My boyfriend of 5 years just got his penis out in front of me and my friend

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Right. He had a habit of doing this a while back until I told him it was fucking unacceptable. His old friends laugh about it - he's a bit joker and is used to getting away with murder because he such a flipping character, not to mention a massive player. He says he thinks it's just funny but he must be being disingenuous.

I spelled out a few years ago that this was fucking unacceptable. If for no other reason that it made me feel horrible and disrespected. So he stopped all that crazy shit and has been very loving and attentive for years. I so wanted to believe he had changed. He's changed in so many ways, calmed down, got older basically and realised he likes his life with me.

So my oldest friend came over tonight. We hung out, caught up, drank wine. He came back around 10 a little tipsy from the pub after watching rugby, so far so normal. So my friend and I were dancing around the kitchen, he was reading his phone, facebook, football, etc. Just very low key. I don't know what it was but I sensed my friend and he were being a bit flirty. Next thing he has his semi erect cock out.

I went mad and told him that he knew it was unacceptable. I left the room and told them to get on with it. She left after trying to comfort me, but I said I was fine just obviously pissed off.

He then gets all defensive, says he was just having a laugh, Kept saying sorry, and when I was still pissed off, all the "how many times can I say I'm sorry." Then "I was drunk" and I said so what if I'm not with you and you get drunk - what might happen then?. Tried to explain that it was a sexual thing, it wasn't his foot. He was basically pissed off with me...just that kind of defensive anger.

I thought he'd changed, but now I'm back to thinking I can't trust him. God please tell me how you would react. He said I was overreacting. I just want to make him realise how shit this is. So tell me how you would feel and what you would do. I'm calm but on the verge of thinking I should end it. By the way, we have a wonderful time together, spend loads of time together and laugh every day so it's a really good relationship. I need advice please please.....oh god men

Ha ha, op, you don't sound in your fifties but whatevs.

Yeah, ditch him.

What exactly is a 'player'? Shouldn't he have grown out of this shit about 35 years ago?

Next thing he has his semi erect cock out.

If this really happened I would be dumping his sorry disgusting arse sooner than you can say 'my my your penis is wee'

Oh and I'm in my 50s and I find men in their 50s and 60s are way more sexually inappropriate than those in their 30s and 40s

Think dick pics and way worse

Being single is bliss

PhilomenaButterfly I mean absolutely no disrespect to you or your son, who I can see you're doing everything you can to help. It's just that a 50 year old bloke with poor impulse control, even if caused by ADHD, is not somebody I'd recommend as a partner for anybody.

Being single is bliss

Sipping my coffee in bed, ddog snuggled at my feet, reading threads about OW and penis flashing men, thinking exactly this!

She is irrelevant here!
Some of you younger posters have a lot to learn.

Age not she

Its pathetic and offensive OP why are you even accepting this sort of low level behaviour from a partner . Aren't you embarrassed of him. I'd not put up with it no, and if a friend's DP did this I'd be appalled. Unsolicited nudity of this type is a criminal offence for a start, not 'just something men do'. Your poor friend. I would have been beyond uncomfortable and intimidated. I am sick to the back teeth of men like this who think women are desperate to see their pathetic knobs 24/7. I'd dump him and find a respectful adult OP. Getting on in the day to day is surely not enough to justify being with a man-child like this. Every woman deserves more.

Er, the getting it out unsolicited in front of two women and ending up in threesome is porno film territory. I'll lay you (pardon the pun) any odds he's never had a threesome that way (if at all).

He's living in blue cloud cuckoo land if he thinks that'll work.

He's OVER 50??!! I thought you were going to say he was a teenager! That is just hideous. Truly. And a bit pathetic.

Grim. What a dirty old perv!!

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Does he also hump peoples legs and piss on your carpet?? 🤔

He was a flasher when you met him and obviously immature - at age 47.....but you chose to stay with him and help him 'grow up'

Your friend wasn't flirting with him.

The threesome thing was that he's done this before with other people (before me - I don't know about during) and it worked. I guess that says a lot about the other people
What exactly does that say about them then OP?
I've had a threesome - because i wanted to experience it.
The 3 of us actually discussed it beforehand, his wife and i discussed it on our own as well.
It was consensual and we behaved like mature adults both at the time and since.
We still have a good friendship even though i declined doing it again (it was good but not something i want to do regularly)

The problem here is that you have low standards and expectations when it comes to men and you choose to settle for less.

If it were me, i'd be telling him exactly what i thought of him and his behaviour and dumping him asap.....i wouldn't need to seek advice from MN to do it.

I guess that says a lot about the other people

Erm, it says a lot more about the person you've chosen as a partner...

Unacceptable. You have forgiven this behaviour in the past, do not make the same mistake again