He asked why I haven’t waxed my arsehole and said...

[Michelledances]

“Most women wouldn’t want that to be hairy”

Said almost in passing but I feel uncomfortable about it. Am I being too sensitive here?

if my husband said something like that if i didnt club him with a fry pan i would most likely grow them and braid the fuckers

I didn’t think he watched much porn to be honest. But I don’t have a problem with it in general, as long as he’s not comparing me which it sounds like he is

I think this is the final straw now. He is the absolute master of silent treatment and is currently not speaking to me (since last night) and I don’t know why.

Dump and move on.

Ugh he's a sulky silent treatmenter as well as being a chunky body shamer?

Dump him immediately.

It'll be no loss then if you extended the silent treatment and never speak to him again.

I'd take a razor to his arsehole and see him off out of your life

So the silence is a messages he issued a command and you are disrespecting him by not having done your bum last night .

Tell him your average woman doesn't wax their arsehole, and that he is unrealistic in his thinking.

“A prime example of why I haven't been on a date in years. At some point men turn it into a competitive sport when they think they own their women”

Again, tad strong. At some point, SOME men do.

How long have you been together?

He is the absolute master of silent treatment and is currently not speaking to me (since last night) and I don’t know why.

Well, that's worse than the arsehole comment, isn't it? Who wants a sulky man baby?

But both together, plus the heels comment, paint a picture of someone who, although far from physical perfection himself, has ideals he wants you to meet, whether or not you want to. Not ideal.

I don’t think it is related to the shaving comment as that was a few days ago.

Michelle, your bar is set so low a flea could limbo under it. There is FA lovely about this guy - he's a misogynistic porn-hound dickhead. Body insecurities, my arse, he's a negging, entitled arsehole.

A good course of action would be to DUMP him now, the heels alone comment would have done it for most women; STOP online dating and dating in general and work much, much more on your boundaries because no one who is truly lovely behaves like this wart.

Why's he looking at your bumhole anyway

Errr. Do you really need that explaining to you?!

OP. How old are you both? Just curious as to his age for this expectation.

Used like this ‘Most women...’ is NEVER a positive thing. Ever. It’s a controlling. He’s looking to control you & make you insecure. Probably because he’s actually aware that he’s not a catch and wants to get you under his thumb before you realise what he’s doing, so you don’t leave him.

...do you really want this man telling you what you should be wearing & doing to fit his trophy girlfriend ideal?! Bleurgh.

DH once made a comment about a woman with hairy armpits being a bit weird (not even me)...so I didn't shave for a year..

He's never made any comments since;)

Does he feel the same about hairy hands OP?

Why are you with him?
What would you say to your daughter if she told you her boyfriend was treating her like this?
He appears to have no respect for you or himself. You'd be better off being on your own than with someone who treats you like this.

Heres what you say 'get the fuck out of my house and never contact me again' and then you date someone who actually speaks to you with respect.

Good, he's made it easier for you. Block him now, fucking ghost him. You owe this arsehole nothing.

He sounds disgusting to be honest. Obviously he has no respect for you or he wouldn't tell you that you need to conform to what other women do. High heels are really fucking painful and waxing your anus is painful and expensive. Hair removal creams and wax strips say that they should not be used around the anal opening, so I presume you would need to go to a professional waxer. Maybe he is like this because he is insecure about being overweight. My friend dated a very overweight guy and he told her that she was disgustingly fat and that he could never fancy her unless she lost four stone. He was way fatter than her. Why do these mediocre men have such apparently high standards for themselves- standards that seem to involve female suffering?

So glad I don't date men.

Been together a year. He makes me feel I’m not enough for him, seems constantly disappointed then the next moment will be saying how wonderful I am.

I also mentioned the cost funky and he just said he would pay

FGS if he's for real then why are you even on here and making excuses for him? Dump him ASAP!

He's a misogynist. And it sounds like you aren't too clued up about sexism yourself to be honest because you are ok with unethical porn and weren't sure if the comments about waxing and heels were ok or not.