Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@Marlboroandmalbec34 good luck, you will need a spreadsheet!
@Gothamgirl1970 good luck, you will get ALOT of messages!

Marlboro Six?! Well done!! Looking forward to the run down on how they all went!

Happy Friday everyone! Marlboro, blimey, well done you! Looking forward to hearing how they go.

I've got a date with Mr Italian tonight, he messaged this morning with a 'reminder' - I hadn't forgotten! ☺️ but I quite like that he's thinking about it.

It's a really tough one re seeing people online on apps @30somethingandsingle, I wish they would actually just take that feature off! The thing is as you say you have been on there to look at him and he could be doing exactly the same thing. You definitely just need to have the chat. Perhaps he is not sure whether you are happy to be exclusive so still looking around for that reason?

Hope everyone has a good evening - and dates!

Still catching up with thread but just wanted to say welcome gotham and peanut if I haven’t already and great that you’re still following the thread warrior I have no words for your husband’s friend-shocking behaviour😱

It should definitely be an option if you want to see if someone is online I think. Also don't you have to actually log out of the app to show offline. I know on Badoo I get messages asking why I'm up (can't stop thinking about your dick - (sarcasm)? When in fact I've been asleep all night.😶

Excuse no question marks in that post!!

marlborough 6 dates!
too 🤞 it’s the real deal with your latest iron-sounds promising.Remind me how long have you known him for?

For the poster who asked - my latest stint on OLD resulted in meeting 8 people (chatted to various others but didn’t meet):
-2 that progressed to second dates but no spark
-1 first date,no spark
-1 that went on for 6 weeks of seeing but then turned out to be a psychopath
-1 that went on for 8 weeks but then I ended things as he wouldn’t be intimate for last 6 weeks of it?!
-1 -popped round to see guy i knocked around with as a kid who I had been intimate with (but not dtd with) 4 years ago but who I wasn’t interested in-more a catch up
-1 fab social meet at his then dtd on 2nd meet with view to being fwb but then I didn’t meet again as met...
-number 8-guy I had mutual crush with back at school many moons ago. Early days but we are exclusive and have skirted around the Gf/bf conversation so are pretty much that. Having first proper overnight stays this w/e so looking forward to that (have dtd a few times-compatible-but looking forward to not having time pressures and falling asleep together).

Go you, Marlborough! I got very confused when I once had four dates in a weekend .... ! Definitely have notes on your phone!

30 your Fab guy is annoying me and I'm not even seeing him. I cannot bear any kind of double standard and would be having words with him. Did you pay for Fab? If you did you can see who's been looking at you - if it's him then maybe that's why he's on there (clutching at straws!!). It's okay not to be sure about wanting a relationship and letting it evolve, but it doesn't sound like he's fully on board. I think you need a full cards on the table chat.

Well my evening with my Fab couple is all set up for tomorrow night, and as expected Mr Much Younger texted me this morning to say that he was still feeling ill and couldn't come to the show with me tonight. I am hoping that my friend can make it but it depends whether she can leave work early. Mr Much Younger did suggest that we meet up mid-week when he is feeling better, and I said that's okay, but it does feel like I have been relegated to the cheap seats!

Changing a couple of words on my POF profile to update it has prompted some new interests. A couple of very good looking guys who it turned out just wanted to sext and swap photos, despite their profiles saying they were looking for a relationship. I gently explained that I don't want that type of a relationship . Then Mr Even Younger emerged from the shadows. He is younger than my eldest daughter (ouch) but likes older women and is keen to meet me. I will see how it goes, as he is very easy on the eye and seems like a decent chap.

It's good to hear all the different stories on this thread, as it keeps me sane and makes me realise what a zoo this OLD scene is! And it is also lovely to hear some good stories where the dates go well and things are looking positive. One thing I have learned is not to offer/agree to go exclusive too early. Last year two guys did that to me and the first turned out to be a control freak and the second broke my heart when he decided that he wasn't so fond of me after all, having love bombed me and made loads of promises for three months .

@BatshitCrazyWoman glad I'm not the only one he's annoying! yes I'm a sire supporter but have never seen that he has viewed my profile- he's probably done what u have done and changed privacy so that you can't be seen to have looked at profiles.

He had mentioned coming over tonight as well, but he's not mentioned it today, so we will see. My fanny needs a rest anyway I think as we tend to go at it like rabbits..5times in 3 hours last night!!

Site and 'I' not 'u' typing too quickly

Thanks for the welcome everyone.

As for fab I just wanted to have a secret profile to people watch and my God is there an eyeful to see. My giddy aunt!

Good gracious 30something I couldn't cope with 5 times in 3 hours! That is impressive. .

@LilyRose88 I must admit his stamina and ability to erm, wake up again is impressive, but I really hope he calms down a bit!

shit what a twit. Ffs. Everyone knows unless you've been seeing and sleeping together for a while and you've actually said you're not multi dating....its never an assumption to make. How many times have you guys met?

shitwith I think your guy has double standards, as I bet he is talking to others online! Sorry if that sounds cynical, but I now always assume that my iron (they are usually singular) is talking to others. The only reason that I am not talking to loads of men is that I am really fussy, and most of the men of my age on OLD (or the men that contact me) do not float my boat. And I accept that I am actually very fussy (even my daughters tell me that I am fussy .

Don't question yourself shit question him. There are ways for people to do this like....asking you if you'll be exclusive like a grown up. Spitting your dummy out because the other person isn't doing what you expect isn't the way to do it

Thanks everyone! Interesting to see how many Irons you end up meeting and how many are just 1st dates! Also, do any of you speak on the phone prior to meeting as a must? I'm thinking that might get rid of some of them as I'm struggling with the energy of disappointing 1st dates. Can't imagine 6 over a weekend! But hopefully at least 1 of those will be successful 🤞

Is chatting with others multi-dating? I would say no.
Shitwith if you haven't said you'd be exclusive, I think I'd be telling him where to go!

Agree with the others shitwith.

So is he saying he's not speaking to other women? He should just tell you what he wants rather than throwing a strop 🤷

What did he say roughly in the essay Shitwith? How many times have you seen each other (dtd?)

itsamiracle I usually have. It's squashed about 30% of first dates I reckon...e.g either me or they have decided not to bother