Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

gothamgirl so sorry for your loss. You have had a lot to deal with x

@notcoolmum thanks. I am very blessed in many other ways. X

Oh my goodness, Gotham I'm so sorry to hear that.
I now understand the whole weight loss thing & feeling insecure. In that case, leave it a few weeks. Concentrate on you

So sorry @Gothamgirl1970 I would potentially put him off until you feel more confident in yourself. Contact him again when you are and if he's still around then great, if not then well, it was not meant to be.

I decided to put some distance between me and Mr S today. I don't like playing games as such but I just want a bit of space and don't want to have to explain why to him (again). He asked if I'm free on Sunday, to which I replied I'm not sure. He's been messaging throughout the day with 'miss you' and 'hope you're ok' several times. I just can't work him out.

I'm so sorry for your loss Gotham, you've had an awful time of it

@comedyboobs @30something and @shit

It was a bad time but years of therapy help.

I quite like MrJustice. He texts or calls each day and flirts a bit or makes me laugh. It’s very flattering and makes me feel happy.

Since I’d like to give it a go at least for dating, being happy and comfortable with how I look and being happy in myself seems paramount to having a chance at success. I hope that makes sense.

@30something that sounds like a plan.

On to something lighter: FAB = holy cow! I mean I’m learning about kinks I never even knew were a thing. Feel like an escapee from a convent in there!

So sorry to hear that @Gothamgirl1970. Don't do anything until you feel ready.

If you wanted to, you could perhaps in a jokey way kind of tease him about what he said about curvy women, and say you've gained some more curves since he last saw you and see what he says?

I'm on my way out to meet Mr Italian. Feeling actually quite ill which is not great, possibly should have cancelled but didn't want to so late in the day. Have dosed myself up. Will send loo update! (I may be in there quite a lot 😳☺️)

@leonasa excited! I have carrot sticks and a mint tea instead of popcorn to munch while I wait for the loo update!

Yes, Gotham browse around fab, it will give you lots of entertainment. It's my choice of 'dating' app.

I have MrElba, meeting for coffee next weekend. Mr6Pack, who has been chasing me around, I've finally agreed to lunch time coffee next week. But something is setting the alarm bells off with that one. He's a PT, so could come in handy.
Mr Big who I met up with a couple of weeks ago. Ticks all the boxes for FWB but lives too far away.

leonasa "sorry you're feeling ill, hope it all goes well.
I had a date while I was feeling absolutely shocking. We'd known each other a while dtd etc. Lovely meal out, amazing hotel..... I fell asleep mid shag. Not my finest moment

Thanks ladies! @comedyboobs that gave me a chuckle ☺️

Gotham you seem to know yourself very well (blimey what a time you've had!) so you know best about the weight thing, your confidence and Mr J. He sounds lovely though so maybe deserves an explanation for why you are holding him off?

Comedy poor guy!!!

I’m sorry to hear that @Gothamgirl1970. Tbh, if he’s going on about how he doesn’t like curvy women, then maybe he’s just not worth meeting up with again. The only reason to change anything about yourself is because you want to and it will improve your life. There’s no point in doing it for a man. And, anyway, you wouldn’t want someone you’d be worried wouldn’t like you if you put on a few pounds.

Rule7. You are the prize.

Yes, indeed cassettes, I made it up to him the following morning though.

You are all so sweet I’m welling up here in London!

Just crossed off MrElba- too sow in responding (3 hours) & setting a time for coffee date.

Dancingwith I'll send you a pm shortly, need to make a couple of tweaks following earlier suggestions.
But I'm currently sat in the kitchen with a bag of frozen peas on my face after taking a football in the face from point blank range. So I have a banging headache, red swollen cheek and bloodshot eye. Who knew coaching 13 year olds could be so dangerous!
Obviously they all found it hilarious, little gits!

@ant330 that’s awful!

Gotham- I think just arrange if he’s remembered you after two years that’s mighty impressive. I don’t like the curvy comments but it could be a good first date to practise on!

Ant- good on you for coaching the gits. Good story to tell. We’ve got new earlier kick off so have to leave tomorrow at 7.30. Will be like work!

Thanks for all the messages to beat the fucker up lol.

@Gotham so sorry for your loss

@ant330 put a hot cloth on it.... you need a mixture of hot and cold to lessen the swelling

Good luck to all those with dates tonight x

It's my own fault for not getting out of the way quick enough, although I did save it with my face so every cloud...
I'm sure it will be fine by tomorrow ;)
The most difficult bit was not swearing like a trooper in front of a dozen kids!

As I've put Mr S on the back burner I've started shopping again on fab
Chatted with a very nice one- we'll call him Mr footballer as he's a professional footballer (made him send a pic with my name on it to prove it's him ahaha!) he's very hot and we've arranged a coffee date for tomorrow.

dancingwith I've PMd you a link thank you

warriorprincess thank you, trying hot cloth now. What a relief my face was bloody freezing!!
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