My boyfriend of 5 years just got his penis out in front of me and my friend

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Right. He had a habit of doing this a while back until I told him it was fucking unacceptable. His old friends laugh about it - he's a bit joker and is used to getting away with murder because he such a flipping character, not to mention a massive player. He says he thinks it's just funny but he must be being disingenuous.

I spelled out a few years ago that this was fucking unacceptable. If for no other reason that it made me feel horrible and disrespected. So he stopped all that crazy shit and has been very loving and attentive for years. I so wanted to believe he had changed. He's changed in so many ways, calmed down, got older basically and realised he likes his life with me.

So my oldest friend came over tonight. We hung out, caught up, drank wine. He came back around 10 a little tipsy from the pub after watching rugby, so far so normal. So my friend and I were dancing around the kitchen, he was reading his phone, facebook, football, etc. Just very low key. I don't know what it was but I sensed my friend and he were being a bit flirty. Next thing he has his semi erect cock out.

I went mad and told him that he knew it was unacceptable. I left the room and told them to get on with it. She left after trying to comfort me, but I said I was fine just obviously pissed off.

He then gets all defensive, says he was just having a laugh, Kept saying sorry, and when I was still pissed off, all the "how many times can I say I'm sorry." Then "I was drunk" and I said so what if I'm not with you and you get drunk - what might happen then?. Tried to explain that it was a sexual thing, it wasn't his foot. He was basically pissed off with me...just that kind of defensive anger.

I thought he'd changed, but now I'm back to thinking I can't trust him. God please tell me how you would react. He said I was overreacting. I just want to make him realise how shit this is. So tell me how you would feel and what you would do. I'm calm but on the verge of thinking I should end it. By the way, we have a wonderful time together, spend loads of time together and laugh every day so it's a really good relationship. I need advice please please.....oh god men

LTPervert

If he's prepared to act like this in your presence then I can only imagine what he gets up to (or at least hopes to get up to) when he's out with the lads and you're not around.

He just broke the law and he's drunk over 50 behaving like this. Run. Run far. He's awful.

It's pathetic and juvenile. Can you really see yourself associating with the kind of person who would do that?

Really?

Normal, well-adjusted, decent men don't whip their cock out in front of their partner's friends. FOR FUCK'S SAKE.

Get rid of this piece of shit.

You are asking if you should leave your perverted flasher boyfriend?
Short answer is yes you should.
Are you not worth more then this?

It isnt 'men' it is this man.

My DH would rather eat his own head than do something like this. If he started behaving this way I would probably get him to the doctor as it would suggest some sort of brain injury.

You are both north of 50. If this is how he behaves now what is he going to be like in a few years? Is he going to start flashing in public?

My friends DF started behaving like this. Basically it was the early signs of dementia.

WOOW My DH often used to 'wip it out' to his male friends for a laugh because its quite large but if he EVER, EVER! Did it in front of a female and semi fecking erect he would of been out on his ass there and then!! And we have kids....

When does half-term end?

Grim

When I read the OP I was envisioning an immature 20 something. Wrong side of 50 - walk and don't look back!

You sensed that he and your friend were flirting. He felt entitled to go for it, hoping for a threesome. To say he massively missed the mark is an understatement.

This 50+ ManChild has harassed and mortified your oldest friend. He forced himself on her, as she did not consent to being exposed to his semi-erect glory.

He made a fool of, betrayed, and humiliated you. When his sex-scene didn’t go as he’d hoped, he blamed humor, alcohol and finally you for overreacting. Nice.

His behavior is deeply disturbing and it would be the end for me.

One more thing, your niggle that they were flirting was likely true, which is another whole issue.

And why were your partner and your friend flirting? Grossly disrespectful behavior, they should both know better at that age. Was she flattered by the attention? Because I'd be thinking I needed to keep a close eye on the pair of them after that!

Dude's a sex offender. Most women I know would say that is not their bag.

Yuck! If my DH did that he'd be immediately out. Sorry, but he sounds like a well-controlled pervert (if there is such a thing!) until he can use the excuse of alcohol to "cover up" his true intent.

Vile, disgusting behaviour. You're better off rid!

He's over 50 and flashing his penis ??

Your comment .....oh god men indicates that you think all men are sleaze bags like this guy is. Actually most men are NOT like this - it's not funny, it's revolting.

Sorry if I'm wrong but I get the impression that you are over 50 and desperate for a man.....any man.
I'm in your age group and I'd rather have nothing than this creep.

It really is disgusting behaviour. I hope you don't have any DC around this weirdo. He's done it more than once. I'd get rid.

He's in his FIFTIES and whapping it out. Ffs.

This is absolutely grim, OP!

LTB!

If one of my friend's DP exposed themselves to me like that I would go absolutely ballistic!!! Not only is this terribly creepy, this is completly perverse, exposing himself to women he know don't want to see it. He reminds me of all the creeps that randomly expose themselves to young girls in the tube, completely vile and appalling behaviour.

I would be mortified if I was your friend, at his behaviour but also and mostly on your behalf as this is completely disrespectful and I would seriously question my friend's tastes and judgement if she chose to stay with a man like this.

He would out in the streets if he was my bf!

‘Oh look, it’s just like a penis, only smaller.’

Chuck the filthy bastard. You can ‘laugh daily’ by putting on an episode of Gavin and Stacey, without the added worry that your low-level sex offender boyfriend is going to ‘do his door impression’ at one of your mates.

Ugh. You can do better. A bottle of gin and a vibrator with low batteries would be better than this.

I'll reiterate others .... over 50 I seriously assumed he was max early 20's - young and dumb and all that. If he's 50 and doing that he really is old enough to know he's essentially exposed himself - the police could get involved ffs what's wrong with him!
My best friends partner of over two years is over 50 .... I'd be absolutely shocked if he did something like that, he wouldn't as he has more respect for us all, including himself! ... like almost everyone of that age 🤢🤮

This behaviour would be completely unacceptable. If my boyfriend did that in front of me and my friend, I would have chucked him out.
How is your friend? Have you sent her a message to ask how she is feeling? Regardless of whether you sensed a flirtation there or not, she shouldn’t have been subjected to your DP’s behaviour either. If I was the friend I would be absolutely mortified if my friend’s DP got his semi-erect penis out.

When you say “it’s worked before” (with regards to him hoping for a threesome) - do you mean you went ahead with him and another person when he has got his cock out in the past? So he was obviously trying his luck based on past experiences. Not condoning what he did, but he is maybe confused - he needs to learn boundaries and what is acceptable behaviour and what isn’t.

I hope you feel better soon, OP.

How did your friend react?

Gross
What a pig
5 years or not I wouldn't want anything to do with him