Of course he might not be working when you do?

No idea what I'd do... maybe put on some lipstick and a bum hugging pair of jeans and go for it!

Oh FFS, I appear to have been ghosted by MrPlumber. Hopefully he was just out last night and crashed when he got home, but I've not heard from him since tea time yesterday and considering we are supposed to be meeting this afternoon I'm not holding out much hope.

Back to swiping 🙄

user - evening dates usually involves alcohol and so we become bolder and at the very least end up with a kiss or two.

@user1466783975 think it depends. I've only kissed someone on a first date once and I've had at least 20 of those. I think men don't like to dive in in case they're misreading the situation and get rebuffed. If you're both up for a second date then generally you know you fancy each other so they have always always gone in for a snog then.

I was catching up on the thread and came across the Matthew Hussey text re flaky twats. Here's my contribution.
"I'm sensing a lot of confusion coming from you. Experience has taught me that it's a waste of time and energy if someone doesn't know what they want. All the best for the future".

Love if ever there was a need for a shit flinging angry ape message, it is one for Mr SA. He's a head fucker by the sounds of it.

I have a date tonight with a much younger guy who's not put a foot wrong message wise.

1. Can communicate easily.
2. No requests for dodgy pictures.
3. Just the right amount of cheeky banter
4. Hot
5. Athletic body

Well last night didn’t got to plan, I went out, had a few drinks, got back and Mr SA had fallen asleep so I chickened out sending the message. I really need to do it today but now his phone seems to be switched off, he messaged me this morning but I was totally out of it and took over a hour to answer and I’m just getting one tick on WhatsApp. So no feeling fed up and building up what I want to say in my head.

Just a reminder that if you want to tag someone and bold them in your post you need to put @ at the start of their name and use their full name otherwise you are tagging random people on to this thread

If you just want to bold them and use a shortened version you need * at the start and end of their name

Sorry to be moany about this but we had some complainers last week

Looking forward to the update from LilyRose today, I plan to have a threesome before 2019 is out but am planning on 2 guys - anyone done this?

myold I assume he thought you’d be flattered by him telling you that?! Were you talking about anything risqué at the time?

jesuis hopefully Mr Plumber was just out? Fingers crossed he messages ASAP and date is still on.

lovemusic I think you need to rip this plaster off! Can you do it in person when you see him on Tuesday? I’m honestly pathetic. I walked off and left Mr S when he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship. Then I went to his to talk. I managed to get out how upset I was. Then we ending up shagging and nothing much more was said...

user I like to kiss on the first date. Sometimes chemistry is there when you don’t expect it. I had a brief fling with Mr Local who has bored me rigid on our date but gave me fizzy knickers when we kissed. And I had a lovely date with Mr Professor but my body literally jumped away from him when he went for the kiss.

tooold a FaceTime date sounds interesting!!

shitwith i’d just arrange to meet and then feign surprise. You thought he looked familiar etc!

I have no irons other than Mr S. I’m supposed to be keeping my options open and stop myself from getting too invested...

@JeSuisPrest welcome back to OLD 😞 he might still be asleep though.

@Lovemusic33 he needs to hear that message.

I didn't speak to MrHun just now we messaged a bit. He kept going on and on about how sexy I am.. I mean how does he know he hasn't met me? He might find me really dull. So I asked how tall he is and if he's hairy. Both deal breakers for me. He's short and not hirsute. So that was easy! He's gone.

NotCool that’s what will happen if I leave it until I see him, I’m too weak. I need to send a message and before Tuesday, it’s really messing my head up and I need to know where I stand, I just can’t find the right time to do it. I’m scared of his response because if it is just sex I’m going to be upset (only for a short time but it still sucks) but I also don’t want to be wasting my time and I want him to know how I feel “that he only cares about my vagina and not the rest of me”.

Ha ha. Great filtering peanut

Yeah well I don't normally ask! Normally I try to work it out on a date. But this guy is annoying me and I don't want to meet him. Now I have a good excuse/reason! Especially as he's said he only wants a FB. Which I'm happy to do but I don't need one of those right now thank you very much!

lovemusic get a coffee and send the message. I’d say something like ‘I’m enjoying the time we spend together but we do seem to focus on sex and not much else!! The sex is great but I need more from a relationship to keep my interest. If that’s all you want out of this, then I know I’ll get bored and need to move on’.

Send it. Then leave your phone for an hour. Can you meet a friend. Go for a walk, run, gym, brunch?

shitwith I'd probably just say you look familiar but not sure where from. But then I'm a terrible actress and the idea of acting surprised when I see him in the shop actually makes me cringe 🙈😂.

Still can't get over MrBoner. I mean what do you actually reply with? Ewww.

Also Peanut height is one of my deal breakers. How do you respond when they say their height and it's too short/tall for you? I'm struggling with this, and also how to even ask 😂.

I've been chatting to MrDigger who is lovely, but he lives with his mum (who was quite poorly so completely fair enough) but that's one of my deal breakers. He's also only 4 days into his OLD experience and I'm not sure I want to be his first 😂. Not chatting to many others... All pretty dry here 🤷.

@Lovemusic33 great advice from @Notcoolmum go send your message!

Great message notcool. You can do it lovemusic just get it done! Otherwise you're just going to spend all day overthinking it.