Dating Thread 147 - Double Dating Anyone?

[TooOldForThis67]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

rejected Welcome! I’d like to think we are a friendly bunch, just remember to adhere to all the rules on the first page :)

Anyway, an iron is someone you’re talking to or seeing online - as in ‘irons in the fire’. Have you managed to meet anyone yet from online dating? Or getting to the stage where you would like to?

Welcome rejected to the thread
notcool perhaps it’s worth trying to sort out?6 months is a fairly reasonable time I’d say -
I’ve had irons go weird after 2 months and really think you need longer to know someone properly before introducing them as a bf to the dc.
tooold I echo others - exciting about possibility of him but proceed with caution
love I didn’t think you were as keen on mr SA anymore after he cancelled on your bday?
Me-I had my first experience with meeting someone from fab this weekend-met sat and chatted then stayed over last night and had a certain itch scratched a few times 😉 One of the only times I’ve dtd knowing that there was no chance of a relationship from it (wouldn’t want one with him anyway although would be open to fwb if either of us fancied hooking up again-nice enough guy-had decent chat,was very respectful etc but a bit up himself generally and in a completely different place in his life to me.was nice boost to the ego though after the last month and a half! Have realised though that even if dtd is great - it can’t beat having great times with someone with whom you have an emotional connection with and really fancy the pants off.
I have taken myself off the apps again for now-had enough of it atm.
I also have had a crush on someone at my work (different department so only visits mine sporadically and can go weeks without seeing him). I only have a rough idea of his surname (saw it once on a sign in sheet but couldn’t remember) but a colleague has established he’s single.
Saw him today and I was blushing like mad!we exchanged a few words but I was too shy to say anything else. He definitely knows I like him but no idea how to approach things-always awkward at work!

rejected welcome. I think I'm the oldie of the thread - 54, nearly 55. I married young and was with exh nearly 30 years.

I definitely agree with other posters - meet as soon as you can. Also I like a quick chat on the phone before meeting, but I know not everyone does. Good luck and follow the rules on the first page!

I've realised that strictly speaking, my Mr Substitute isn't an iron in that we didn't meet on OLD really.
Can I bore you with how we ended up meeting? I tried a month of tinder gold (cancelled it almost immediately as rubbish/pointless for me ) and saw he had swiped right on me. I had a look at his profile but I'd started to see someone else so didn't match or chat but I followed his IG just in case
He followed me back on IG.
I liked a couple of his generic hobby pics. He liked some pictures of me.
He requested me on FB and I accepted then he asked me out via pm and it was very amusing to me. He thought it was a surprise, it absolutely wasn't.
I said I'm sort of seeing someone but no harm in a daytime coffee etc...
And coffee was good, had a dinner date that day and we're seeing each other again.

midcentury - Gotta love a fish pic, lol. There are so many of them that I'm beginning to wonder if they do it for a laugh?

Hello gang, it's DogDayMorning here - MN account back up and running, enforced name change though.

I've been reading all the updates and as usual there is a mix of good (fun) and bad (painful) going on - but so much excellent advice and wonderful solidarity.

An update from me. Still having a thing with Mr Mad, had reached a tipping point where both of us were getting what we wanted - in my case this being warm communication, dinner, sex and holidays but no formal relationship crap as such. Then bam, he has a very serious health issue and we are waiting for a diagnosis. I'm not particularly hopeful though trying not to think about it too much. I'm gutted for him and his children of course, and for me as it looks like I will have to go back on the blooming apps again at some point. Life, eh?

Hi everyone. I am rejoining the gang after being on here with a different username at around thread 86 or 87 ish- so aaaages ago! I'm glad that I don't recognise any names because it means everyone I "knew" back then has moved on :) Hopefully happily.

Have fairly recently ended a 2 year relationship that just wasn't working for me. I didn't meet him through OLD, I really enjoyed my time of it though and thought I'd have another dabble.

I only did POF back then- what is everyone on now? I am terrified of the public nature of Tinder (I hide my POF profile and just message the ones I like the look of) plus I am definitely not after casual sex. Think I'd struggle with FWB even as emotional connection is what floats my boat. Don't want someone to live with either though- think lifegoes and sidge are after what I want too.

I've also put on a stone since my last foray into OLD and can no longer describe myself accurately as "average"- I was pushing it a tiny bit before but had plenty of luck- perhaps the pool is slightly smaller as a result!

Best dating apps?

I've got bumble and tinder. Any others?

Not a fan of POF

I just do bumble and Tinder but I regularly hide my Tinder profile, it's hidden again at the moment. Bumble doesn't get a great lot of use really. I've not tried the others.

How does hiding your Tinder profile work? Is it like POF in that you can see them but they can't see you?!

No, you can't browse either. On the settings page you can just toggle 'Show me on Tinder ' on or off. You can contact existing matches but not be seen or view others

I can't get away with POF

I don't mind tinder so much and bumble seems ok, but the woman has to make the first move

@shitwithsugaron I do agree, I like bumble. Seems a better % of decent ones on there

I think I must be the only female on Badoo. Would explain all the likes and messages, lol.

@TooOldForThis67 haha badoo is a crazy place!
I met my bf on there though 😍....... just had to sift through some very very odd folk with some weird fetishes first

I had a year long relationship with someone I met on POF. I find there are weird men on all the sites I tried - POF, OK Cupid and Tinder 😂 I'm in London so there are a lot of men 'near' me.

Is it just me or aren't there a lot of very unattractive men OLD (age bracket over 45)? I'm not being funny but I can't swipe right on barely anyone!!! Not being big headed

Oh no. My friends boyfriend is on tinder!!!
They have been together 10 years
He appeared as I was swiping- I print screened
What do I do?
They are not close friends but I used to work with her and we would go out quite often

@Marlboroandmalbec34 oh that's such an awful situation!
Have you been in contact with her recently? Could they have broken up without you knowing?

amazon you ain't wrong. I looked through a male freinds version of dating apps and most women present themselves pretty well. The men though! Wtf. I completed tinder and had probably swiped right on 5%

marlboro are they defo still together? Maybe drop her a message just enquiring how she's doing?

Yes I had a look at a male friend OLD page also and most women are really gorgeous. I felt very insecure even!!! Tough competition.... But the men.... Dear oh dear and I'm not asking for movie star looks.... But oh dear I hope they have great personalities....

Definitely harder to find a man who seems to give a shit about what they look like over about 45! I'm not bothered if a man looks his age, but someone who is really overweight, unfit, and doesn't seem to bother with regular hair cuts and looking after their teeth is a no from me. However keen they are to meet me!!

And no bloody football shirts worn as casual clothes!!