Online dating fiasco. No need to end, but it has

[Noimaginationxyzz]

I posted in Dec - dating 8 mths. Thought we were blissfully happy, saw app mssge flash on his phone. Spoke to b/f, turned out he'd been an idiot, was in love with me, just hadn't felt able to delete apps. I believed, although was v hurt. We had had the best 8 mths or so.

8 weeks later it feels wrong now, not like before, I feel on thin ice. I finally spoke to him tonight - I hate confrontation. Seems like it might be over. He said I should have binned him in Dec if I couldn't get over it. I've been nervy & anxious since (I have, on and off) and that has an effect. He's right.

I think it's over, the magic went when I saw the message and I've not got over it. I should have. Back in Dec he loved me, the online stuff was nothing, I've ruined it since by hiding my hurt so badly and expecting him to pay. Feel like sh*t. In my 50s, first amazing relationship I've ever had and I've destroyed it.

Middle of the night; no-one to talk to and feeling sad. MN always seem to offer such wise words...

This is all very dramatic and overwrought. You were dating, you thought you were exclusive, he was still window shopping

Honestly just get rid and move on. Maybe take a break from dating for a while. You don't need me to tell you that it shouldn't be like this - too much angst and over analysing when the facts are he was just keeping his options open

Stop blaming yourself and stop analysing it

boredboredbored I hear what you're saying, but it doesn't sound like him to string along. It sounds more like him to think it through. I think whatsapping someone to bin them is so easy, why not just crack on

8fencingwire loved your posts. Very helpful.

Thank you, azzizam