Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@WotcherHarry: I agree about being wary of people who dislike animals. A friend of mine dated an absolute horror who was cold and cruel to both her and her poor cat ☹️ I think a decent person who dislikes animals will either avoid dating someone who has them or in some cases will learn to tolerate or even like them. The person I mentioned remained absolutely resolute in his dislike of my friend’s cat, although the cat was there first and was actually a delightful pet by most people’s standards!

love thays a pet hate of mine too. Like...seriously bloody carry on the thread or don't bother. Mind these days I tend to shoot the text and come offline so I don't overthink anything. Even if it is bloody annoying

shitwith - Aww, poor bloke. Ignore? Has he said anything else, like, how he's gonna change etc?

MrRY is coming over soon. Think it's just a booty call but what the heck, he's cute!

super I’m not touching my phone (will stay off line), he has just replied but I can’t be bothered to read it as he took so long to reply. I don’t want to play games.

love I often feel like WhatsApp has made communication worse rather than better. The double blue tick. The double grey when you can see they're online! Actual worst. I CAN SEE YOU!

I think a simple, clear message saying you’re totally sure that you don’t want to give it another go and wishing him luck then blocking him might be the way to go @shitwithsugaron.

I agree super at times I hate WhatsApp.

MrRY has just msg and asked how would I like a relationship with him? Erm, it's something we could discuss? Why would he ask that? I'm 12 yrs older than him. I can see the advantage from my point of view, lol, but for him?

Thank god for kik. I can't be doing with whattsapp.

For those of you on fab - how are you finding it? There seem to be a LOT of fake pictures, which pisses me off no end. Why do people do that? You get chatting, awesome from the neck down.... ask for a face pic & they look like a frog.

Must say the reason I like Mr Engineer is that he can make decisions. So pleasant to have someone who can decide stuff. He's allergic to cats but loves them and has one of his own, plus volunteers at RSPCA to work with the cats. What isn't there to like

I've noticed with younger guys mainly that they have a habit of disappearing mid conversation whereas I always say got to go, chat soon.

I had a ONS last July with one and he's kept in touch ever since. He'll message me at work, be disappointed I can't chat, then when we do chat, will just suddenly disappear until he pops up again, usually when I'm at work! 😏
It's like they've never learned how to round up a conversation. In the early days of me using was used to get so paranoid thinking I'd said something wrong. Now I just think oh he's gone and he'll be back and sure enough they are?

God yes, I HATE wattsapp. I turned off the blue ticks and the last seen after reading advice on these threads. But the ‘online’ and ‘typing’. I don’t need to know someone is online and ignoring me. Or typing to me. And then not. ARGH!!!!!!!

Early days of using WhatsApp

notcoolmum if I'm feeling super paranoid I go into airplane mode, type my message, then switch it off once I'm out of WhatsApp. That way it sends it without you seeing any of that. Then coolly wait for a reply

Ha ha. Great tip. God this business sends us a bit bonkers doesn’t it!!

Azzizam great tip

You get chatting, awesome from the neck down.... ask for a face pic & they look like a frog Yes, I've had a few of those, ComedyBoobs. That's why I never do any chat unless they send a face pic.

Luckily, I think last night's Fab date will look as awesome as his photos. If I ever manage to get to that stage.

I don't think I could cope with Fab. I've seen enough wanking videos and dick pics to last a lifetime. Recently I was sent a dick pic which looked like the alien baby that burst out of John Hurt's stomach (minus the teeth). I was supposed to be tempted I suppose. Badoo is the worst for this.

Wow so much to catch up on 👀

120 miles is the first and you bought him beer??

I hate WhatsApp, I use it with friends and it never bothers me. But if a guy reads my message and goes on and off line but doesn't reply I get annoyed.

I've hidden my profile on Fab at the mo while I sort out the irons that I'm chatting to already.
Strangely, I'm actually missing the weird messages. But not the dick pics.

Comedy it's taken me awhile with Fab but I do like it. Lot LOT of sitting through and so many hilarious messages.

But overall not that bad

@Azzizam I saw these on Facebook earlier - I thought they’d be a decent response to dick pics...

WotcherHarry - Brilliant! Problem solved.

Not been able to read or respond today, it's been a busy day and my plan of coming home to take selfies after a glass of wine has gone pear shaped because I'm knackered. Just got home, gave the dog a cuddle, grabbed a beer and a pack of crisps and climbed into bed. It's a glamorous life I lead :)
Anyway, although I hoped I might bump into her again today no such luck. She has my number as she took my business card earlier in the day, but I won't be holding my breath. Honestly it was only ever going to be a ONS as we live nowhere near each other, and that's what made me make my excuses and leave. We may bump into each other at future events as we work in same industry, but it's not like I thought she's 'the one' more like she's the one who made me give myself a kick up the arse to actually make myself available again. Probably a bit of a confidence boost as well.
I can't list everybody who replied, but a big thanks to everybody that did, it's encouraging to know that many have felt exactly the same and I just need to man the f* up and get on with it :)
I may well be back in the next couple of days with a request to look at my profile. Having never written one I'm clueless where to start to be honest, so some (not too brutal) feedback would be appreciated.

@TooOldForThis67 there was one that I remembered after posting - it was just a photo of a sausage chopper