cassettes I would really be tempted to call out his shitty behaviour, but taking the kinder approach, I do wonder if performance issues have dented his self esteem and he is simply too embarrassed to get in touch again? You could always send something slightly mean along the lines of "I'm sorry your performance issues seem to have made things awkward and de-railed a lovely time. For what it's worth, your attitude since has been more of a turn off than your performance, so worth bearing in mind for the next date" then block so he can't reply.
lonelyman I think honesty is definitely the way forward, and its a positive that women are viewing your profile. Some may well pop by hoping it spurs you on to message them, so if any seem a good match for you then why not give that a try?
Was it you Tooold that was seeing Mr BE? I'm really upset for you, I thought he seemed to have potential. Has he been in touch since?
Rich I am also a sensitive soul and tend to overinvest, it can suck, but, I think I am who I am and those qualities will be important to the right person, so in my happy moments I remind myself that I am me, and I am fine how I am - nuts to those who don't like it. We will gloss over the self doubting moments when I want to build a wall around my heart and never date again
As for my second part of the date. It went really well. He is a fantastic kisser and we seem to be compatible. The only problem is that we decided we actually liked each other and would rather try dating (no expectations, no rushing) so we seem to have agreed on FWB but with romance, and not seeing other people, but with honesty and no messing about which suits us both. I'm not holding my breath as one thing I have learned is that what is said on a date is not written in stone!