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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Scotgal Ahh I tend to answer that with something about nice forearms and having that twinkle in their eye. And not being a big fan of cuddling

I might go back on the apps, I enjoy the flirting and I've put my iron in cold storage while I'm too grumpy

@supercali77 so today I took a fresh look and I can see I've been holding back not to play games as such but not to be over keen. We decided to come off WhatsApp so he texted me this morning and it took me till 3:30pm to realise it was a text and not a WhatsApp message - think he was sending me a message that we're not doing WhatsApp hence the no response. I actually like that he did that!! He said in a message "I thought we had binned WhatsApp " so I'm feeling much better.

So bloody hard!!!

So I'm going to chill and admit I'm on the smitten bench 😍😍😍

@midcenturylegs I'm good now thanks xx

Well I've had a shocking evening. I'd pretty much written off ms storm after our meeting, it went well and there was good contact after, but then it sort of faded away. Anyway, get a video call from both a really embarrassed her, and her best friend this evening. Best friend explains that she has only said great things about me since and wants to see me again, but she's unbelievably shy about it. So I speak to ms storm, we arrange a proper date, and since then she's been texting and video calling me all evening! And wants to meet up to chat before our proper date too. Very very very nice surprise :)

My date from today has not messaged me. I sent a “thank you for today, really enjoyed your company and hope we can do it again soon” text and have hear nothing. When I said goodbye earlier he said he would message me later etc..etc....
I’m trying not to over think it, if he doesn’t get in contact then fair enough, at least I had a nice day and had lunch bought for me.

@Lovemusic33
Do you expect another date this week?
I personally wouldn't worry.
I'm sure he will text at some point.

It's always a bit weird after you have a good date rather than a bad or so so one..
You want to progress to date 2 but you have to remember you don't know this person very well.
You have to just get back on with your usual week.

Yes, it’s always a bit awkward, I will just get in with my week and if there’s a 2nd date that would be great. He has lots of spare time at the moment so if he does want a 2nd date I would expect it to be fairly soon.

I got a message, all is good, he wants to see me again and mentioned the kiss.

Fantastic news love, now you can relax

Here's an opportunity to ask me out says shit and wheeeee straight over his thick head. So annoying.

I went window shopping tonight. Same faces, some are starting to look familiar

Simultaneous messages from ExH and iron, nearly awkward moment

Well... so... ms storm just left... 😂😂

Lucky you

Love great news about date 2

shitwith that conversation sounds like 99% of the ones I have. And like most of the dates I have.
I've just said thanks but no thanks to an iron because of his lack of communication. I said I thought we were struggling to find things to chat about. He said he didn't like sending texts!

@lavate it's people who want you to use them for buying you things. My gay pal has done it a few times. Small items. But he finds it weird haha

My fwb thing is going well, he admitted yesterday that he's quite a bit older than his profile says, but as I'm only looking for fwb and he's clear on his profile that's what he's looking for I've decided to let it go, if we were dating he'd be history. He's just what I need to get me past sex being a big deal (I was with my ex a long time from being very young) I've met him twice now, and really surprised myself the second time, lots of fun though, I think he's enjoying being my coach 😁

supercali I'm assuming there's a quid pro quo to this "I buy you stuff, you do..."
If not I'm struggling to see a downside, it's free stuff
It seems an almost inevitable part of OLD that at some point you'll end up spending a couple of hours with somebody thinking "why I am here, how did this happen, he/she sounded lovely when texting". At least this way you go home with presents!

Well curiosity got the better of me🙈turns out he wants to buy me lingerie to wear while I'm with other men then describe our encounter in detail to him
I think I've lived a sheltered life ha!

so today I took a fresh look and I can see I've been holding back not to play games as such but not to be over keen. We decided to come off WhatsApp so he texted me this morning and it took me till 3:30pm to realise it was a text and not a WhatsApp message - think he was sending me a message that we're not doing WhatsApp hence the no response. I actually like that he did that!! He said in a message "I thought we had binned WhatsApp " so I'm feeling much better.

@Focus2019 can I ask why moving from WhatsApp to text is a thing? Genuine question, it's never crossed my mind to move from WA?

@LavateLasManos 🤢🤢🤢
tell him he can buy you pizza to eat with friends and you'll describe that to him instead

@wishywashy6 I'm thinking I should ask for some doughnuts

LavateLasManos I had a bloke how wanted me to date other men and tell him about it, cheapskate didn't offer to but me any new knickers though.

@LavateLasManos that might be more than he could handle 🍩

Morning all :) :) :)