Arf at stroking the cat mid other stroke. How offputting.
I don’t think I really understand all the FWB/FB/ ambiguous status stuff. Luckily I managed to bypass it, despite being a bit unsure what I wanted. Although I think by that I was just unsure who I wanted and once I’d found one I wanted to keep, I knew I was looking for a relationship.
Sadly I think most OLD men would have found me flakey and unclear. I did go into it on a ‘let’s see what happens’ basis. But I wasn’t all that keen about meeting most of the people I messaged.
We decided it was a proper relationship after DTD on date 2. Well I’d already decided and so had he. But we agreed we’d decided. He told me he’d deleted tinder because he didn’t think he needed it and would like to think of me as his girlfriend (if that was ok). I’m not sure I’d have been any good with anyone less willing to just say what his intentions were than MrSlightlyGinger.
I didn’t get a surname. Or a full name (he clarified which option it was short for on the first date). Once I’d decided that I was pretty sure I really liked him (during date 1, just before going in for the kiss 😆), I just asked for his surname and told him mine. I did meet him in a properly public place and kept in touch with a friend with loo updates.
On animals: I’m not an animal person. My kids are allergic to cats and dogs. And none of us is keen on animals (DS1 hates dogs). So I wouldn’t choose a relationship with an animal person. MrSlightlyGinger is also allergic to cats and dogs, so there’s no issue there.
Discussing how it would affect moving in would be offputting at a super early stage. Even jokingly it’s just not something you’d mention. It’s nearly 9 months in and MrSG has recently acquired the drawers in one of my bedside tables (the one on what I think of as ‘his’ side of the bed now). They’d been totally empty until then so it was mostly an ornamental because table. 😆 He keeps some spare contact lenses and pants in them.