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Dating Thread 147 - Double Dating Anyone?

999 replies

TooOldForThis67 · 11/02/2019 19:31

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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TooOldForThis67 · 14/02/2019 23:30

lifegoes - that's awful. How long ago did this happen?

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Marlboroandmalbec34 · 15/02/2019 06:16

@lifegoes he hates you for ruining his life? What a shit I hope you know you didn’t!
If it was recent make some time to grieve before dating again and Flowers to you

BatshitCrazyWoman · 15/02/2019 07:23

Happy birthday love 🎉🎉🎉

lifegoes that's horrible - what a shit 😠

Mr Irish 3 turned into a twat last night on the phone so he's blocked. Have arranged to see friends tomorrow night instead. Mr Irish/Spanish on Sunday - he's quite a slow burner so I've no idea what to expect. Mr Charles on Tuesday and Mr Coach next Sunday (a late contender but had a lovely chat on the phone last night). Sudden rush of irons 😳

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TooOldForThis67 · 15/02/2019 07:38

@LoveMusic33 - Happy Birthday Glitterball

Batshit - I really like the sound of your MrIrish/Spanish - he's going to be oozing charm.

Got my date tonight with MrBE and I'm nervous already even more so thinking of that psycho MrYoung turning up like last week and hopefully we'll finally DTD!

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supercali77 · 15/02/2019 07:41

Hey all. Anyone got any interesting dates over the weekend? 're. Men moving on quickly. Yes! I saw a man I used to work with on tinder. His profile pic is him and his baby. Yes the baby they recently had. Him and his wife's profile pics on th are still their wedding day. Can't have split up more than a couple of months. Mind....i do think there's probably a saving grace in women's tendency to grieve the loss rather than move on. We have deeper bonds in our friendships. Live longer. Something must be working

supercali77 · 15/02/2019 07:43

batshit you must be knackered mate! Hope one of them ticks some good boxes

Lovemusic33 · 15/02/2019 08:02

Thank you for the happy birthday wishes. Really not sure what to do today, feeling a bit lonely and down as I have the day to myself. One of my old FWB (Mr Young) messaged me to see if I’m free this morning, I was very tempted but would then feel guilty because I was meant to be with Mr SA today. Mr SA hasn’t messaged at all since yesterday, no birthday message (yet) this morning so I’m feeling a bit pissed off. I will drag myself out somewhere or I will go crazy at home phone watching.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 15/02/2019 08:06

Ooh TooOld hope it's a good date 😉 and no Mr Young turning up!

I'm feeling a tiny bit positive about Mr I/S. He's not quite as chatty as me on the phone. But we all know there's no point having any expectations ... !

Lovemusic33 · 15/02/2019 08:06

Super I don’t think it’s the fact men move on quicker, more the fact that they don’t want to be alone, don’t know how to be alone. My ex was devastated when we split up yet he was the one that was in a new relationship a few weeks after we split, he has never really been single and I think he would have gone with anyone instead of being alone. This is why I stay clear of men that have recently split and have young children, I didn’t want to be anyone’s rebound just because they don’t want to be alone. It’s taken me years to be happy being single even though I was the one who ended my marriage.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 15/02/2019 08:08

Aww Love that's a bit rubbish. I have to say I'd be tempted by the offer from Mr Young ...Blush

CantstandmLMs · 15/02/2019 08:17

I had a nice long phone call with my iron last night and we've finally arranged a date for Saturday. This'll be my first date in 1.5 years 😬😬

Lovemusic33 · 15/02/2019 08:19

I am still tempted but not really in the mood and it would be a kind of “get back at Mr SA thing” which wouldn’t really be fair on Mr Young (though I’m sure he wouldn’t care). Mr SA has until tonight to message me, if he doesn’t I think I will take it that he’s not interested which will be a shame but if he can’t even bother to wish me a happy birthday after cancelling our date then he probably isn’t that into me.

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lifegoes · 15/02/2019 08:29

@TooOldForThis67 only a few weeks ago. It's still too soon for me

Happy birthday @Love

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LavateLasManos · 15/02/2019 08:32

Happy Birthday Lovemusic33 hope the rest of your day is fab Cake Flowers

CantstandmLMs · 15/02/2019 09:42

To the person who said they left their date early because he wasn't their ex - how long have you been single?

I went on a date maybe 6 months after my last relationship and I know that feeling well :(
I just felt sick at the thought this person wasn't saying things my ex did etc...I went home that night and wrote off dating for a while! I was gutted though and it bought on a whole new mourning of my relationship ....he was in a relationship 8 weeks later and it was probably going on well before that. I'm now going on my first day in 1.5 years and I've been chatting to this guy regularly and I'm not comparing him to my ex at all so fingers crossed now is the time!

Bluezoo123 · 15/02/2019 09:42

Happy birthday love to echo shit’s compliments I’d happily take you for cake if you were local to me!my bday’s soon and I predict I’ll feel a bit down on that day as nothing planned other than meal with dc in the evening.i agree with your sentiments on how to handle Mr SA.
tooold good luck for tonight - hopefully lots of dtd!🤞

lifegoes · 15/02/2019 09:45

@CantstandmLMs a few weeks!

My heart was never in it from the start. But my friends pushed and pushed me to do OLD as I'd never done it. Said it did no harm. I was ok chatting to them, but once I met up I just felt sick and didn't want to be there.

It was a wake up call that I need more time.

It's an awful feeling, I just sat there thinking I liked the way my ex was when we first started dating. (Obv I didn't like my ex for the way it ended ) but it's hard. Xx

BatshitCrazyWoman · 15/02/2019 09:47

Mr I/S is 5ft 10. I'm only little and am 5ft3, so all good. He's a proper silver fox ....

CantstandmLMs · 15/02/2019 09:49

@lifegoes wow poor you that is way too soon. After that date I decided I was gonna start living for me and I went on to have the best year of my life without a doubt!

At the stage youre in I was depressed but trying to soldier on. I honestly never thought I'd be happy again. You live and learn!

It is a bit of a cliche I know and I remember reading the advice and rolling my eyes - but you really do need to focus on you! Spoil yourself and get over this relationship. I had people trying to get me to online date too but ignore their pressure! It will never end well xx

lifegoes · 15/02/2019 09:50

@TooOld good luck for tonight 😘

midcenturylegs · 15/02/2019 09:52

Place-marking!

Hi everyone Thanks

lifegoes · 15/02/2019 09:53

@CantstandmLMs I'm def going to take your advice, I've really started to try and look after me. I've booked trips away with the girls and got myself a personal trainer.

But the heart, I think the heart takes longer to heal.

He's no doubt living a happy life with his so called "separated wife" and other women.

I still love this thread and reading such positive stories about dating and the not so good. I'm pleased you've found happiness again. I hope your new date is going well. Xx

LilyRose88 · 15/02/2019 09:54

Happy birthday Love. I spoke to two irons last night and they neither was fantastic. The first was totally on a different page to me financially, politically, and also still very bitter about his divorce (which happened years ago!). And he rarely saw his children, which for me is a red flag. The second is a really good looking guy who only lives a few miles from me, but he didn't stop talking! I have decided to give him a chance in case he was nervous, and I am meeting him for coffee next week.

I may have a drink with a potential FWB from Fab on Sunday but he hasn't been in touch since Monday so it may not happen.

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