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Dating Thread 147 - Double Dating Anyone?

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TooOldForThis67 · 11/02/2019 19:31

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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TooOldForThis67 · 14/02/2019 16:02

Another one here on their own for Valentines. Will eat Cake and drink Wine
Batshit - What class! Didn't you fancy it, lol!
lifegoes - Hope the date goes ok tonight. Await update, if your sides haven't split!
love - That's rotten luck on your birthday. I hope he at least remembers tomorrow. Flowers

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lifegoes · 14/02/2019 16:10

Ha ha @TooOld keeps up with this shit conversation the only splitting, will be me out the pub 🏃🏼‍♀️

ccgirr · 14/02/2019 17:28

Ha lifegoes that sounds like me. Last guy bought me something every time I saw him. Was so sweet but connection not there. Made mistake of telling current bf that last one was too nice and now I’m getting zilch today! He is away I suppose 🤔

lifegoes · 14/02/2019 17:36

@ccgirr we can't win can we. 😂😂😂

I hope the connection is there when I meet him.

Bluezoo123 · 14/02/2019 17:38

love I have heard that SA can be quite blunt/laid back/matter of fact so fact he hasn’t apologised doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not interested/fussed that he’s had to cancel date. May just be more that he’s thinking that he did say he may have to work...I don’t know!happy birthday for tomorrow!

MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 14/02/2019 17:47

I told my iron that I'd had enough of the innuendo.
He said good as he was struggling to keep coming up with witty remarks. We're back to exchanging sensible comments about our day.

lifegoes · 14/02/2019 17:50

@MyOldBrainStoppedWorking I'm sure men think if they say one thing that we laugh at, they have to keep going with it ALL the time.

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TooOldForThis67 · 14/02/2019 18:28

love - koko is right. I have a SA g/f and she is very unsentimental and blunt. Maybe that's it?
shitwith - care to share?

So, my dog ate my chocs, threw up. The cat chewed my card. My son got angry with the dog for eating the chocs and smacked him, then started crying. Having a great Valentine's, lol.

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Lovemusic33 · 14/02/2019 19:41

Thanks Coco and TooOld, he does appear to be very laid back and blunt, he hasn’t even opened my message but that’s pretty normal for him, we don’t text much and he takes ages to read messages. I don’t think he checks his phone very often unless it rings. I’m trying not to overthink things and I’m hoping he is interested.

Lovemusic33 · 14/02/2019 19:43

shit I feel the same, not even that bothered about valentines but feel a bit sad that I’m not spending it with anyone.

TheSeaAndMe · 14/02/2019 19:52

Love, happy birthday for tomorrow? Struggling to keep up with the thread but I think you said it's a genuine thing stopping your plans together and that he normally is slow to read texts so to me it sounds like all is still good. Hope you do something nice for yourself.

Life goes, good luck tonight!

I am at home with a beer in pajamas. Will watch Netflix. Forgot it was valentines earlier and messaged a woman I kissed last week 😂. She messaged back happy valentines day and said she had no plans. Then we both texted about being in pajamas watching Netflix and she asked for lesbian film suggestions. She is very gorgeous but very hyper and in her 20's potentially so nothing going to happen there

TheSeaAndMe · 14/02/2019 19:53

Sorry, happy birthday shouldn't have a question mark after it 😂😂

WarIsPeace · 14/02/2019 20:06

I've had a nice tea with my children and am looking forward to my date tomorrow. Feeling mostly content tbh.

Focus2019 · 14/02/2019 21:56

Hi all trying to keep up things move so quick. I'm feeling rather down just now I've had a couple of people remark I need to be happy on my own first before I can find a relationship I thought I was but now I'm not so sure??? I feel happy but how do I know....

Notcoolmum · 14/02/2019 22:05

Oh dear tooold sorry the romantic gesture ended up a bit of a disaster.

I’ve been for a run and had heated leftovers on my own, whilst referring the kids fighting.

Mr S came over this morning with a card a a couple of small gifts. First valentines presents (not from my mum) in about 14 years!!

lifegoes · 14/02/2019 22:13

Well, he was a lovely guy. But not for me.

So immature, i left early.

I'm not ready for dating, I've come home in tears. Coz he's not me ex, and as much as my ex was a dick and liar. I feel for him hard.

user1466783975 · 14/02/2019 22:16

That's a really interesting point focus, I ask myself that too. I mean.i feel happyish being single.Just plodding along really. But I have gained weight since October when I was seeing someone so that's not so good. I eat a lot less in a relationship!

So,although i'm ok and seem happy,i suppose you can't beat that feeling of being secure in a good relationship.

Notcoolmum · 14/02/2019 22:31

Aw sorry lifegoes. I was single for 7 years after my last ex. He really hurts me and it makes taken me this time to out myself back together and feel ready to get back out there. He has gotten married and had a child in the meantime!! I’m sure it won’t take you as long. But I understand that feeling xx

lifegoes · 14/02/2019 22:37

Just awful isn't it @Notcoolmum they move on so quickly. But we can't. I wish I could, I wish I could jump in. But I can't, my emotions are tied
Yet my ex accused me of cheating (whilst he lied about being separated)

Cheating - I can't even date after him, never mind when I was with him

Notcoolmum · 14/02/2019 22:47

Mine had a double life. I trusted him implicitly and made him part of my family. It took me a long time to even think of opening myself up again. And I’m scared even now.
My iron is separated but I keep wondering, is he really...? Even though he treats me so differently already to my ex. Phone calls most nights etc. No hanging on waiting for texts.

lifegoes · 14/02/2019 22:50

@Notcoolmum mine was "separated" swore on his kids life he was. Nothing about our time together said he was. But my gut screamed something wasn't right - turns out he was happily married

I just can't open up now, I don't want anyone else. I compare them to him. But I can't have him. He hates me that I ruined his life

Notcoolmum · 14/02/2019 22:52

It’s awful. What would you say to look out for? How did you find out?

lifegoes · 14/02/2019 22:57

@Notcoolmum something didn't add up. So I found his "ex wife" on Facebook and asked her. That night he accused me of seeing someone else. Which I most certainly hadn't. Said he couldn't trust me, I wasn't there for him

She told me, he was still married. Showed me texts from that night. Said he'd had 5 affairs in 6 years had been married 2. Said over Xmas whilst with me he'd been to a wedding with another woman

The worst feeling In the world for me, I would say her but seems she's used to it.

The worst part is, I can't get over it.

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