DH says if I go home he will marry someone else

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This sounds like it’s made up, I wish it was! Have namechanged too btw.

My head is all over the place so please bear with me!
I am currently a few weeks pregnant and want to have the baby in the UK. We (me and 5 year old daughter) moved to a country outside of the UK in June and have not settled in well at all. DH has been here on and off for 3 years and we have made do with visits etc. DH doesn’t agree to me leaving and having the baby in the UK, he said if we leave he will marry someone else as he doesn’t want to go back to the UK. I have booked flights to go home soon and he said I’m making the biggest mistake of my life, I don’t care about our children if I take them back to the UK etc.

I don’t know what I’m posting for I just don’t have anyone in real life to talk to as I’m so embarrassed that he he would say he’ll marry someone else (I’ve no doubts he will do this and is not just making empty threats) this country allows polygamy. I will basically be going home to my parents house with nothing and don’t know what I’m going to do

I did something similar a long time ago, with small child not wanting to leave his father. I'm so so so glad I did.

OP wasn’t posting at 2:30am this morning U.K. time which means she was already up and about on Tuesday (today) so her flight is tomorrow morning, not today.

was posting.

OP, please update when you can so we know you are safe in UK.

he said he will divorce me as soon as I leave

Well at least that means you can stop feeling guilty about it. He is the one ending the marriage, not you.

I hope you get home safely.

Middle East is roughly 4 hours ahead so post at 2.30am would be about 6.30am our time. If flight is ‘tomorrow morning’ then that’s about 4am-6am our time tomorrow.
OP I hope you are packing and staying strong, you have to have this baby in the uk as else he could block you leaving the country if it’s born in UAE (I believe, I know different areas have different rules out there).

How awful. He's being really really unkind op. Why would you want to stay married to him?!

My heart goes out to you. He might miss you too much when you leave that he might follow you back. He could be saying all that hurtful stuff now just to try and keep you there. Only time will tell, it will be interesting if you have a boy what he decides too. Best of luck op and safe flight. You have to follow your heart and at the moment this is what seems to be the best for you and your dd. Either one of you could change your mind in the future only time will tell

Actually it doesn't matter where the baby is born. The husband has the right to block his spouse and children at the airport if he likes, it doesnt matter what is their nationality. Hopefully the Ops husband won't resort to that.

UAEMum Completely right, which is why we are all so worried.

The UAE laws are very different to ours in the UK. It may be harder for her to leave with a newborn and a small child.
The new baby is likely to arouse interest at the airport even if she were to stay and then decide to leave. I assuming she would also have to register the baby there in order to get a passport, so diminishing her/baby's rights further.

UAEMum that is my worry and that is why I thought the OP should pretend they were only going for a short visit or for the birth, and then returning. If the husband is convinced she is returning, he won't do anything, because he is led to believe she is returning. However she has chosen to do the opposite and made sure he knows she is going for good. I think that's a mistake, and I am almost holding my breath waiting til we hear she is on the plane/landed because I fear her husband may have a nasty surprise for her at the airport. I sincerely hope I am wrong. I WANT to be wrong on this occasion.

I agree. Let's hope she manages to go through with no problem.
Springdale, the UAE doesnt give citizenship to expats even if they are born here. They have to use their UAE birth certificate to apply for a British passport.
I feel she is in Qatar for some reason.

Ah yes, UAE of course. I haven't lived there, but we have there travelled alot for extended periods but we have never moved there, and I am aware of the difficulties others have had in this situation. I am assuming you live there?

Is it possible to get citizenship there under any circumstances?

Qatar is full on.

Did OP say whether her dh cancelled her visa?

I read OPs update that she is flying home tomorrow morning so don't think she's on a plane yet. Hopefully it all goes smoothly.

We don’t know about the visa. Just that he threatened to divorce her if she left.

Springwalk yes I live in the UAE. No it is 99.9% impossible to get citizenship. My son was born here but he has UK citizenship.

So am I right in thinking it's 1am there now??

We're here at the airport now. Feel awful, lots of tears from him and me, lots of emotional blackmail and begging me to just go for a little while. But we're through immigration and security so just to relax until the flight, feeling sad, knackered, but relieved. Thank you for all the support

Congratulations OP.. stay safe

OP, thanks for the update. So relieved you made it through immigration and security. Wishing you strength for the rest of the journey.

It sounds so sad. It is not final. He can still visit the family in the UK. You can work it out in the UK.

Well done. All the best. Hope a friendly face is picking you up the other end.

Good luck for you and for your dcs' happy future.

Hope you have a safe flight OP

Thanks for the update. Wishing you all the best.