Dating Thread 147 - Double Dating Anyone?

[TooOldForThis67]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

love I've suffered with that...im really hoping this year to be more open and direct. It saves so much second guessing and analysing it all in your head. Just how to say it 🤔

I've got my first date tomorrow from OLD 😱

This is my very first date from OLD in my whole entire long life. I'm nervous

Hi all. Am new to this thread but wanted a quick opinion please if anyone can spare the time. I'd given up on OLD last year and thought I'd plod along alone.

I've had a workman here for 2 days who I felt a real connection with. Lots of banter, established we are both single with kids, wanting company but nothing too intense, he joked about coming with me to the theatre last night - you get the picture.

Anyway he finished the job this afternoon and I felt sure he'd ask me out but... nothing.

Do I just leave it or perhaps text him in the next few days asking him out for coffee? That's right out of my comfort zone but just wondered what others would do/advise. Thanks

TooOld Mr SA is potential relationship material but we both have a history of not being very successful with relationships through OLD so I’m just playing it by ear.

lifegoes Congratulations, what's he like?

RegisDead You don't have anything to lose by asking him out, do you? although if he turns you down you WILL end up bumping into him in ASDA every time you go for months

I have sent Mr Urbanite a message saying I'm perplexed by his long silence, but I suppose I could see if there are any tickets for the gig left...

just throwing this out there but when you say he went quiet on you for 12 days, I'm assuming you went quiet on him too? Or were you messaging him and he was ignoring you?
As much as it's a bit odd that his messaging pattern changed so suddenly and you'd be wise to be slightly cautious I also think that while you're only in the chatting phase there should be no expectations. The people at the other side of the screen have their own lives and stories going on. Without wanting to sound harsh, they owe you nothing and can't be expected to make you a priority before you've even met.

Hmmm....I agree up to a point, wishywashy. He has had gaps in communications before. And that's happened with other irons I've been chatting with, and been fine. However, when you've been talking for a while, and you've made plans to meet up, and then they go quiet...it strikes me as odd that you wouldn't think "Wow, totally overwhelmed at the moment, but I should just drop crack a quick message or she'll think I've ghosted her".

On the totally other hand, the massively overinvested- seeming bloke I've been chatting to for a couple of days has done a massive flounce because I didn't text him for a whole FIVE HOURS between 11.00 am and 4.00 pm today. He "needs someone to seem interested", apparently.

(bangs head on table)

God lovemusic, I've got everything crossed for you!

wishywashy sorry, I realise I didn't answer your question....no, I didn't message him again in the interim period. Too proud by half. Besides, they have to seem at least half keen, IMO, I might send the first message, but I don't like to be constantly chasing.

@crackofdoom he seems ok. We only started chatting on Monday (seems a bit quick for me and it's Valentine's Day tomorrow) but he wanted to meet for a drink just local.

I can chat with him well over text, he seems down to earth. My guard is fully up after the last one though. The last one was the same and very full on and I fell hard. And then hurt bad.

This one is 100% NOT MARRIED. NOT "separated" 😂.

Can only but see how it goes.

@crackofdoom god I had that once!

Seemingly nice guy, chatting going well, then he threw his toys out of the pram because on my long day at work I didn’t reply to him all day. I’m a practice nurse, have a patient every 10 minutes for 9 hours and a half hour lunch break that I usually end up working through doing paperwork, phone calls etc.

He said I was obviously “too busy to date” 🙄🙄

Tool.

On the train back from my date. ..... he was very effeminate. Very very keen on me and made it completely obvious. He was sweet and we had fun but I really wasn't feeling it. It's a no ...

Anal - exh the alcoholic constantly badgered for it, was very rough during sex due to being pissed, so never did it with him. Have since done it with a very well endowed FWB which was a bit 😳. It's all about trust for me so I will do it with someone I trust so not first time (date)

I think I have a stalker. My phone rang twice today while I was working. I didn't answer because I didn't recognise the number.

This evening someone I was chatting to on the apps gave me his number. I put it in my phone and it showed that he was the one who had called me.

I've asked him to explain how he got my number. But I'm a bit freaked out by it. It is easy to Google me with a bit of info but to call me is a step too far.

Yeah that would freak me out too @MyOldBrainStoppedWorking

Can I ask what the rules are re FWB? Date went well last night and this morning Had a laugh and some great shagging and he stayed over. We have had a few messages back and forth all day just banter that is was a good night but no mention of seeing each other again. I just don’t know how it works? Never done OLD before or casual dating /FWB

Yep that’s v stalkerish getting your number!

mybrain that is very scary!
lifegoes good luck tomorrow. I think it’s a good idea to meet them early in rather than get attached on text to be disappointed when you meet.

Well yes, it's been very interesting hearing your stories on a thread like this.

I have a lot of insight into the world of dating. Although my posts have been completely ignored. Maybe a clue as to why you are single?

He said he just googled me. He must've done quite a lot of digging because it took me a few goes to find my number.

I'm all for Googling a potential date but ringing me before we swapped numbers was out of order. I've blocked his number.
I tried to block him on the app but I had to report why and wasn't sure if it was a good enough reason.

Sounds like a good enough reason for me, OldBrain. Was he trying to make out that Googling someone's phone number is a non issue? Boundaries: total absence of

crackofdoom yes! He said there was no harm done.
I don't know what I would've said if I'd answered his call. Probably nothing very polite!

shit I'd keep ignoring....;)

Place marking. I have been chatting to a guy for a while but just when it sounds like he's about to ask me out he asks for a phone call. Phoning tomorrow. Hoping for the date for the weekend. If he doesn't suggest it. I bloody will. I want to know if it's worth all this chatting 🙈

@ComedyBoobs - so sorry, think we've all been a bit caught up in our latest news. Welcome if you still want to hang around.

I think there he been a few posts that have been ignored, thankyou crack