Dating Thread 148 - Having a Fab Time!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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lifegoes Just blond and beardy and big built, I usually go for rangy dark hair guys with stubble. I also usually like the slightly flirty sexter types he seems more like a nice decent bloke but maybe too sweet...we will see. He is working nights so I cannot move him to the evening slot 😂

Loo update. He's lovely, very sexy. Heading back to mine to check the second requirement of a FWB😂

@marlboroandmalbec34 and @shitwithsugaron thank you for the advice. I know you are both right!

I hope that your dating lives are going more successfully

I have been talking to Mr Messiah for 3 weeks. We have a great laugh and keep skirting around meeting but he never actually takes me up. I am going to be a bit pushy and ask if he wants to go play beer pong tomorrow night -he is 10 years younger - that’s what guys in their 20s do right?

I've not contacted either of my recent irons, I'm somewhat annoyed with them both

I've been swiping though, am chatting to a couple of potentials for practice mainly I do enjoy the flirting. And no worry about shaving high enough for that bit

Ooooh dancing I am soooo jealous

No roobear mine isn’t but thanks for the . Get swiping

Marlboro I'm not a fan of shy and sweet men. I like assertive men, I can normal tell by how they text if I'm going to like them.
Im sure you can corrupt him though 😉

Great news @DancingWithWillard Have an exciting night

warls I am enjoying sitting in my fleecy pjs with my hairy legs swiping..every cloud and all that!

Well that was shortest date ever. So first off he was same height as me and that's being generous he said he was 5'11 I'm 5'5". Secondly when I asked how long ago did he split with ex.....3 weeks!!!!! So that will be a no!!! I feel bad as he pretty much assumed I'm his girlfriend now wants to meet for lunch tomorrow I said yes but will message shortly to decline and block. I think he just wants a shag and thinks if he's sweet to me I'll shag him eh no thank you!!! Thank You, Next!!

How long was he with his ex for Focus?

I hate when guys pretend they are taller than they are, at what point do they think we won't find out 🤔

@lifegoes 14 years!!!

3 weeks after 14 years 🧐

Each to their own and how long it takes people to move on. But Focus, but I would be wary of that one also.

Hi there. Have been noseying for a while and started OLD a couple of days ago. Not for the first time. Have been off and on and had a couple of mini successes but the last one ended after 6 months because he decided to try again with his wife

Me neither lifegoes he is so excited about our meeting and seems really cute..I am not getting anywhere with the assertive guys so may as well see!

I do have a potential date for Friday. Mr Finger he is a guy off tinder who was messaging me and it got a bit rude but he lives at the other side of the country. He is coming through this weekend...asked if he can take me out and finger me in a bar....so frustrated I am considering it 😂

Welcome @Tillyscoutsmum you will love it here.

Laughs, advice and moral support.

Was just about to ask why Mr Finger Malboro then I seen the end 😂

Go and meet him, nothing to lose and you've lost out on sex tomorrow. So go 👉🏻👈🏻👇🏼👆🏻

Focus my ex was in a relationship a few weeks after I kicked him out despite how devastated he was, for him it was because he couldn’t be on his own, had never been on his own and would happily go with anyone, she ended up screwing him over big time and taking his money (what little he had), he then jumped into another relationship and has been with her for over a year, she has sn’s and he’s basically her carer but that means he’s not on his own. Some men (and women) just can’t be on their own which is sad as they tend to jump on anyone that shows interest.

Hi everyone! I started OLD about 2 months ago for the first time and I've found this thread so helpful and quite enjoyable.

I was wondering if you could help me with something? I had a few coffee dates and couple of those have gone even further. I told them all the truth - that I'm getting divorced, that it's not pretty and that I don't want a relationship but a distraction and some fun. I miss sex. I think I was very straightforward. I also mentioned that I've been feeling rather liberated after 10 years with one person (I've always been faithful while married/in a relationship). My question is should I discuss with them whom I've been dating and whether I had sex with any of them. My first thought was why not as I do not want relationship or any commitment, but then I got totally confused when a guy I was chatting to got all upset when I told him that I had sex with someone I met on tinder. Mind you he claims he is open-minded and into all sorts of kinks and he was the one who initiated the talk of my tinder experience. Then he got all upset and said that he didn't want someone who sleeps around a lot! Apparently he expected me to be selective! Even though all my dates have been carefully selected and were intelligent, eloquent, educated and witty. I don't think I'm being unreasonable but I didn't like his reaction at all. Just wondering am I right. He did come across a bit vain and controlling to be honest. And there was another guy I actually slept with who asked me after we had sex if I went out with anyone else since I met him. Isn't all this meant to be fun and no strings attached? Should we discuss these things at all? I really do not want to play the games and pretend I'm not seeing anyone else as at the moment I do enjoy seeing different people.

Thank you @lifegoes

The height thing is an issue. I'm 5' 7" and pof seems to be inhabited by hobbits 😱

Hi Earthlypowers - I've had similar experiences being honest. My last iron didn't like it when I told him how many dates I'd slept with. It was OK that he'd done lots of really kinky stuff - men huh!! It's the age old double standards. I don't know the answer I'm afraid. I'm looking for a relationship but it's important for me to know what they are like as a lover too. Maybe lie next time and say 'you're the first honey' !!

@Marlboroandmalbec34 if you don't want Mr Giant can you send him my way please? 🤷🤷

@Earthlypowers sounds like dude that got annoyed is all about his own ego. You should not be made to feel bad because you want to have sex with whoever you please. I think I would make it clear it's just a sex thing but I wouldn't discuss other men I was sleeping with unless he asked. That's just me though!

@Earthlypowers I think if you are straight up with the men you're seeing from day one about what you're wanting/ what you expect etc then that's absolutely fine and you've certainly dodged a needy/ clingy/ controlling bullet by being honest with them.
I guess everyone has different expectations with OLD, some are there just for fun, some for an ego boost, some are looking for love or others (like me!) haven't got a clue what they're looking for until it happens 🤷🏼‍♀️

I remember chatting to a seemingly nice guy on tinder in my early days of OLD and after about 15 minutes he asked me if I was chatting to anyone else. When I said yes he started ranting on in a similar way and said he wasn't prepared to 'share me' 😳🤔 I swiftly pointed out that I wasn't his to share in the first place and ignored any further contact from him.

I don't think there's a right or wrong as such, just set your stall out from day one and if someone doesn't like that then they're not worth your time or energy!

@Earthlypowers I hadn't slept with anyone months before my knobhead ex and not whilst we started out or together. He still didn't believe me.

Tell a guy that you are chatting to others and they get offended.

So you can't win either way is my experience.

I've changed my hair colour from dark brown to dirty blond recently and updated my photo's on OLD and wow! So many requests for hook-ups, even tho my profile says 'looking for a relationship'.

Go you tooold it's the DIRTY blonde that's done it 😉