Heartbroken

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My twins are nearly 1 and I'm disappointed with my parents. They've not stepped up and I am heartbroken. I ask them to babysit once in a while and they do but it's always like it's too much effort/tinged with - but don't be late (I would never ever take the piss- quite the opposite) but they make me feel like I would take the piss - like it's all too much.

Maybe they are intimidated by twins and aren't confidence but I'm sorry I was petrified when I found out I was going to be a first time parent to twins. I have no patience for my parents (who are supposed to be older, wiser and more confident than me) to say that they are scared - it's cowardly.

I think you are out of order. Pay for a babysitter. Twins are probably too much for them to manage.

So they do babysit when you ask, just ask that you are not later back than planned/agreed?

What else are you expecting?

You’re “heartbroken” they don’t babysit as often or enthusiastically as you’d like?

I don’t think you’ll find criticising them is the best way to get them to do you favours.

They raised their children, you’re responsible for raising yours. They didn’t make you have children did they? Pay for childcare like a lot of other people have to.

You are acting quite entitled.

Entitled to my parent's support? Yes I did expect it.

Seriously? you're 'heartbroken' because they won't do what you want, when you want? The words 'spoiled princess' spring to mind.... grow up.

I don't doubt it's hard for you, especially with twins, but seriously? Do you have a partner/husband? If so, he's the one you need to be talking to about support.

I bet I'm younger than your parents and I wouldn't babysit 1yo twins.

Nobody loves them like you op, best lower those expectations.

They 'stepped up' to raise you, now you 'step up' to raise your own. Welcome to adulthood 👍

Yes, entitled.

Lots of people don't get any support at all. I don't think you can assume your parents will be happy to babysit - twins under 1 are hard work and it's a lot to expect of them tbh.

It's disappointing when you feel you don't get any support from parents with your children, DH and I are in the same boat, but they're not under any obligation to help and I think you're being a bit dramatic unless there's a massive backstory you've not mentioned.

You had kids - not them. They already did their duty and raised you (and siblings if any)...

You sound spoiled and entitled. So a probably an only child.
Be greatful for any help you receive - many people aren’t lucky enough to live next to family.

One year old twins are hard work and your parents aren’t young anymore.
Hire a babysitter.

But they are helping. What more do you want? They’re your children!

Bloody hell, are you for real?! I imagine your parents are "heartbroken" their child grew up to be so flaming entitled!

That’s out of order MMmomDD she may be an only child but that’s completely irrelevant.

My parents were hands-on and keen. My MIL would babysit if asked but we always felt like a bit of an imposition, and she acted the martyr a bit. So, I do get how you feel OP. It stings. You can't change it though. And caring for very young twins can be intimidating, in fairness.

I'm afraid your acting quite entitled. You are your parents child & they raised you, now you look after your own child!
It sounds like they already babysit occasionally - what more do you want? Do you feel they are not providing you with emotional support?

so probably an only child

Erm EXCUSE ME! Not all of us only children are spoilt thanks very much.

I'm selfish as fuck though 😀

They are under no obligation no but, for example - if you saw a blind person trying to cross the road you would help . No one is under an obligation of course but you expect help from your parents when you're frazzled ? I would hate to see my children frazzled like that. I don't expect them to drop tools either.
Everyone on here thinks the worst instantly. Like the world is out to get you.

You sound like you have an awful lot of growing up to do.

You chose to have kids. You now have to raise them. Not your parents.

Blimey!
My DPs never cared for my DCs, mil very rarely.
In fact I had very, very little family support.

Bet most of you would want to ban medicine on the nhs for fat people. The deserving poor 🙄 type comments.

You're coming across as a bit hysterical here

Heartbroken?? Why bebause your parents don't babysit enthusiastically enough for you? They're your kids!!

If you need to go out so badly where's the other set of grandparents?

I accept I am a bit hysterical but its been a long day

You’re not blind though op. Blindness is a disability. Having children isn’t. You’ve had a child like millions of people on the planet. You sound very entitled and spoiled.
I mean you called them cowardly because they don’t want to mind YOUR offspring !

What on earth do fat people needing medical help have to do with you sulking because your parents won't babysit? Am I missing something? How old are you OP? I'm guessing about 18.....