Did I react to this ‘breakup’ well?

[Optimistic199]

I met a guy & we really got on. He would make lots of effort & there was a lot of chemistry.
Anyway, this morning I was on watsap and so was he.: whenever I would go offline so would he and when I would come back online so would he. He usually watsaps me as soon as he wakes up but today he didn’t I was about to say hello when he randomly text me ‘I don’t want to speak to you anymore’

I was a bit baffled but just said lol ok to which he replied ‘I’m serious’ I then replied back saying yes I’m serious too ok. And I then deleted him which I know would have really wound him up ( he would have seen my watsap pic go) he then deleted me too as his also went

It was a bit weird. We spoke on the phone last night for a couple of hours (as usual) and just on Tuesday he kept on saying he wanted a baby with me!!!

I have no idea why he would just randomly text me that. I would like to know why he had a sudden change of heart but I didnt want to embarrass myself so just left it but part of me thinks maybe he was testing me to get a reaction? This is something he’d do

Was I wrong to go with what he said without an explanation??

Just stay vigilant. Men like this can't deal with not 'winning'

I think he spent all that time love bombing you, judged the time was right for his power play and now is gutted that he's lost his original "investment".

What a nut job, be happy he showed you his true colours sooner rather than later. What a sad man

I hate throwing the term narcissist round, but this screams manipulation and the sentence 'you wear too much makeup' is classic control... phew to be rid of that nutter

He’s texting me off a different number saying can you please call me back I feel like replying ‘who is this’

But I’m just going to ignore him.

Sackgirl - funnily enough he used to say one of his exes was a narcissist!

Ok this is going to sound really weird and it may sound like I’m lying or whatever but the number who has text me has now watsap me saying have you been speaking to my husband but I don’t know if it’s him off a hidden phone? I said where did u get my number and she said he gave it me

Don't reply! Don't reply to any of it

That is weird.

How come he doesn’t know where you live? Where did you used to meet him?

He doesn’t know my house but only my area. He used to pick me up and usually we would go out to eat/drives etc

do not reply to anything now OP

PLEASE

All I replied was was that you calling me? The person replied yes and I asked where did you get my number from then the person said he gave it me. Shit I shouldn’t have replied to anything

Been reading this thread not fully though. Did you ever go his house?

No he would come to see me

Sounds like maybe he does have an attachment to someone else. you ok?

Yes they often use the word to describe others (overly and excessively) I think as some kind of deflection!!
But with the texts its either him playing a weird game. Or hes been actually caught out by his wife and that would explain the sudden calling off

How awful for both you and his wife!

It probably isn't his wife, it's probably him pretending to be someone else to reel you back in.

What's happened here OP is that he thought he'd dump you so that you'd beg him to take you back (ego trip for him; added bonus of gaslighting you so you'd be more malleable in future). It hasn't worked as he'd hoped, so he's kicked off.

Block all the numbers and any new ones.

Good luck

Yes I think it’s him.

Text him back and tell him his breath smells and then block him. Wanker.

Oh god, just seen the stuff about his wife texting. Or maybe his wife. Don't text back!

In fact I'd consider changing my mobile number.

Well hasn't this escalated quickly.

Omg.. sounds like you deffo had a lucky escape with this weirdo

If this is still going on tomorrow I really would consider calling the police.

I think they can then give him a PIN Notice which is a first step to give a warning to someone who may exhibit harassment and stalking behaviour.

It's scary how quickly this stuff can escalate and better to be safe than sorry.

I've been there and am so glad I had the police to help me stay safe during that time. Good luck

OP you are dealing with it brilliantly .
If you can find my thread I posted yesterday he is a carbon copy of the man who has just done the same after 2.5 years of hell . He reeled me in and then exercised the I don’t want a relationship card and tried to end it . Every time I would beg and plead or if I ignored him back he’d literally keep calling . He was sleeping his way around England 😡 He would tell me that If I just chilled and went with the flow I’d get the converted label .. but as soon as I did it seems it made him feel he could safely then go after other women . His MO was the same . Constant messages and called . According to his phone history he was often spending all evening either with another woman or on the phone then call me !
If I was there he was messaging what ever woman he was love bombing saying he was out with friends or getting an early night . When with another woman for the weekend he’d tell me the same crap and I wouldn’t hear from him .
When he dumped me he did the same . Told me all my faults . Not physical but personality wise . I think he thought I’d beg and plead and this time I told him what a vile man he was so he hasn’t dared tried to contact me again
This man expected you to plead . You didn’t so now he’s suffering a horrible narcissist injury . His ego is so fragile he now feels he must get you back at all costs.
His behaviour is classic if an abuser . Call the police tomorrow and also tell RL friends and family what’s happening