He asked why I haven’t waxed my arsehole and said...

[Michelledances]

“Most women wouldn’t want that to be hairy”

Said almost in passing but I feel uncomfortable about it. Am I being too sensitive here?

Have you got kids together? If not just move on. You will not regret it.

Oh, well how generous of him to offer to pay. Tell him to spend his money on a sex-doll instead. They're really realistic these days and they don't answer back. I believe they have totally hairless arseholes too. Bonus.

Seriously, if he is making you feel like this, you need to tell him to fuck off. You don't need someone bringing you down.

Urghh, if anyone offered to pay for me to get my bum waxed, they would be using that money for a taxi - NEXT!!!

Is the sex good enough to make it worth waxing your A hole? I think not or you wouldn't be posting here.

slappin it’s not that simple, sometimes comments can be made in a way that make you question if it is meant nastily.

I get that he is clearly not a nice person to do this but it is hard to come to terms with when you’ve spent a year with someone and only just realising that the things he has said haven’t been ok.

I'd kind of relish dumping such a twat. He's probably the egotistical type who'll be utterly blindsided by it and just gape in shock like a goldfish. Savour it.

I will be walking away, I think this was the final straw which is why I came here. Feel broken

Have you asked him why he hasn’t lost weight as most men like going to the gym and eat healthy?

Tell him you haven't waxed your arsehole because you wouldn't want to waste the time on him.

You’ll be much better once you’re rid of the sexist man.

OMG! I'm 48 and have had a fair few boyfriends and hot passion and have never, ever heard of such a thing. Ffs, what an utter twat he sounds.

He’s not confident and doesn’t want you to be either.

Sorry Michelle 💐 but walking away is the only thing to do

This is so about arseholes - as in, he is a complete arsehole.

Lucky escape, be kind to yourself, move on. .

Just tell him you’ve decided to get rid of your hairy arsehole and lose a lot of weight at the same time - and can he shut the door on his way out

Has he waxed his? If not, why not?

I am sorry OP because he has eaten into your self esteem which is affecting your judgement of him (not a surprise, I have been there). I binned my (cheating) ex and I feel a lot better now! Took a while, mind. You need to be kind to yourself. Wear heels if you want, or not. Wax things if you want, or not. Your life, your choices

@Berthatydfil Perfect!

I don’t think I have ever seen my arsehole. It could have a marching band of unicorns there for all I know.

Tell him instead of paying for it, you would rather he put the money on a diet or gym membership himself. For his health.

@QueenOfTheAndals Thought I was the only one who noticed!

People saying has he waxed his, I think it's far better to stand firm and retaliate with something like 'What? Why the fuck would I consider doing something as pointless as that? It's never occurred to me and I'm completely happy with it as it is.'

I hate him for the things he has done. On Friday he threatened to break my fingers (doubt he would have ever touched me and carried out the threat). He’s pushed me from time to time but then I have fought backs bit. He’s huge compared to me though, I’m probably underweight and he’s very much overweight.

One occasion he pulled out of me during sex as he was angry I was moving away from him - I wasn’t, it was the bed moving and it must have seemed I was moving away.

God writing all this down I feel so embarrassed.

I’ve left his house. He didn’t notice as he was locked in a bedroom not speaking to me. Still no idea why.

Thank you for all the support

Every post you add is just one more reason you should dump this idiot Michelle. He really isnt lovely when he makes you feel crap and second guessing yourself.

He sees you as something that should act out what he sees as how a 'woman should be'.
He doesnt care about whether its you or another woman just what his ridiculous image of a woman is and he will sulk like a toddler to get it.

Find an adult not a sulky manchild you deserve much better. Nobody should make you feel you dont measure up to thier standards (which are frankly ignorant, controlling and misogynist)

I would be tempted to buy him a pair of stilletoes in his size and ask him to wear them all day when you are out, see what his reaction, is just before i binned him😉

@muddysnowdrop and I agree!!