Did I react to this ‘breakup’ well?

[Optimistic199]

I met a guy & we really got on. He would make lots of effort & there was a lot of chemistry.
Anyway, this morning I was on watsap and so was he.: whenever I would go offline so would he and when I would come back online so would he. He usually watsaps me as soon as he wakes up but today he didn’t I was about to say hello when he randomly text me ‘I don’t want to speak to you anymore’

I was a bit baffled but just said lol ok to which he replied ‘I’m serious’ I then replied back saying yes I’m serious too ok. And I then deleted him which I know would have really wound him up ( he would have seen my watsap pic go) he then deleted me too as his also went

It was a bit weird. We spoke on the phone last night for a couple of hours (as usual) and just on Tuesday he kept on saying he wanted a baby with me!!!

I have no idea why he would just randomly text me that. I would like to know why he had a sudden change of heart but I didnt want to embarrass myself so just left it but part of me thinks maybe he was testing me to get a reaction? This is something he’d do

Was I wrong to go with what he said without an explanation??

Unicorn - I’m definitely not getting reeled back in. From what I have heard from his wife I feel sick that I even spoke to him. She’d said a lot more which I can’t say

I only contacted him again to let him know that I will speak to his wife as he is the one that gave the number.

Agree with wishywashy. Ignore, ignore, ignore.
Sending you . Keep safe and strong

I did wake up this morning thinking why on earth did I speak to his wife but honestly her texts seemed desperate and I would have always regretted it if I blocked her and ignored her. Also she seemed very very broken on the phone she just kept on saying that she doesn’t know who she is anymore and I’m a stranger to her yet she literally told me everything so I’m guessing she’s lonely

I will definitely ignore him. I just hope she doesn’t contact me again as well as I would feel so bad ignoring her based on how she sounded last night

Its done now. You have listened to someone in pain despite it not being in your best interests. Block everything now and keep yourself safe.

I said he'd be married! It's not your fault, you weren't to know but at least you know you're unlikely to hear from him again!

Why even answer his calls ? Seriously OP you are doing yourself no favours , block these numbers and hers. You do not need to entrench yourself in this. And the reason why he was happy to drive many miles is so that he’s dalliances we’re kept separate . Don’t let him gas you up and make you think you are different to the rest , that’s how you get roped in. He has fine tuned his “game” for many years from the sound of it. Walk away for goodness sake.

I don’t know why I answered his call yesterday I just felt sorry for the wife so just wanted to know what he said to her

He has text me this morning obviously I have not responded and I have blocked the number. I’m going to put my phone in aeroplane mode and change my number

I feel bad for his wife, sounded like she did need to someone to speak to though so maybe you helped her a little? I do hope she can break away from him

Wow - what a bloody drama.
I think it's good that you were an ear to his wife.
The poor woman.

He sounds completely unhinged.
Just keep blocking all the numbers he tries.
Lesson learnt - that's for sure.

I think you’ve been incredibly balanced and calm from the start of this. Well done. I hope you meet someone more deserving of you next time.

Anyone else intrigued?

Have you heard anything else from the man/wife at all OP?

I haven’t heard back from the wife but he rang me off another number and asked me what I said to his wife! It looks like she has made some stuff up. I told him not to involve my anymore in his drama, that I hadn’t said what she claimed I had & that I had deleted his number and he needs to do the same

He then started saying that if she has said things about him to me, I should verify it. I said there’s no need. He then said that he’s human and to give him a chance & that he feels like an idiot because she tricked him into telling me that he doesn’t want to speak with me but has no intention of getting back with him.

He claims they are separated & kept on telling me to give him a chance. I was quite shocked at his audacity and made it clear that I want nothing to do with him & to stop calling me off different numbers

He then said he won’t chase me & if I want to speak to him, I know where he is! Wtf!

Haven’t heard from him since.

Oh my god.. he needs to get the hint doesn't he!

I find it quite satisfying how much your rejection has pissed him off. Well done you. Hopefully continuing to ignore him will work and he won’t be in touch again. Do be wary though. I wouldn’t put it past him to try and make a grand gesture and turn up with a present or something. Really hope not though.

Leave well alone!!!

Oh my god OP he's a nutter! You are definitely best staying well away from this drama!
Well done in handling it so fabulously ☺️

I do regret entertaining the wife/ speaking to him again but if I hadn’t I would have always wondered why he just randomly decided to stop speaking. To be honest from what she said of him, I have learnt a massive lesson and next time will always trust my gut!

Also, yes it was a bit satisfying having him apologise and seeing how he was trying to worm his way back in.

I don’t think he will contact me again as on the last convo I made it clear I wanted nothing to do with him & that I’d deleted his number so he should do the same. That’s when he said well I’m here if you want to make things work and I won’t keep chasing you - and I haven’t heard from him since so hopefully goodbye and good riddance!

He then said he won’t chase me & if I want to speak to him, I know where he is! Wtf!

He's off his rocker, bloody hell