Relationship ended.. anyone else?

[dilly123]

Relationship ended today.. I know I'll be ok because I've been through worse but today I'm just feeling sad & disappointed..

For anyone else in the same boat.. sending you & positive thoughts!

Gentle hugs to everyone.
My mum ended up cancelling her plans and coming round because I broke down on the phone

LifeCasting I enjoy putting my earphones in and listening to music on spotify, I can listen to women singing empowering songs to try and feel postitive. My focus at the moment (apart from my son) is decorating my bedroom, ex couldnt be bothered so im going to make it nice for myself! I've also arranged driving lessons and my goal is to pass in the next 6 months.

@bombaygin so sorry to hear that on top of everything you have to find a new home. I rent privately too & hate the insecurity of it.. I've moved 4 times in 10 years & it's so expensive with deposits & credit checks etc.. I know I couldn't do it again & would have to wait to be evicted & go into the social housing system is this an option for you?

@Paulstevens

Might sound like we are man bashing but it's more partner bashing & you are welcome to join.. I agree with previous comment that your wife has probably been edging her bets, you are the steady reliable secure option who clearly adores her & this should be enough but it obviously isn't & as much as this hurts you it's time to make the decision for her & for your own self respect & happiness move on. Don't hang on to something so one sided there will be someone out there who will think you're enough & then some.

We have to remember this isn't about us & what we can't give someone else this is about them & their failure to commit or their screwed up feelings or pasts. These are the type of people who end up old & lonely. We should never settle for being someone else's 2nd thought. I know when I love someone I love with my whole heart, I make time for them, I make adjustments to my life to make them happy. I don't abuse their trust or look around for someone else. After my children my partner comes 1st. We all deserve that in return.

Sorry to hear that. My husband left me and my 18 month old last night....totally out of the blue and my heart is broken

@bombaygin

I dream of winning the lottery every day 🙈
Don't know what I'd buy 1st a new body or a house 🤣

Get BIL to issue you a section 21 & go to the council.. they may say they can't help you until house is sold but are obliged to help if you have a child.. (been in similar situation) I hated the thought of it all being so last minute & uncertain topped with having to temporarily go to a hostel that I loaned the money & moved to another private rent wish now I hadn't as we might have had a secure little home all be it a social housing home. Look at the long gain a new start & a place with a secure tenancy in your name.

Been thinking how many of us have been heartbroken & let down repeatedly by one person, are these people so weak & cowardly that they don't know their own minds & instead of being alone or branching out on something new they crawl back to us because it's safe & they know we are vulnerable. Not anymore though as much as I love him I've myself more!!

@AvocadoYUK

So sorry to hear that, take each day as it comes & I hope you can make sense of it all soon & feel stronger

Should be I love myself more!!

@bombaygin

I understand that feeling it's hard having to be strong so for such a big thing but the sense of satisfaction when you are in your own little place knowing you got through it alone will be immense. The more you achieve without him the stronger you will feel! I've got through so much in my own that it makes me angry that he made me believe I could rely on him & I didn't always have to be so strong & independent anymore!! Xx

After a month of not seeing him , I couldn't stand it any longer so turned up at his house last night. I cried and told him how much I love and miss him ...he cried and said he just thinks it won't work out. Then we had sex. Then we cried again and he said it's truly over as he can't handle the emotion. I haven't eaten or slept. I feel devastated and frightened at how low I feel

@Strongteaplease

I'm so sorry for you & if he knew this because the sex then that's despicable of him

A total disregard of your feelings & I don't think I'd forgive that.. hugs x

Sorry I meant before the sex 🙈

Have bloody long nail extensions & they type what they like

Oh poor you, Strongteaplease I'm sure this has happened to me before. Please believe me that it will pass. It is raw and acute for now.

I managed to dodge this stage but the pain is similar. Raw and painful.

NASA20 You sound really motivated! Good luck with the driving lessons. Let's be positive now.

Some special hugs for PorpentinaScamander I'm glad your Mum could come

Dilly YES you speak sense. These people are so cowardly. Some break-ups are 'healthy' ones - e.g. with my ex-h we have been civil and careful (although that was instigated by me). Yes, some breakers leave us on hooks. They like us there. It is safe for them. But it comes at the expense of good self-esteem for the other. I got sick of being on a string too often.

As much as this is killing me I'm trying to get through it by telling myself he needs to leave to be happy. He deserves to be happy.

He messaged me this morning offering to pay for the food shop this week (it's his turn).

Wow I'm on the crazy train today, totally caved, messaged him begging to know why he's done what he's done, why he couldn't stop the drugs for me. Then I've realised it doesn't actually matter, if he loved me enough he would have done anything for me but he didn't.
Feeling terrible right now.

Oh NASA huge hugs. It's so hard not to message isn't it. Be kind to yourself

It's all killing me. I just feel worthless and like I wasn't/aren't enough.

You're not worthless.
I know words don't mean a lot.

Thank you PorpentinaScamander I'll get there just having a bad day

@bombaygin how heartless of him especially being dumped by text, such a low blow.
I’ll never understand this about some men, how can they just walk away without a care after being with someone for so long? He’s been my best friend for 11 years, we’ve shared everything together and now I’m just unimportant.
Sending positivity your way, here’s hoping for a better day tomorrow.

I cant believe its been a week

This time last week I was looking forward to our child free night. Then he came home and destroyed my world.

I haven't eaten all day. I know I need to but I cant be bothered. I feel so sick