Heartbroken

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My twins are nearly 1 and I'm disappointed with my parents. They've not stepped up and I am heartbroken. I ask them to babysit once in a while and they do but it's always like it's too much effort/tinged with - but don't be late (I would never ever take the piss- quite the opposite) but they make me feel like I would take the piss - like it's all too much.

Maybe they are intimidated by twins and aren't confidence but I'm sorry I was petrified when I found out I was going to be a first time parent to twins. I have no patience for my parents (who are supposed to be older, wiser and more confident than me) to say that they are scared - it's cowardly.

I am disabled (only became so after I had children) and still don't ever expect anything from outside of my DH, who works full time. You insult yourself by your last comment because you have absolutely no idea. You do get a break, just not as often as you want.

It sounds like you get help from your in laws and help from your parents, just not under your terms.

To be honest, sounds like you are doing alright with support considering they aren't even one. You've obviously had time to yourselves, just not as much as you'd like. Presumably you could ask your partner to let you have a bit more time too?

I think you are pretty lucky as it is. Unfortunately it's exhausting having kids, but it gets easier

I doubt the OP is coming back unless she is casting medals and organising an award ceremony for everyone as we speak

I hope she's taken something useful from this thread.

Medals nearly finished

Another one who thinks that had you worded it differently you would have had more sympathetic answers. Yes, it would be nice if your parents could occasionally step up to help you; a lot of us rely heavily on family especially for childcare when in full time work/school hols, but you shouldn’t expect it to be a given. I’m 50 and should my dd have a baby I would like to think I’d be able to help, but the reality is I work full time, and am exhausted most evenings when I get home, so would probably not be available to babysit most nights.