Relationship ended.. anyone else?

[dilly123]

Relationship ended today.. I know I'll be ok because I've been through worse but today I'm just feeling sad & disappointed..

For anyone else in the same boat.. sending you & positive thoughts!

It's been several weeks for me and not getting any easier. I try to get him out of my head, even just for a minute but he dominates my thoughts and I feel so empty and frightened of the future. He was my future. I loved him wholeheartedly. I've been on anti depressants for a month which have taken away a tiny bit of the constant panic I feel, but I just wish I could have him here and wake up to find it's all been a bad dream. It's seems that everywhere I look there's couples together and I hate it.

@Strongteaplease You have just written down exactly how I feel.

One minute I feel numb the next I want to throw up, I can't breathe, my heart starts pounding so fast and I'm shaking and dizzy.

Going to the doctors today to talk about anti depressants. It's only been two weeks for me but getting worse. I'm dreading the first birthdays without each other and I can't imagine ever enjoying Christmas again. That was my happiest time of year, we'd spend so much family time together.

Everything everywhere reminds me of him.

I'm lost without him.

Sorry to hear your going through this aswell it's just the worse pain I never experienced anything like it. I'm only 1 day in I don't know how I will cope but I have for my girls. I could of written your post myself it's a panicked feeling and full of anxiety. He was my everything. Just wishing he would hold me and make it all go away.I am sitting here feeding my baby while writing this with tears streaming down my face. I'm broken

@Anotherbreakup I really feel for you.

We were together since we were 16, 21 years of my life I have been with him. We used to break up when we were kids sometimes but would still end up hanging out with each other and always got back together.

Now he says it's for good. I don't know who I am without him.

You have to be strong for the baby and your other kiddies.

Mine are 11, 13 & 16. They're coping incredibly well although my 13 year old daughter still has bad days.

I keep torturing myself by thinking of him with someone else. I need to stop that though, my heart feels like it could explode!

Sending a massive amount of hugs. Let's get through it and show how strong we are!

Well the kids have gone to school. I'm trying to put some make up on but my hands won't stop shaking. Got that awful feeling in my chest and stomach again. Appointment at the doctors this morning.

I know she can't fix everything but I just need a little help to get through these next few months. Need to move house and move on.

It's too hard. Heart is broken into a million pieces.

I can't eat or sleep, find myself obsessing in the night of him with someone else ...then go on the internet on stupid sites designed on " how to get your boyfriend back". I really feel.like I've gone from being a very together and happy woman to a crazy broken little girl.

I've written a massive text out telling him how much I still love him and can't be without him. But that I know I have to move on so we should not see each other in person and only contact each other about the kids.

I'm too scared to send it incase he agrees and I actually never see him again but at the same time I want him to know how I truly feel.

I don't know what to do.

Impractical

Leave out the bit about how much you still love him and can't be without him. Write a very business like text saying that all contact will be limited to things to do with the kids and that you won't be seeing him in person because that is in everyone's best interests so you can move on.
Then send it.

I know it is incredibly hard - I've just been through this - but minimal contact is the best way to go. If you keep seeing him or phoning him it brings the emotions back. I read that it is almost like an addiction - eg. an alcohol or drug addiction or something like that and if you get another "hit" it sets you right back.

Impractical Jokers Yes it's definitely like an addiction. The worst kind. How on earth are we going to get through this?

Knew the next few days would be hard... I feel so alone.. too numb to even cry.. just sat staring into space. None of my friends even seem to care... just want this pain to end

I'm just lying on my bed, feeling ill, tired and totally numb staring at the ceiling, thinking of all the utterly fantastic times we had together and all the promises he made to me and the future we had planned. We were so close. He was my best friend too. I'm sooooo fucking miserable ...

Well I just failed big time.

Just rang up to find out about a house to rent that was ideal for me and the kids. It's gone!

So had a bit of a melt down. Text my ex to say I couldn't do this anymore. That I don't even want the split and I can't even breathe without him. Told him not to text me, I'd text him anything super important and he'd just have to text the kids whenever he wants to see them. It was a lot shorter and more to the point than the first text I had written out.

Yes it is like an addiction. I know I shouldn't have put that I can't be without him but I just wanted him to know that I'm suffering, hoping for something back. I got two words...'oh ok'

Been in tears but have calmed a bit now.

@Strongteaplease I'm on the sofa with a blanket, mascara down my face. Mine was my best friend too. He said when we split that he still wanted to be best friends but I can't do it. I can't describe the pain I'm in but I don't think I need to, I think you know.
It's feels like this is my life now, I'll feel this way forever.
I got some anti depressants from the doctor so I'm hoping it takes some kind of edge off soon so I can at least stop crying and sleep

I think mine must have met some one else. There's no other explanation.

ImpracticalJoke
Thanks so much for your message means a lot now Today started of so bad I was awake since 2 this morning so altogether had maybe 3 hours sleep my thoughts was taking over tried reading some positive break up thoughts. I've a new mantra "Remember, God doesn t close one door without getting ready to open another with greater and bigger things" I think we all should try and say this apologies if anyone isn't into that kind of thing. So I'm trying to keep positive I have been so dependant on him that I don't know who I am. I know there is a strong women inside me because I have been strong over the years he often told me. I just need to get her out and fighting. I'm only young 27 so I have a life ahead. I'm going to try doing positive things and take everyday as i comes. There's a long road ahead for us all but there will be happy days again for us all. So girls we stick together we can get through it who needs the men that causes our pain. They will know what they had and lost one day.
For me my positive for today I'm going to book a driving lesson for Monday so I can be independent not have to rely on him the first day he has let me down with the school run I had to do it myself in a taxi then walk in the pouring rain to bring baby and dd to a check up appointment but in a way I'm happy I had to because it's giving the motivation I need for to get things done.

@Anotherbreakup

You have so much on your plate, I admire your strength & yes we all have it within ourselves to get through this & we will.

I know tomorrow will be my toughest day/night ... I just hope all our friends tell him what a fool he is .. I've kept my dignity (this time 🙈) & not told any of them how broken I am nor have I slagged him off.. I hope he sees all the happy couples at the party & realises what he's thrown away.. me I'll try to occupy my mind find something good on Netflix & have an early night!!

Love to you all xx

Keep swimming everyone.

I've been signed off work again. Bloody depression.

Completed my benefits claim today. I feel awful having to go back on them but needs must. We had a bloody foreign holiday booked too that I'll have to try and pay for on my own. DC have never been abroad and are really looking forward to it.

@dilly123
My strength today could be a crumbling mess tomorrow. It's going to be up and down feeling positive then guilty then angry then utterly broken can't breath nor think straight or they are all possibilities that could happen but probably never will. Don't get me wrong he is good and it's for this that I feel like I'm dying then there's the shitty things he does that makes me think we're not meant to be but it still hurts like he'll. There's I suppose to much happened for us to be truly happy, I could never imagine my life without him,I just want him too see how much i love him and I want to see if he loves me back I just don't know it's heart breaking coz everywhere I look there's happy couples and everything has some story to remind me of him
You lose part of yourself with a break up it's so hard.
Tonight I'm cuddled up with my chicks and were binge watching Netflix and having a takeaway if anything it will make us even closer they are my everything I just hope I can do it and with them affected as little as possible.
Your friends will tell him what a mistake he has made I bet you he will tell you what a fool he has been and beg for forgiveness when he sees what he could of had. Men have such different ways of dealing with things they really are a different species to us normal women lol.
Thanks so much girls take care of yourselves as much as possible because no one else will xoxoxox

Man today is a tough one!! 😢😢😢

dilly123 ....I agree with you there. It's really tough isn't it 🙁

Thinking of you tonight @dilly123 . Stay strong x

Thank you @bombaygin

Ironically my ds is really quite poorly so wouldn't have been able to go to party even if we were still together!!

Want to drown myself in chocolate but I've worked so hard on my diet this week I will not give in to comfort eating... sofa cuddles with ds.

Love to everyone xx

Hope everyone is doing ok tonight.
I'm in a whirlwind. My emotions are everywhere and I don't know what I'm doing.
My daughter was in tears this morning because I wanted to cut off my contact with her dad. So I told my ex I'd just have to man up and told him to come in for a coffee after he'd dropped them off.
I'll get over him eventually and my kids happiness is far more important than anything else.
It was hard. I was shaking. Torn between not wanting him to go but not being able to even look him in the face properly.
We've also been texting tonight, like the best mates we've always been.
I know he doesn't want to ever get back together but him saying he truly isn't ready for any relationship made me feel better, like I'm not going to lose my friend.
I'm so confused by my feelings.

Hi all hope everyone got through yesterday. Flowers to you all I was ok yesterday only one episode of tears we had been talking yesterday obviously not like we used to but i thought maybe we can sort things.Today on the other I'm a mess full of the pain and anxiety It's hard because theres so much I want to say to him and funny things I've seen and things the kids have done I would be straight telling him ,I miss him so much today all the little things is getting me. The programmes we would sit and watch together I just want to be with him he is at home and I'm at my mum's. It's so hard I'm trying to keep it all in. I wrote a long message to him this morning while in floods of tears but I deleted it never sent it it did help but now the pain has come back. I feel broken for the kids they are asking when we are going home they don't understand obviously we haven't said anything to them yet. It's killing me today I know there is going to days when we are up and down but it's hard. How single mother cope is beyond me. But I suppose we will get there coz we have to.

Hope everyone is doing ok today... I know sundays are hard for some of you as it's traditionally a family day!

Cried myself to sleep last night.. thoughts of 'the party' .. crossed my mind he might have taken a date with him but I'm too proud to text any friends & ask. Feel more positive today a bit like that's the end of a chapter now.. we had no other firm arrangements made after that party so I can start to move on. Spring cleaned the bedroom today threw out the few bits of his that were here!! The sun is shining & I'm trying not to look back anymore!

Really hope he looked around last night at the couples & families & felt as alone as I do!!