DH says if I go home he will marry someone else

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This sounds like it’s made up, I wish it was! Have namechanged too btw.

My head is all over the place so please bear with me!
I am currently a few weeks pregnant and want to have the baby in the UK. We (me and 5 year old daughter) moved to a country outside of the UK in June and have not settled in well at all. DH has been here on and off for 3 years and we have made do with visits etc. DH doesn’t agree to me leaving and having the baby in the UK, he said if we leave he will marry someone else as he doesn’t want to go back to the UK. I have booked flights to go home soon and he said I’m making the biggest mistake of my life, I don’t care about our children if I take them back to the UK etc.

I don’t know what I’m posting for I just don’t have anyone in real life to talk to as I’m so embarrassed that he he would say he’ll marry someone else (I’ve no doubts he will do this and is not just making empty threats) this country allows polygamy. I will basically be going home to my parents house with nothing and don’t know what I’m going to do

Are you saying op is lying millymolly? That is a pretty strong assumption to make.
Why would you say such a thing? Based on what information?

You don’t know where op is based, or her domestic situation. As you know if you live in the ME, it is vhastly different from say Dubai which is fairly relaxed and liberal near the tourist areas to Saudi. Or Abu Dhabi to Qatar for instance.

Maybe you have been fortunate, but that really doesn’t mean that everyone will have the same experience there. How you can possibly say it is not oppressive or unsafe for women? That is simply totally inaccurate.
You are treated with courtesy I suspect because you are paying for the privilege.

millymolly That is interesting as I have spent the last fifteen years travelling all over the ME for dh’s business and for pleasure. Not that I have to justify this to you, as I believe you are a troll.
You are certainly not on here helping or supporting op are you. Calling her a liar and a fake is not especially helpful.

milly whatever

Springwalk take no notice of her. I've been impressed by the help and understanding you have given the op as have I'm sure many people reading this thread.

take no notice of her. I've been impressed by the help and understanding you have given the op as have I'm sure many people reading this thread

^^this.

Blimey I've just come back to this thread and it's turned into something out of 'mean girls' 😬

I hope the OP is back safe.

Everything ok, ok?

Hope things are going well op. Has your DH said any more?

I hope you are ok op and that you and your dd get home safe. It's a very sad situation having to leave your husband, and it is sad he cannot see things from your point of view.

How are you OP? X

Hi all, still here. Flight is tomorrow am. DH trying his best to make me change my mind now, it's all really sad and making me doubt my decision to leave. Dd is super exited to go. It's going to be so hard going to/leaving the airport

Good luck - it must be so hard but you're making the best choice you can x

Good luck OP. Just get on the plane. You can sort the rest of it out later. It doesn't need to be permanent. But the move will give you some space and some time to think without taking huge risks for your children. Will be thinking of you.

Op it is natural to feel sad, and you can always come straight back if you want to. Think of your dd and unborn baby. Do you want to spend the rest of your life there?
Are you happy and safe? Do you trust your dh after what he has said?
Go home, clear your head, register with the midwife and tell your parents and closest friends everything.

Good luck today

Thinking of you OP. You made this decision for a good reason. Don't forget that because he's being nice to you now.

Good luck. You've got this. Don't second-guess yourself. The decision you made to leave was made in full knowledge of the facts. It will be natural to feel some doubts or regrets as you make the actual step to leave but those feelings are not trustworthy. Believe in yourself. Let us know when you are safe back in the UK.

Think of this as a holiday. You can return whenever you want. Just focus on how lovely it will be to see your family and then go from there. Baby steps is all you need to take at this point to leave your options open.
Good luck

He said I'm being irrational because I'm pregnant (possibly so but does that mean how I feel doesn't matter) I'm pretty much begging him to reconsider this being the end he said he will divorce me as soon as I leave. This is so horrible

Keep strong. He might divorce you or he might not. Just get home and give yourself time to think. At the moment you are so in the middle of it that it must be difficult to see clearly

In any case, don't change your mind now. You are clearly very upset and stressed. Don't let his threats convince you to stay. Once you set foot in UK, you can look back and think. I'm sure you won't regret. Your future with this manipulative man doesn't look very rosy.