DH says if I go home he will marry someone else

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This sounds like it’s made up, I wish it was! Have namechanged too btw.

My head is all over the place so please bear with me!
I am currently a few weeks pregnant and want to have the baby in the UK. We (me and 5 year old daughter) moved to a country outside of the UK in June and have not settled in well at all. DH has been here on and off for 3 years and we have made do with visits etc. DH doesn’t agree to me leaving and having the baby in the UK, he said if we leave he will marry someone else as he doesn’t want to go back to the UK. I have booked flights to go home soon and he said I’m making the biggest mistake of my life, I don’t care about our children if I take them back to the UK etc.

I don’t know what I’m posting for I just don’t have anyone in real life to talk to as I’m so embarrassed that he he would say he’ll marry someone else (I’ve no doubts he will do this and is not just making empty threats) this country allows polygamy. I will basically be going home to my parents house with nothing and don’t know what I’m going to do

Thank goodness.

Be prepared for a charm offensive. He will tell you he can’t live without you, please come back, let the kids come for a visit.

Don’t.

Thanks for letting us know you’re safe. Take care of yourself

What a relief. Well done
Might be wise to delete this thread?

That "all is not as it seems" comment has worried me a bit. I truly hope OP IS home safely and the comment about not being on the thread for a while is genuinely because she is busy focussing on getting herself back together. I really really hop all is well and OP is going to be focussing on rebuilding her life but I do have a bit concern I must admit.

@insecure123 I did ask for clarification but got nothing! Seemed a little odd to me.

I'm so pleased you are home safely OP, I hope after being home a few days you feel better in yourself xx

Might be wise to delete this thread?

Why?

I'm definitely home @insecure123 no idea what @SalliSunbeem is on about?

I'm glad you are home. Maybe Salli was referring to comments suggesting that your DH might be plotting to have you stay.

YES!!! I am so so happy you and your daughter are safely back on UK soil. That you and your daughter both are together there. I am so happy nothing happened at the airport (departure or on the UK arrival end). Such great news! Just hang around the house for awhile and laze and catch up with your mum and rest. Take breather.

Don’t go back op, he can come and see you. It will never be a truly safe place to visit. It may seem terrible now, but a different ending could be far far worse. Every time you doubt your decision, consider spending the next twenty years there, and all it mean for your children.
Glad you are safe op. Spring is coming, and your baby. Focus on the good things in your life.

@AlexaAmbidextra just thinking that mumsnet can be seen by anyone, including people who may not have op's best interests at heart.

I am glad you are home. Things will get better for you :)

So pleased for you and dd and little one Take the time you need to process this all. It has been a tumultuous few days. You are safe now and in good hands

Great news I'm so glad you got home xx

Good luck for the future. Stay safe.

Glad you made it back OP. 💐

Oh fantastic! Well done *OP", you've been really brave.

I was lurking and hoping for your safe return!
I hope you are getting looked after and you settle back quickly. I normally think that kid's are pretty resilient to change, but in this case I thought your daughter's desire to come back to the UK was very telling.
I hope you both thrive back here and ignore your dh's pathetic manipulation.

So happy you're safe OP. I hope you can stay strong over the next few days and weeks.

It's so sad but ultimately, he has shown you your happiness means nothing to him. A real relationship, a loving one, wants both sides to be happy, encourages both sides to seek their dreams and go for them, helps them feel comfortable and content.

Sadly, this did not seem to be the case. Which means he's not right for you.

It may help to focus on baby and DD now, distract your mind from wandering thoughts...

In time, it will hurt less and you'll feel happier about the choice you have made. I'm sure your parents are there for you, take all the support you can.

I'm glad you're home.

Well done OP. Let Mum spoil you for a bit, you deserve it.

Well done for getting through the past few days, you’ve done so well. Truly hope you now have a wonderful future.

So pleased to hear you and your dd are safely home OP. Please don't ever go back even to visit.

Welcome home

Been following this thread. So relieved that you are home safe.