Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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loo update - really hot, funny, smart! Already mentioned a second date :)))

Gotham I dated a guy that said he liked curvy/larger women, I am a size 10 and it didn’t seem to bother him 🤣

Great update leonasa, hope the rest of the date goes well.

Mr SA has been messaging me asking to come over (for sex), I refused and I think he might now be sulking (or pleasing himself).

I've just left him actually, he walked me to the station and we had a bit of a kiss! He was actually not feeling well either, we both joked about how we had cold and flu medicine in our bags, so we had dinner and didn't drink much, just one glass of wine, bit of a change for me but a good one I think, we had a really good talk.

He's asked me to let him know when I get home. And, after my experience with Mr Non Monogamous, we had an open chat about what we were both looking for and it's the same thing, ie not jumping into a relationship but ultimately looking for something that can go somewhere. And neither of us are into endless multiple dating (not that I'm going to abandon my other irons yet of course :)) but good to meet someone on the same page!

And well done Love, sounds a bit too booty callish at this hour! Have you spoken to him about things yet?

I hope it's ok to ask here bit is there a way to have an online chatty relationship without meeting or sexting or being some married bloke's EA diversion?
I ask because I'd like an online version of a 'penfriend' I suppose. I'm not ready for actual dating yet and I won't be for at least a year and a half bit I'd like an online male pal iyswim.

but not bit

@leonasa glad things have gone well for you!

@shitwithsugaron I don't want to say but a championship team and until last year was premier league. It was like getting blood out of a stone getting his real name, then when he did I made him prove it lol. I've googled and haven't found any indication of any sort of reputation or gf/wife. I feel a bit nervous now, he's very good looking, probably too good looking for me.

Oooh 30, that is exciting!! And don't be nervous, I'm sure you're gorgeous, and he has seen your pics already.

Hope your face feels better Ant!

ComedyBoobs, is the name of your iron a reference to Idris? 😉

@30 please let him not be a villa player.... KRO lol

@ant330 glad it worked. Old dancers trick we used to use and still use at that.

@leonosa that's amazing.... Ahhh both made the effort even feeling rank that's really sweet...

@love if he has gone moody what's your txt to him going to be.

weirdlookingbricks Definitely possibly, I'm an expert at finding such men while actually looking for men who want to date. Just be wary that if you make a connection and eventually decide you do want to meet it's likely they won't want to. I'm still chatting occasionally to a man I met on POF and had a first date with 6 months ago who still apparently intends to have a second date when he gets himself together. He'd still be happily messaging several times a day if I hadn't pulled back and he's definitely single.

leonasa so pleased you had a good date despite both feeling awful.

30 oooh sounds good. I hate football and would literally have no clue even if told his name 😂

Ant hope the face is feeling better this morning.

30something - How exciting, like being on Celebrity First Dates!
Love - Good call.
leonosa - That sounds really promising.
weird - Be wary of dating sites where blokes are looking for friends as it's usually the FB/FWB type. Although as likeriding said, I've had irons that never got round to asking for a date and we messaged for months. You can always block the unsavory types tho.

Well, I had a night to myself thankfully. I've never been so tired! MrRY eventually went home yesterday morning but we still ended up meeting for lunch!
MrGardener msg me asking outright if I was seeing someone and I just said I've got a date lined up tonight. He said he hopes that doesn't put him out of the picture. I really don't know what to say to that as it's still early days with MrRY, but I don't want to mess it up. It's so easy with him.

It's an interesting thing for me but I've begun to realise that I mirror people, not intentionally, it just happens. Some people bring out the best in you and some the worst, that's a known fact. It's a lightbulb moment for me tho as I didn't realise my personality was so fluid. I always thought it was something that was fixed. Sorry, waffling now as it's 5am and no one else is about, lol.

Date 2 with Mr No Eye Contact last night. And I just don't know about him!!
He's not bad looking, good job, good teeth but trying to hold a conversation with him is hard work.

It was better than date 1 as he was less nervous but I still ended up doing most of the talking or asking him lots of questions. I gave him plenty of openers to ask me about things I do/have done but he didn't pick up on them.

Do I keep seeing him and hope it improves as we get to know each other?
Or bin it now before he gets too attached to me. It obvious he likes me more than I like him.

Face is better thank you, just a slightly swollen eyelid. Thanks warriorprincess hot and cold clearly worked.

Ooh exciting

@leonasa that sounds like a winner

@tooold Mr RY looks like he can go the distance

@love men sulking isn’t attractive but it shows he’s into you

@30something well done for the due diligence

@Weirdlookingbricks I have this on Plenty of Fish. Just pen friends and have no intention of meeting. One is one who liked me before but I knew I was my attracted but kept to chat. The other is attracted but has ADHD issues and a bit of a hermit. Plus a few more just to chat and flirt with. I did try the usual dating paths but they didn't seem to go anywhere and I realised I probably wasn't ready so this has given me a good inbetween thing.

Finally managed to catch up with the thread!

Ant330 good to hear your face is better. Coaching kids is fun and rewarding but hard work sometimes.

TooOldForThis67 glad to hear you got some rest. Why not meet Mr Gardener and see what he's like?

Weirdlookingbricks I have a few online chatty penpals. I've still got one that reappears every so often. Just be wary as some with just want sex talk

leonasa sounds like a great date.

Lovemusic33 well done for refusing. Let him sulk.

Gothamgirl1970 I wouldn't like it if a man I was potentially dating was making remarks about womens' appearance. Be yourself and don't worry about what men think. I you want to lose weight, do it for yourself.

Mr No Eye Contact has ruled himself out.
He sent me a message late last night which I didn't see. Then sent another very early this morning which implied I was ignoring him.

So I ended up saying that I thought perhaps we weren't compatible.

Urgh MyOld I don't blame you. Like you have nothing better to do (like sleep!) than respond to him.

TooOld I do that mirroring thing too, to a certain extent.

Morning all
Glad to hear lots have great dates.
I've been thinking about my situation since mr garden gate and why I seem to run when someone comes on too strong. I'm just not ready!

So,i'm going to find myself myself my first fwb. Decided I could do with a youngen this time,maybe late thirties. Joined pof yet again and this is my aim,though i'm not very flirty so going to have to try. I tried to last night but i'm hopeless. I need to be more suggestive.help!

Hoping he isn't a villa player either warrier sotv lol

myold based on an experience I had similar where I thought it might be a slow burn for him to open up I'd say....save you both the time and bin it. Slow burns I'm sure can happen...but if you're getting nothing on the second date the rest I found weren't much different

tooold soubds amazing! Feeling instantly comfortable is usually my 'it's the real deal' feeling. I have a very flexible personality too. I suspect as social animals we all have to to some degree...though I know really rigid people who never seem to take cues from their environment and respond accordingly.

love well done for refusing him. I had to do similar last night. We have all afternoon/evening date today and he was wanting me to go round last night as well as I was out with pals but I agree especially in the beginning it's better to stick to pre arranged meets. Otherwise it can get pretty muddy. Any word from him since then?

Afm. Date today and my bloody cat woke me at 430. Wasn't able to get back to sleep due to his mithering and bow have work to do. Joy.