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Dating Thread 146 - Swipe Left Swipe Right

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MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 28/01/2019 12:29

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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WarIsPeace · 07/02/2019 21:34

My new date for tomorrow is confirmed. He's offered to pick me up (I've declined obvs) which was nice, and we've had a bit of banter. So far so good.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 07/02/2019 21:57

Good luck, War, for tomorrow. Been chatting to Mr North and am quite hopeful about him. He's not too far away either, which is a consideration. London is so massive !

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TooOldForThis67 · 07/02/2019 21:58

Call me an old fool if you will.
So MrYoung comes round all eager etc. Then announces it's his mates birthday and he's going out for a few drinks! Oh, but he can come back after. Nice!
Thing is, I could do with a good shag. So, do I stop pretending this could be relationship material and just think of him as a FB?
I'm seeing the phantom zip puller at 10am tomz reeking of sex. I don't know what I'm doing but it's fun.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 07/02/2019 22:01

Nice one Shitwith!

TooOld even FWBs shouldn't take the piss. Does them no harm to be told that's not convenient for you.

Commons3ns3 · 07/02/2019 22:03

hi all, a lurker but very much working on being an OLD dater... I have 2 irons from Match... Mr.,Army and Mr.Police. I also have a real life Mr.Singledad who I have liked a long time and have been playing the long term getting a date (long story).

Saw Mr.SD tonight and gave him shed loads of eye contact and brushing of body parts. Its progress despite sounding sad. The other two irons are slow burners on watsapp. I think Mr Army may be a narc so will get rid of him soon but Mr police is sweet, would meet if he asks.

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WarIsPeace · 07/02/2019 22:15

I'm quite optimistic for tomorrow tbh. I think we quite fancy each other, he's passed the manners and spelling tests with ease, and erm he only lives 10 minutes away Grin
Far enough if it's no good, close enough if it's a goer. Plus he's very Google-able, so no worries on that front.

helpmeoutout · 07/02/2019 22:57

Has anyone mentioned valentine's day to their irons? Blush or planning to spend it with them? Or not bothered whatsoever?

TooOldForThis67 · 07/02/2019 23:28

helpmeout - Interesting thought but no.

I'm having breakfast with MrBE tomz and MrYoung said tonight that he's treating his mate to a birthday breakfast tomz- in the same place!!!! I casually asked what time and he replied, 'oh, we'll get a takeaway'. Oh sh*t. Well, that'll teach me for dating in a small town and for him to leave me hanging tonight!

I'll update tomz. Confused Wink

BatshitCrazyWoman · 08/02/2019 07:59

Just style it out TooOld - Mr Young is just sex ....

I've collected another couple of irons - think one is only talking to me because I live just up the road !!

BatshitCrazyWoman · 08/02/2019 08:19

Sunday's bloody date has just suggested, due to the weather, that 'we get seriously hammered' Hmm Red flag right there for me. It's going to be a short date .... I planned to have coffee Confused

Auba14 · 08/02/2019 08:30

You know BatshitCrazyWoman back years ago when on a first date, it was kinda the done thing for me to go to the pub and get hammered! Looking back now it was evidently weird as now I'm dating again and my date suggested coffee I had this amazement - like is this what people actually do now?!

My best first date, we went out in a university city, it was meant to be one drink, turned into six hours and a discussion about all the Maeve Binchy books in the local Lloyds bar! I remember lying awake at 3am thinking how much I really liked her after one drunken kiss. We ended up in a two year relationship and living together and I have nothing bad to say - we were just at different parts of our lives.

But now, five years on it all seems to have changed and people believe a coffee date is sort of the done thing for a first date or at least something very quick. I don't even drink now, so that type of date would be out. Annnnd I'm rambling, but things do seem to have changed over the years!

BatshitCrazyWoman · 08/02/2019 08:34

My ex husband is an alcoholic so I don't care if it's the new way to date or not, I don't want to spend time with people who drink a lot or whose entire social life revolves around the pub. Been there, got the t-shirt, the scars and the fucking awful divorce.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 08/02/2019 08:36

He's apologised (I said I wasn't a big drinker so if that was an issue for him we should cancel) He said it was a joke. I told him about exh - wouldn't normally this early on. I don't want him to think I'm uptight as I'm absolutely the opposite 😂

Eesha · 08/02/2019 08:40

@BatshitCrazyWoman my ex is an alcoholic too and I'd feel exactly the same as you

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MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 08/02/2019 08:52

Think I'm getting old! I would never get drunk on a first or even second date. Partly because I'm always driving but also because I want to stay in control.

shitwith good luck. I looked at Fab swingers but ran away quickly when i got inundated with messages. Might have another try when I feel braver.

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BatshitCrazyWoman · 08/02/2019 08:52

Just go with it Shitwith and good luck!

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MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 08/02/2019 08:53

I've done dates in lycra before.
The men don't seem to have a problem with it Smile

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BatshitCrazyWoman · 08/02/2019 09:03

Fingers crossed for you shit I used to wish men on dating apps were like the ones on Fab....

Lovemusic33 · 08/02/2019 09:12

I’m meeting Mr South African in a bit, decided to go through with it, woke up feeling rough and I’m meant to be meeting him for breakfast, he just messaged me to say he’s looking forward to a fry up 🤢, I’m not sure I can even look at a fry up. I can see this date being a disaster. I should have cancelled but too late now.

Lovemusic33 · 08/02/2019 09:14

Shit I find these sites much easier, everyone knows what they are in there for, people seem to be more honest and most are really nice friendly people. More people should try it. Hope all goes well x