My husband has just hit me

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We had a big argument this afternoon, about a non issue, that escalated.
I went into our bedroom for some space, he followed me, I kept asking him to please just go away, he refused and kept shouting. He grabbed my wrists and pinned me down and told me never to tell him to go away in his own home again.
I left to sort my horses out, returned an hour later.
Went into the kitchen and began making dinner, assuming he'd come in and apologise.
He came in screaming at me, calling me every name under the sun. He pretended he hadn't grabbed me and I was being a drama queen. I asked if he'd be ok if BIL did that to SIL (his sister)... "only if she deserved it, like you did."
I told him I was going, ran out to the kitchen to grab my coat and he grabbed me and shoved me. I fell against the fridge and hit my head, he was screaming and swearing at me and calling me a slag.
I ran and jumped into my car.
Currently said in my car by the beach.
I don't know what to do.
He's hit me before, twice, and received counselling for this.
My parents are currently on holiday. I'm 200 miles from my close friends/family.
I can't leave this area due to my horses.
I need to go home and get my stuff. I don't even have my purse.
I'm sat here crying and crying. I just don't know what to do or where to go.

You just found that out tonight at A&E?

Can you ring your parents too, OP? I'd be pretty mad if one of mine didn't let me know they needed my support whether I was on holiday or not.......

What are you going to call him for? Surely it's best to leave it until the police have dealt with him? Good luck with the situation anyway. Are you in Cornwall?

Oh my, please call your BF now, I'm sure she'd want to be with you if she can or at least be at the end of a phone. You're doing brilliantly, keep it up OP.

Thinking of you. There is nothing you could have done differently to prevent this from happening. Know that xx

.... I wouldn't personally call him tonight. Let the police talk to him and do what they need to do. Once the situation has calmed down and you have had the chance to take a breather for a minute, get some sleep and let the fact that you are pregnant sink in, then think about how you are going to tell him. The most serious aspect of all of this, is you really need to think about raising a child in that environment. Of course, no one wants to be a single parent and emotionally it will feel scary etc, BUT it's the right thing!! You deserve better. Don't settle for less. I hope your ok xxx

Congratulations on the pregnancy OP. Please don't go back to this man, please don't put a child through hell.
Start a new life away from him and you will be so grateful.
A leopard never changes his spots!

Thank goodness you are safe and being treated.

Does he know you’re pregnant? They say domestic violence often increases hugely during pregnancy.

Does the house belong to both of you? Usually, police will remove one person from the house, usually the offender. If you talk to them, ask if they’ll do that so you can go back tomorrow. He will need to go elsewhere til you decide what to do.

Look after yourself as the only priority. Can whoever is doing the horses carry on til further notice? Can you turn them out temporarily? I appreciate it’s crap weather for this and our fields are mostly mud, but if someone can check them daily, you can concentrate on yourself.

I think OP is talking about ringing her Best Friend not her BoyFriend.

Cherrysoup that was my first thought too.
Please stay strong Op. The most scary thing for me is that he had a chance to cool down and didn't

Glad that you are telling your friend because you should not keep quiet about the abuse. It's a lot to digest.

Congratulations on the baby.
Good luck with working everything else out 💐

Oh OP, your pain is just jumping off the screen, you sound so sad and bewildered I just want to hug you. I'm so so sorry he turned out to be such a vile human being. Stay strong and stay away

Hope you're ok OP

I'm at a loss as to what to say.
Have you been in touch with your friend yet? I think you need a proper hug.

Didn’t want to ‘read and run’. Take care of yourself, OP. I’m so sorry this had happened to you. He didn’t lose his temper - certainly not over a row about mushrooms - he was building up to this, provoking and winding himself up into a sense of outrage so as to ‘justify’ the attack on you. This is what abusive men do. It’s not loss of control due to extreme emotion/alcohol or any other thing used as an excuse. It’s all about him wanting to control you with fear. Don’t give him another chance, you and your baby deserve so much better. 🌺

OP I am glad you are being looked after.

You have just found out - as in, at the hospital?

Do not tell your husband that you are pregnant until you have had time to think through what you wish to do.

Please be completely honest with the police - they will be able to remove him so that you have a safe place to be while you decide what to do.

But please don't even consider going back to him. He could kill you.

Op glad your being looked after. I'm also south west if you need RL support.

I have no advice but please put yourself first and look after yourself.

Hi Op, I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I hope you're managing to get some rest. I'm in kernow if you're here and would like some local support.

Offering best wishes OP. You are very brave x

Hope all goes well for you, OP.

Canadian hugs 🤗 I am glad you have spoken to the police. I hope you follow through with charges. He had time to cool down yet when you came home he continued to rage and attack you.

Congratulations on the pregnancy! It must be shocking after everything has happened tonight. Please, don’t let it change your decision. He is physically abusive and if you go back he will continue and may end both of your lives.

I hope you were able to speak with your friend. That she was able to give you good support.

Keep your news away from him. Go home and be safe and figure out what you want to do. See a solicitor about divorce and separation.

Big hugs and support to you, OP. You're doing amazingly well. Stay strong