Dating Thread 147 - Double Dating Anyone?

[TooOldForThis67]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Happy birthday @LoveMussic33

@lifegoes you've got this! Trust me I wrote posts on mumsnet about how I didn't think I'd survive. Raw heartbreak is unbearable but you will grow stronger for it. Also great news you are already working on having fun and yourself. Have to say I got into the best shape in years when I emerged from my slump and some brilliant holidays and time away with friends!

@CantstandmLMs thank you. That means a lot.

Keep me updated with how your date goes.

lifegoes just echoing what everyone else has said. Look after yourself. It will get better. I think all of us have been there and got through it with time.

Happy birthday Love.

TooOld good luck with your date!

After a brief respite with some normal chit-chat, Mr Innuendo obviously couldn't help himself and send a slightly dirty text last night.
I just laughed it off and tried to change the subject. But he came back with a dirtier message that was quite creepy.

So I told him I didn't like that sort of messaging. And he blocked me!

Then this morning I had a message on POF from someone who looked interesting. Exchanged a few texts until he said he was going to spend the time 'enjoy someone's company. Her husband hates me'

Seriously!! Why do I just attract the sex pests, idiots or ones who can't type a message of more than 2 words.

@MyOldBrainStoppedWorking thank you

Hahaha he blocked you??? What an idiot

One bloke on POF sent me 3 lovely messages the other day, then the 4th was send me a picture of your arse so I can see what it's going to look like when I bend you over - I'm sure it was sent in mistake but you just don't know. 😂😂😂

Oh wow myoldbrain and lifegoes! I guess rudeness is part and parcel of OLD but it's such a shame!

I got my first message today 😊. Of course she lives 300km away. So useful.

I also messaged a bit with the woman I kissed last week and she invited me over to eat chocolate and watch a movie with her soon. But she probably thinks I'm about a decade younger than I am as people generally think that. She could be 30 max, somewhere between 27 and 30 I reckon 😶

see it as a lucky escape myoldbrain

I had an iron last summer who was really lovely and leaned on me when things started going v wrong for him with his business but after about 2 or 3 normal messages he'd always go back to 'can't wait for you to suck my cock' 'hope you are ready for it' etc. etc.

in the end it just got boring so if they can't stop talking about it, he's probably done you a favour in blocking you hearing it!

lifegoes that made me lol

Good news from me. I had a lovely night last night, a nightg in with my iron, we both exchanged cards and he wrote such a lovely message I almost cried! To top the night off we dtd, loved every second and it was worth the wait. Sorry if that has made anyone vomit. If I ever have to date anyone else they'll have a lot to live up to, he is just amazing.

@helpmeoutout that's fantastic news. I'm so happy for you.

Thank you @lifegoes

@helpmeout that's great!

@helpmeoutout
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hahaha sorry guys! it's been a logn time coming for me believe me!

I would like to ask those who are in serious relationships now or have been in in the past, if they have ever found that their friends aren't happy? Or have friends start to act strangely when they can see you're happy? Going through a bit of a strange thing with a friend at the moment, I'm really happy with the way thigns are going with my iron and she never has a nice word to say, it's either somethign to put me off or a caution or a snide comment.

Anyone been through this?

Ahh helpmeoutout that's so lovely. It's a pity your friend can't be happy for you.

lifegoes take good care of yourself - you need timw to grieve and get over your ex.

MyOld I seem to attract wassocks like that too. I like my irons to dance along the fine line between normal conversation and flirty chat (that indicates a healthy libido and attraction to me) ...

Happy birthday @love
Good luck for tonight @tooold
That’s lovely@helpmeout

I received a “happy birthday” message from Mr SA, feeling a bit better now, went for a drive and a walk by the coast, treated myself to lunch and went to B&Q to buy some gardening bits.

help that’s great and ignore your friend’s negative comments and if she continues then pull her up on it x

@helpmeoutout when I was with my ex (not exH, the guy I got with after my marriage ended) nearly all my friends didn't have a good word to say about him.
They felt it was too soon after exH and he wasn't right for me. Turns out they were right and he was a twat but I guess I wouldn't be where I am now if I hadn't gone through that.
Totally different with current bf, everyone thinks he's fab and luckily for him, so do I
Do you think it could be a touch of jealousy in your case? Or are there red flags that she's trying to point out?

@Lovemusic33 happy birthday!

@wishywashy6

i wrote this post www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3480927-Is-this-normal-Are-we-moving-too-fast a few weeks back when we first started getting to know each other. Since then she has hinted about me being lucky that I have found this guy in the context of a conversation about me being a single mother, she has told me we are moving too fast even though we had never even kissed. I have not said a word about him that could be interpretted as a red flag, because there are none. All of my other friends (married and single) are so happy for me, and have even said that they felt how I feel when they met their husbands.

Not sure if it is jealousy, but maybe a case of me not being her single/lonely friend anymore. Friend in question is married btw.

@wishywashy6 one more thing, I have been there as well with the horrible exes, and deep down at the time i knew they werent right, but guess what said friend never behaved like this, if anything she was positive about it. Maybe because deep down she knew it wasnt goign anywhere. All my exes have shown red flags from the beginning, and I've always ignored them

@helpmeoutout Just read your other post. I guess on paper, it sounds as though you are moving very quickly BUT I know exactly what you mean about losing interest in others when one comes along you feel a connection with, that's exactly how I felt with my now BF although I don't think I admitted it as quickly as you! I tried to keep level headed and not rush into anything
Perhaps she's just concerned? Doesn't want you to get hurt? But If everyone else is seeing positives then maybe it's more her than him?!
How 'serious' is your relationship now? Are you exclusive?